Sex advice for an insecure fat virgin woman

Milhause:
The first time can be daunting but here are some things I wish someone had told me. Take it slow. Be open and communicative about what feels good and what doesn’t. If a position isn’t working, don’t be afraid to suggest switching things up. It’s okay to take breaks. The best sex I’ve ever had involved laughter, because sex includes a lot of weird noises, smells and other things.

As for the confidence issue, consider the following: we are rarely our own “type.” I’ve been with my partner for almost 10 years and when I look in the mirror I STILL think ‘Wouldn’t she prefer a tall guy? Or if I were more muscular?’ And yet, I’m her type. Physically, she’s apple shaped with a big tummy and she used to roll her eyes when I’d say she’s my exact type, but she IS. 10/10 times I will find her to be the most beautiful woman in any room she’s in. It’s difficult to believe that other people would find us attractive when all we see are our perceived flaws. But for someone else, they just see all the things they like.

IHatedMyFatBody:
Do people ever had sex while feeling they look ugly ? I know my boyfriend finds me gorgeous but I don't see what he sees. If I wait until I feel pretty while naked to have sex, I may die a virgin.


That happens all the time. I think of myself as a very attractive person, but some days I think I look like shit. Maybe I'm bloated or broke out in hives or something. I'll want to cover up or something, but every time, my partner will look at me like I am the most attractive woman in the world.

And to him, I am. I could be sleep-deprived, sick, with wicked bed-head, and scruffy PJs. Still, he looks at me and says things like "You're so beautiful. I can't get enough of you. You're the best I've ever had." I might still feel insecure, but it's hard to stay that way when the man I love treats me like this.
10 months

Feederism topics you miss in stories

Enas:
I actually havent seen any story that experiments with a feeder (Id prefer a female one) that acts in a combination of (or uproach something that feels like) a combination of genuine affection but also genuine.... abuse, of some kind? Like, the feeder actively fattening the feedee against their will.

I tried to write a story like this (you can actually read its first chapter on my profile) and it went into a really interesting direction. What you can do, can be for example, if the feeder is in a group of people that needs something desperately (which in the context of the story justifies the "abuse" towards the feedee, of making them fatten up against their will, but simultaniously the specific person who fattens them up does have empathy towards that person. And so they try to show affection on them that on one hand eases the pain of the abuse but on the other hand works, in some limited degree, as coersion. For example the feeder (especially if theyre a sexy looking woman) could bribe the feedee with intense sexual pleasure if they keep eating and gaining. And i think this could take a genuine form because the abuse isnt simply because the person is abusive, but something external causes them desperation which turns into abuse. The contradiction between the kindness and the abuse can also be a psychological burden of the feeder, that will be torturing them.

The problem with this, which is also what fascinates me the most (yes it does make me horny AF but as a concept, mechanically, it fascinates me a lot) is that it will be difficult to have the abuse being genuine. In the sense that if the feedee comes to want it, from that point on its automatically not abuse.

Im really curious what youll think of that!


It's really emotionally draining to write shit like that. That's why you don't see stories like that.

When you write, you develop a deep connection with what you write. You have to think about it, imagine it, hammer out the details, and revisit details if you are making a longer work.

I don't think you appreciation what a big ask this is. You are asking him to put himself in the mind of an abuser and her victim but make the victim like it. Sure, some people are down to clown, but most are not.
10 months

Feederism topics you miss in stories

FattMatt:
I’m getting back to writing and I’m curious. Is there something or a scenario you haven’t seen used a lot in stories? We all know the feederism scenarios that have been milked way to much. Give me some idea’s!


I just want stories where women are written well. I die every time I see a 5'7" 120 lbs woman as fat, D cups as nearly flat, B cups as huge, and 300 lbs as immobile.

That said, you could write a story where gluttony is a sport. Imagine gluttony competitions. You could compete based on how much you calorie challenges, capacity challenges, how fat you can get, etc.
10 months

Sex advice for an insecure fat virgin woman

IHatedMyFatBody:
I met my first boyfriend in January of 2024. He is a tall fit man. I was ranging from 340 lb to 380 lb at 5 ' 6. I'm an apple-shaped woman. He's my first date, my first boyfriend, and my first kiss. My self-esteem has climbed since dating him. I don't feel extremely ugly around him anymore. In March, he confessed to me that I was his exactly his type, both personality and physically.


But my confidence hasn't climbed enough to feel comfortable being naked in front of him yet. Pot belly, love handles, back fat, flabby arms, saggy tits, cellulite, and stretch marks. It's also for me to imagine how to physically perform with act of sex with my body, especially my pot belly. Any advice is welcomed.


Talk to him. Tell him you want to have sex with him, but you feel very insecure about your body. The two of you can brainstorm what will work best for you.
10 months

Feeder girls?

Tomi20:
I have been looking for a while for a woman who wants a swallowing pig and who will witness a great physical change.

Munchies:
Unfortunately, we lost all the female feeders in the incident. It was very sad.

Tomi20:
In what incident?

Munchies:
The incident where all the female feeders just vanished. There haven't been any since. It's so sad.

Rotund:
Ahhh that incident I've heard everything about this incident (I have been MIA for months and no idea what is going)


10 months

Starting out

Iwantrolls:
Thank you. Good advice. Hopefully I don’t plateau for a while.


Plateauing isn't necessarily a bad thing. It gives you time to adjust, heal, and prepare for the next stage of your gains.

It's all about perspective.
10 months