Work on that!

Awesome! I recommend ice cream!

Good question, but one thing at a time!

anonymizleness -- Did you ever try this experiment?

Just playing with this idea...if anyone has any comments or proposed refinements or different names for any of the stages, please let me know!

skinny -- flat or concave unless you've eaten a lot

normal -- it might stick out a bit but not enough to make a fuss over unless you're a high fashion model.

starter -- sticks out even when empty but you can still suck it in.

plump -- not a "brusher" yet but you can't suck it in anymore.

brusher -- brushes against your thighs when you sit down.

sitter -- sits in your lap when you sit down.

commander -- when it's on your lap, goes out past your knees.

Anything with alcohol is good if you combine it with fatty foods. Your liver gets busy on the alcohol and the fat gets stored as fat.

Just what we need, an anti-fat book for children!

abcnews.go.com/Health/maggie-diet-author-paul-kramer-defends-teen-dieting/story

The funny part: The author of this book looks pretty chunky himself.

I love how that's ten pounds more than it says on your dating profile. Been busy?

The "Evil Feeder" fantasy: The Evil Feeder kidnaps you, takes you to his secret lair, and makes you really fat. (His techniques may vary: force feeding, punishing you if you don't eat enough, or just tempting you with too many goodies to resist). You can't leave...you have to get huge. But at least it's not your fault...it's all EF's fault. And no one will see how fat you get. And you can eat all you want, of whatever you want.

How many of you have had this fantasy?

(Of course I would never become an evil feeder myself...too many legal, moral, and practical difficulties! I'm just curious how many people have this fantasy.)

I got a letter on this topic a while back:



Dear Dr. Feeder,
My name is Amanda. Last year I began university, and because of this had to move away from home onto campus. One thing I had promised myself to do when I moved out of home was to gain weight. Since moving onto Campus I have just let myself go completely, and as a result gained 50lbs. However, this summer I will be visiting my mother back home whom is very into healthy eating, and so forth. Let me say right now that I am not loosing any weight whatsoever for her, nor do I intend to stop. But, I do not know what to say to her to avoid her from being too upset.
What can I say to prevent her from being too angry?--Amanda

Dear Amanda,
You may not be able to keep her from being angry. Settle for keeping her from nagging you to death. Try:

1. If she gets angry, DON'T get angry yourself.
2. If she asks why you gained, say it's because you like to eat and don't mind the extra weight.
3. If she asks you why you don't diet, say you've tried diets and have found you're happier eating what you want.
4. If she makes a comment about your weight that is not in the form of a question, don't respond.
5. If she says something mean, say "Now you're just being mean."

And remember the three NEVERs:

NEVER apologize for your gain;
NEVER apologize for your size;
NEVER apologize for your appetite.

If she tries to get you to eat healthy food (fruit & vegetables, etc.) go ahead and eat it. It will make her feel better. You can still eat your favorite goodies as well.
If she won't shut up about it, say 'look, I know you're just saying all this because you love me and you want what's best for me, and I appreciate that, but it's my decision and you need to respect that.'
Let me know how it goes!--Dr. Feeder


Dear Dr. Feeder,
Sorry for the long reply period, I only flew in a couple of days ago. As you can imagine, it wasn't great at all. But surprisingly I didn't feel down about it whatsoever! When I first gave my mother a hug, she put her hand on my stomach and patted and squeezed it, constantly glancing down at it. It was horribly awkward. For some reason I expected that would be it. Later that night she gave me a brief "discussion" about my weight and asked me if anything was wrong and so forth. I explained to her exactly what you suggested, that I was happy the way I was and didn't feel the need to diet. Amazingly though, that was it!
Thankfully, she hasn't said anything else yet about my weight which I'm very pleased with. Thank-you so much for your help - the food here is quite healthy, so for that reason I'm looking forward to returning home where I can eat what I like.
Again, thank-you so much for the wonderful advice,--Amanda