I consider that a big win. The best diet wins is when you let her roam like a free range chick, and still she gains.

Mine is on Lyrica and it's been a god send. I have no idea how much weight gain I can ascribe to the meds, it's a not uncommon but still more rare side effect, but to HER the weight gain comes from the meds, NOT from the bag of chips + ice cream + pudding dessert + 4th meal of the day. How much so? So much so that sometimes she says she wants to go OFF the meds to lose weight......

"Food funerals" are a powerful tool by the way. Helping to research diets, and finding diets that cut out whole food groups/meals, is helpful. Before putting her on a keto "diet" (low car, mine went bonkers on having her "last" box of cookies and her "last" bags of chips

Oh, and it really helps ME to let her go on an unattended, non-sabotaged diet every now and then. Makes me feel less guilty when she complains about her weight and feels down about it. If you'd want it, you'd go for it......

Inexpensive & bulk? You're talking carbs. Pasta, rice, chips, anything made out of simple flour.

I like how you're thinking; very recognizable.

When we met, supper was her last food of the day. It took literally years to teach her it's OK to eat after that.

Since a long time now, I've made the bed room a food zone as well. That, too, took quite some work to normalize it. Now she can't imagine an evening of "just" going to bed. She usually will have at least half a bag of chips, some soda.

I do all the groceries, so ....

A very succesful strategy I've used to habituate her to snacking is making meal times random, have them float throughout the day. Sometimes I skip breakfast, another time supper. Or supper will be 1-2 hours late. It seems to offset her internal eating clock. Nowadays she often has four meals, asking for food late in the evening.



Sounds like we're in the same game of maniplating the factors in our favor, and enabling their (over)eating

On the bandwagon here. Get bags of frozen veggies, dump 1-2 hand full in a meal, blast in microwave.

No-fuzz salads too. Rip up a few leaves of romaine, add whatever else you want, like tomatoes, dump in a can of tuna, add 2 tablespoons of mayo. A nice 300-400 calories salad.

Pasta is perfect to mix frozen veggies in. Get a bag of frozen spaghetti veggies, add liberally.

Smoothies. Yogurt, some fruit juice, bunch of fruit (frozen is good and cheap). Maybe some cream. Bonus points: liquid calories don't make it to the brain, so even though you can quickly do 500-700 calories, your brain thinks you just drank volume

Definitely is!

Measuring mine is a no-no. That makes her too self-conscious and prompts a diet attempt. Which is OK too; diets create hunger and the yo-yo effect

I think I like BBW, visually speaking. But as I enjoy the feeding/encouraging/enabling aspect a lot, I'm not sure I wouldn't also be excited by continued weight gain.

On the practical level; no. I know that my target isn't into gaining for herself and 300+ would just start to bring many physical issues.

250-260 sounds good to me

Ha!

What's annoying is water weight. My target tends to retain quite some water after certain meals, and then my calories vs weight prediction can be severely off

thanks!

Hi igor!

Yup, puzzling/surprising kink to find yourself in. Through enabling you can have a LOT of fun with accidental gaining too

With opening up with my wife I've noticed liking big is in the OK area, even when your partner isn't. Liking to see them eat, or the whole feeding thing, that's a whole different ballgame.