I think 90% of us feel frustration when it comes to dating at some time.
I had been on dating sites but usually when guys learned I was fat and didn't mind being fat they lost interest and thats OK .
I'm old school when it comes to dating so pretty much blah for most people with a kink.
Not being gay myself I know lots of gay men but those guys are really fussy about who they date.
Far more than a woman honestly.
I do hope you find someone because you deserve to be happy

It can't be that hard to find people to date in your area.
You just have to put yourself out there and meet people.
Be open about what you are into.
That may scare some off but you just might find someone real not a profile on some kink website.
Your match isn't going to come to you so you will have to find them.

Any social network is like that so don't get discouraged.
The main thing is don't take it so personally its the internet after all.
Now don't take this personally as a put down but maybe you need step back and look what image you are sending.
If you complain a lot about the site or about not finding anyone people will look at you as a person that will never be satisfied.
If they never respond well you don't want to be friends with them anyway.
You can't force people to like you.
I never came here looking to hook up with anyone just make a few friends to chat with.
No expectations really.
I have met some nice people on here and have met some in real life and dated some that were local to me.
One tip is be friendly not pushy and demanding.

Not sure but I'm sure its over 50 these days.

Good for you !!
Making yourself happy is always a great idea

Not sure what kind of relationship you are looking for.
On line or in real life you need to be specific.
I never came here to find a relationship but I have met some really nice people on this site over the 13 or so years I have been here.
Met some in person as well.

You have been here 3 days so that is one factor.
No pics in your profile is another.
Comment in forums if that forum interests you.
Put yourself out there and don't expect people to come to you.

Won what exactly?

Its pretty common so you are not alone.
Just let go and indulge and if you gain a little and see how you like it.
I did that in the beginning more as a spite thing because my marriage wasn't working too well and I knew me getting fat would piss my husband off.

Its a common question but the answer is no.
As you gain your body and genetics pretty much decide where you gain.
If you have fat parents or an aunt maybe there is a better chance your body shape will look like them but thats not guaranteed.
My Aunt and I are the heaviest in the family and our body shape is quite similar.
Big butt, big belly and wide hips.
If you are trans and on HRT I'm sure there will be some fat distribution changes.