Morbidly A Beast:
I feel like intensity comes and goes so often for me for this fetish, I am just a vanilla fat person a majority of the time but there’s some times where I’m completely head over heels and wanna be like 900 lbs as soon as possible and be stuffed to the rafters every meal

I’m not sure if a feeder has the same mentality or not, I don’t relate to that side of at all. Obviously our horny is a bit different than vanilla horny but I’m talking about extended periods of time

JerichoXOXO:
If you're a feeder what was the first thing you hand-fed someone? If you're a feedee what was the first thing you were hand-fed? My fiancé and I agree mutual gaining is so cute even if we're not tryna dive deep just yet so the first thing I was hand-fed was chocolate chip cookies and the first thing I hand-fed them were Swiss rolls ♡

Munchies:
The first thing I ever hand-fed to someone was a rice crispy treat. I had ordered a browned butter rice crispy treat when I went with my feedee to a cafe. He'd never had one before and asked if he could try some.

So I, good feeder that I am, tore off a piece and popped it into his mouth in front of everyone. He got shy, so I tore him off a larger chunk and let him eat it himself.

10/10 will do again.

JerichoXOXO:
Omg yummmm rice crispy treats are so good! Very cute ♡

JerichoXOXO:
If you're a feeder what was the first thing you hand-fed someone? If you're a feedee what was the first thing you were hand-fed? My fiancé and I agree mutual gaining is so cute even if we're not tryna dive deep just yet so the first thing I was hand-fed was chocolate chip cookies and the first thing I hand-fed them were Swiss rolls ♡

Glitter Jelly:
Today I was in a shop where they sell small outdoor tables with chairs.

I don't know why, but I suddenly could swear the man who had been sitting there by himself had been staring at me, watching me while I shopped.

I discreetly glanced at him and, sure enough, the moment my eyes caught his gaze it confirmed my impression: he was looking back at me... and smiling.

Uncomfortable, I quickly walked to another aisle to get away from him.

I have tattoos and blue-purple hair, used to wear bold clothing when I was thin and confident so I'm used to people looking at me and either enjoyed it or didn't care.

That felt different... almost creepy?

I don't know what to think...

Maybe he was an FA and the clothes I was wearing made me look fat?

They were a little snug so maybe they didn't hide my small belly roll as well as I was hoping, but I don't think they were particularly ill fitting...

JerichoXOXO:
Any other nonbinary folk out there love their huge ass but just wish those pesky tits were gone? I'm a 36D/34DD and I feel like I'd be so much more content with my weight and happier to gain!

Munchies:
Been working in the medical field since 2017 and grew up with medical professionals all my life. Imma pop your bubble a lil bit.

Yes, fatphobic doctors are a thing. However, in recent years, the medical industry is working on dismantling medical fatphobia as studies show it decreases patient level of care. And so unless your fatness is causing you major health issues, many of them will not comment on it much if at all.

It's also highly unlikely that your doctor has any kinds of feelings for you outside of finding your pleasant or not. (Fun fact! Your doctor will notate on your medical records if your a nice patient to deal with.) You are more than likely one of several fat men she cares for. She also will probably not risk her medical license do to anything with you for kink purposes.

I do find it curious that you want to mess up your health enough to cause your doctor concern. Because that never ends well for the patient. Unless you are aroused by blood tests, pills, and medical expenses on top of the general pain that comes from high blood pressure.

But you do you, boo ~

Gbutts85:
Thank you for the reply. I appreciate your concern from a medical standpoint. I guess I was approaching the situation from a fantasy standpoint vs firm reality. To be fair, I’m already 395 lbs and have high blood pressure and mild-moderate sleep apnea. No other weight related ailments to speak of. Adding a bit more is probably not going to complicate those too much. I also know that realistically I’ll need to lose some weight to be around for my kids as they grow up.

Munchies:
It's all about finding your balance. Don't get me wrong, we still enjoy stuffing him, but there are also other things we enjoy as well.

For example, instead of stuffing him when he isn't in the mood to be stuffed, I might hand feed him something instead. One time while we were cuddling, I fed him a fancy chocolate bar. Another time, when we were in a cafe, I fed him something from my plate he had never tried before.

Kacchan:
Feeder Foreplay for the win!!!

Gbutts85:
I have a very specific desire. I want to make my primary care doctor mad/concerned with the amount of weight I've gained. To date, she has never seriously addressed my weight. At 395 lbs this is odd, of course. Perhaps she is a closeted FA?

How much do you suppose I'll need to gain in the next 3-4 weeks before my next follow up for my blood pressure/other random health issues? Thinking if I weigh in around 420/425 that should do the trick. Would be my highest ever recorded weight!

Sasha To Be Sexy:
And in "Belly Dance" can you be thin?)

MariRadha:
For paraphilias this might work:
- retraining in a fetish you both like. Replacing one with a new one
- sexual transmutation techniques from yoga were you sublimate your desires and only have sex with your gf
-if all else fails SSRI and other meds lower libido and lower paraphilia urges

Munchies:
When my partner and I were actively fattening him up, I'd say feedism completely enmeshed in our sex lives. So when he wanted to pump the breaks, we had to change up how we did sexy times. Tried new positions and techniques. Really leaned into body exploration as well as getting lost in each other rather than his belly.

He also discovered he really loves making me lost in my pleasure - even at the expense of his own. I'm not complaining.

MariRadha:
Sounds like a much healthier sexuality