I didn't say you couldn't. I literally said that ascribing your health to your size is by definition fat phobic. Size is not a determinant of health. And it really should make you think twice that if you get off on people being unhealthy by your own definition why you want that. Couldn't possibly be that there is a superiority complex where fat people are inferior right?

In your first post you didn't say that you had all these other medical conditions, you said that you were healthy size and that was it. People get high blood pressure and severe depression and all sorts of other things whether or not they are fat. So was it really the fat make you unhealthy?

A majority of fat fetishists (*particularly* ones who have never been fat) are inherently fatphobic and/or center their fetish around it. So yeah. The parallels aren't remotely surprising because any fat person in could tell you that we experience it all the time *in the community*

Using the term "healthy sized" is actually fatphobic. Size is not determinant of health.

Y'all I'm begging you to look into this and start understanding just how insidious fatphobia is. It making your no-nos all happy doesn't mean you aren't fatphobic internally or externally. Honestly a LOT of the stuff involved in this kink is inherently fatphobic (and that's a discussion for another day about how we safely engage in that without causing further harm because it can be done!)

I don't know how to make it more clear: fatness was used as an *object* to process one's internalized homophobia. That means the movie sends the message that being fat is bad and only a sign of self-hatred and that the fat person is not worth being seen (the main character teaches on Zoom with his face obscured). His family is awful to him. It literally demonstrates that being cruel to a fat person "for their own good" is warranted. I'm not sure how much clearer it can be.

The point is that the story itself it fatphobic. Eg that fatness is equal to internalized self hatred. It's irredeemably bad.

It is *horrifically* fatphobic. The writer uses a fat person as a analogy to processing internalized homophobia. The story is a guy eating himself to death because he lost his partner. In the end the "whale" is shown as thin and happy.

Even just using a fat suit on a non-fat actor is inexcusably fatphobic.

It's awful.

You can make it a video and still put it on da. There are a few audio makers that do that.

Otherwise your best bet is Twitter depending on the length or downloadable platforms like gumroad etc

Honestly, take a lot of what they say with a grain of salt. Of course people who truly are just comfortable as they are exist in public and are also members here, but many aren't even if they say they do. There's nothing wrong with either of them.

The key is to work on your internalized fatphobia and insecurities that get intertwined with it. Our culture is *HORRIBLE* to fat people (and quite frankly many fetishists are also). The fact that you don't feel as confident as others in public is a reflection of that, not of you.

Even the concept of being "confident" in ones body, as a fat person, is fatphobic (we certainly don't often describe thin people that way, do we? or someone with a new haircut? not with the same meaning, at least!).

"Acceptance" is a better word and a more attainable goal - permission to just exist as a fat person. That your body is just what it is and there's nothing wrong with yours or anyone else's.

When you accept that you have permission to just exist as you are, and are able to give yourself that love and space because you *know* you deserve it, that natural, non-kinky, non-fatphobia-centric confidence will arise naturally.

The best part is that you already have it! It's not something you're missing. It exists in all of us. It just takes a lot of healing and granting ourselves permission regardless of society's approval standards are to access it.

I met someone who very well could have been. Unfortunately I was deeply betrayed. So I'm indifferent at best to finding a life partner here or really anywhere. But I'm definitely still interested in making friends and play partners and overall being part of the community.

What a way to contradict yourself. It is a lot more than simple diet that affects anyone's weight whether surplus or deficit. If you understand the pressures of someone's decision either way, then you certainly know that the determinant of whether or not someone is "naturally" large have a lot less to do with their food intake and a lot more to do with where they live, the policy that affects their daily life, their income, hereditary conditions and other genetic causes, and a multitude of other marginalizations or circumstances.

Also "religion" doesn't mean just one. Not all religions view gluttony as a sin.

You are not the center of the universe or have any of the answers. Get a grip.

I have serious doubts it's satire. Yikes.