Getting rid of internalized fatphobia? :(

OinkOinkPiggy:
I find myself thinking mean things about my body and worrying that others think I smell etc. even though I shower pretty thoroughly. I feel like my face looks like a bowl of butterscotch pudding and sometimes I get really upset that I never had the chance to be conventionally attractive due to medication-related weight gain.

How do I stop putting myself down and embrace my chunky figure?


It starts off small. You find little things to like about yourself here and there. Maybe you end up cutting fatphobic people out of your life or at least putting up boundaries. Surround yourself with people and media that uplift you.

You'll have your good days and bad days. The road to self-love isn't a straight path. But, in time, you start to be happy with the image staring back at you in the mirror.
10 months

Did any of your school's girls became heavy office workers?

Morbidly A Beast:
it seems to me like they think fat people can’t be or aren’t pretty/handsome, or think that getting fat is “giving up” — like nah we’re hot af and totally not given up lol maybe given up trying to appease fatphobic buttholes lol

Munchies:
Very, very true. Even outside of this fetish, fat people are sexy.

BigBallBellyGirl:
I'm 100 percent more confident at my current weight than I was under 200. I care for my hair, skin, and makeup, and my fiance loves every bulge and curve. I hate the idea that the best revenge on the "hot, mean girl" from high school is weight gain, as though obesity is some terrible fate.


Yeah. Especially since a lot of those hot mea girls were either going through something at the time or weren't actually mean. I've seen guys label pretty girls and women as mean even though they were actually rejecting creeps. Sometimes they weren't even mean about it!

I much prefer stories of people finding liberation in weight gain. Finding joy outside of societal norms without bashing women.

And on that note, the ideal of bookish nerdy women being less attractive than sporty women is sooooo childish. They are equally attractive. You can also be both.

I'm a sporty nerd, and I've never been seen as less than for my bookishness. In fact, when men try to humble me irl and online, my intelligence is my greatest defence.
10 months

Did any of your school's girls became heavy office workers?

Morbidly A Beast:
it seems to me like they think fat people can’t be or aren’t pretty/handsome, or think that getting fat is “giving up” — like nah we’re hot af and totally not given up lol maybe given up trying to appease fatphobic buttholes lol


Very, very true. Even outside of this fetish, fat people are sexy.
10 months

Did any of your school's girls became heavy office workers?

Morbidly A Beast:
i don’t care about your thing with the sister fetish or whatever it’s kinda weird but what got me to respond was the “have you ever seen a pretty girl get fat and gross smelly nerd” vibe it’s gross to my sensibilities as a fat person also just the whole thing about them being minors triggered me


I am not sure if OP was talking about minors or not. It's a bit of a Shrodinger's ephebophile. The teenager is both a minor and of age.

That said, you bring up a very good point about the other part. I've noticed this a lot in many of OPs posts, but he's hardly the only one guilty of this. But there's a sizable chunk of feedists (especially feeders and FAs) that see getting fat as some kind of failure. It's like "Look at this person that fits into society's view of success. I want to humble that person by making them 'undesirable'."

It's this special flavor of fatphobia and misogyny that makes it extra icky.
10 months

Advice

Ferro1987:
I need some advice from fellow gluttons. I’ve reached a point with my stomach’s capacity that despite packing as much food in my lunch as possible it takes me the full hour I have to eat it all, and I’m not satisfied. I’m left wanting more. It’s a balanced meal and not just junk, which I prefer because I want to live this lifestyle for as long as possible, but I’m hoping for some advice on how to make the most of the hour I have to sate my appetite in the middle of the day.


How much liquid are you consuming? Sometimes, your brain interprets thirst as hunger. Try getting something to drink - whatever you like - after a meal. You can also use it to increase your capacity.

That said, the trick is to take your time drinking. It will keep you from hurting yourself and your brain wiññ better register what's happening.
10 months

Time away/jeans

MickRidem:
Hey all. 2023 was pretty bad for me, some big and extremely stressful/scary things happened that kind of mentally shut me down aside from surviving day to day. Those events made my blood pressure skyrocket, blood sugar wonky, and I simultaneously LOST weight. *facepalm*

Things have since calmed down, therapy helped immensely, and I'm still under my doc's watchful eye a little longer. Something about *health*... UGH. 🤣 But I don't LOOK thinner at all, measurements are all pretty much the same. (I'm 5'4" so all weight on/off is usually very apparent.)

So I haven't gained back what I lost, but I put a *few* pounds back on. And by a few I mean literally 3. LOL! I went through stints of immersing myself in the fetish on multiple platforms and apps, and then nothing for a while needing mental healing time. I hope this year treats us all better. 😁

Before the holiday, I split the crotch of a pair of jeans. 😳☺ I crouch to the floor at work a lot. Haha! I bought 2 pairs of jeans pre-covid, and I'm bigger now than when I bought them, but because they're stretchy they never *felt* tight. This past week? Yup, the other pair split, same spot, same action. Thinner material? Too many washes? Denial much? Haha!

But I'm smaller than my heaviest when I wore them the past couple of years. Maybe I had some muscle loss and fat gain? Maybe they just gave up the ghost? I bought 2 new pairs this week, different brands, one and two sizes up. Wow, what a difference. 🤣

A funny little side story... a couple of friend coworkers know I'm happier being bigger. (No fetish stuff.) One day someone brought in boxes of doughnuts to share. I said something about not having enough breakfast that day. Friend of mine stressed the word YOU and not NEED when he said, "It's not like YOU need an excuse!" 🤣🥰

I love being fat. 😁


Hello friend. I'm happy to see you're back. I'm sorry that 2023 was such a shitty year for you. Here's to 2024 being kinder.

Stay safe and feel better soon.
10 months

Did any of your school's girls became heavy office workers?

Munchies:
I'm not saying you are right or wrong. I'm saying that I don't believe you at all.

Letters And Numbers:
Does it matter? The word fantasy is in the url.

Munchies:
There's a difference between fantasy and misleading people. If you are going to publicly fantasize about something, at least have the balls to admit it.

Does it matter that he's disrespecting and degrading his wife and her sister in front of strangers? Idk. You tell me.

Newenglander:
How is it disrespect when every party involved is an ADULT and WILLING PARTICIPANT?

Do some of you folks skip words when reading?

This is a fat fetish discussion board. Yes the site also deals in fantasies, but this is about three adults consenting to a particular real-life situation.

Would you be as openly hostile to reading about the lead up to a threesome involving all strangers, or an arrangement involving people of a different sexual orientation or gender identity than yours?


I have nothing against having a polyamorous arraignment. I'm ambiamorous myself and have been in open relationships.

Gender and sexual orientation are not issues for me either.

The issue, and the only issue, is that you have eyes on her sister. And I also struggle to believe that anyone regardless of age, gender, sexual orientation, ethnicity, or creed be okay with a spouse having a sexual or romantic relationship with their sibling. The bond between siblings is a special one. And no matter how close you are, the moment you throw sex in there, it falls apart.
10 months

Did any of your school's girls became heavy office workers?

Morbidly A Beast:
this thread is kinda yucky like yall talking about children’s im kinda grossed out by the site rn fr fr

Newenglander:
Who's talking about children in this thread?


I think he's talking about OP's post. The initial post compares a 12th grader to herself as an adult. 12th graders can be 17 or 18. So there is a non-zero chance OP is talking about minors.
10 months

Did any of your school's girls became heavy office workers?

Munchies:
I'm not saying you are right or wrong. I'm saying that I don't believe you at all.

Letters And Numbers:
Does it matter? The word fantasy is in the url.


There's a difference between fantasy and misleading people. If you are going to publicly fantasize about something, at least have the balls to admit it.

Does it matter that he's disrespecting and degrading his wife and her sister in front of strangers? Idk. You tell me.
10 months

Did any of your school's girls became heavy office workers?

Newenglander:
My SIL was a thick and sporty cheerleader in her teens, think one of those who hold up the bottom of the pyramid. Neither fat nor skinny. From HS through her early 20s, she used to work out and had some definition.

Fast forward to her mid-20s. Nearly 300 lbs on a 5'2" frame, the product of sedentary work and pure gluttony. This girl got wide with soft, thick back rolls and huge belly. I love how her flat ass has a thick mound of fat at the top which comes around and integrates with her apron. Her thighs filled out as well, flabby and loaded with cellulite.

When she comes to visit, she usually hits me up for back rubs. Nothing new from before her gain, this has been going on for years, however the rubs have become more fat rub than back rub over time.

The last time, my wife was busy cooking so she laid on the bed and asked me to rub her. I got carried away squeezing and caressing her side rolls and the lower back fat above her ass for about an hour. While there was no discussion whatsoever, she knew what I was doing and absolutely loved it.

As time goes on, my SIL has also been greeting me with tighter hugs, deliberately pressing her belly into me. Not long ago I squeezed her in a bear hug, picked her up, and spun her around just to be silly. It was as well received as it was unexpected, she was all smiles for a while after I put her down.

Munchies:
Man, do I feel bad for your wife. If I found out my husband was lusting over my sister, I'd end up with major trust issues. That's one of the worst betrayals out there.

Newenglander:
You're making the wrong assumption that my wife isn't a willing participant.

Munchies:


So, you're saying your wife is 100% okay with you sexualizing and fetishizing her sister? And that she is 100% aware that's what you're doing?

Okay.

Newenglander:
Did I mince words? Is this not a fat fetish site?

I frequently see content on this site with which I disagree, however I remain respectful of the fact that others have different kinks.

We're all adults here, let's behave like such.


I'm not saying you are right or wrong. I'm saying that I don't believe you at all.
10 months