WitchyMcFottykins wrote:
I think that for me, in my mind, a feeder/feedee relationship is only a small piece of a much deeper and more meaningful relationship, a deep caring relationship between a couple has to exist first and a very deep level of emotional security in each other and trust in each other has to be there first, I see the feeding aspect of the relationship as being something that is a shared experience that can bring a couple closer and give a deep level of intimacy and trust with each other, I have a view of feeding though that it should be an intimate, erotic, sensual shared experience with someone who cares deeply about the needs and wants of the other and in that situation I can't see one just throwing the other aside once they've gotten fatter, I see quite the opposite, yes the fetish is still there and yes it always will be but its a shared part of their relationship that made them closer and stronger and it can still be indulged in even when not actively gaining simply by occasional stuffings and feedings, they don't have to be all the time, it can be a part and piece of the sexual relationship but not the focus of it and I see a relationship where they shared a feeding experience and became closer from it as one that is much stronger and far less likely to fall apart simply because one no longer wants to gain instead they maintain a strong deep emotional bond and connection
I agree totally with this..
I never have been aware that I had feederistic feelings when I was in highschool. I just fancied the bigger girls in school or in a club.
Now I'm married for almost 15 years, and my wife was gaining slightly unintensionally, she enjoying her food. I always enjoyed that fact in silence, although she knew I liked bigger women more than the skinnier ones. When internet came into our lives (yes, I'm that old... lol) I discovered that feeding actually exists, but I never thought it would become reality in my live, I always thought it would stay a fantasy. She has always know that I'm on this site and on a dutch bbw-site. We also visited sometimes together some bbw-parties.
This fall being married for 14,5 years, we had a long, caring and loving nightly talk, about my fantasies and her love for food. Since that night, she's eating more, enjoying her food, and she claims the "side-effects" are there for me. I agree with that and it makes it even better, when she asks in late evening to make a fattening shake or serve her some donuts...
It now is a part of our relationship, but off-course there is much more loving and caring in a relationship that the feeder/foodee part. Off-course we have to stop when healthproblems appear. And off-course we have to stop when she's not feeling happy with it anymore. That is why we zet short goals. Just to have these moments to discuss, how she is feeling. We didn't have that moment yet, because we started only a short time ago.
Going back to the original question, feederism is a part of the lovelife and never the obsession, it just deepened our relation...
