What generalizations on this site do people find unfair?

Well said! I'm not surprised by any of it! I think people aren't even aware of the unconscious assumptions they make and it's good to bring it to the surface. :-)

heftyheifer:
For me, it's just that people make assumptions about me before talking to me. This makes me have to do a lot of explaining and it's really annoying.

For example, since I'm a feedee, everyone assumes that I'm actively gaining. I have a feedee fetish and want to be someone's feedee, but that doesn't mean that in the mean time I'm gaining on my own.

People also make false assumptions about why I'm into this. This is just a kink that I'm into. I can't control it. I love the idea of being fed and fat shamed. I'm a feedee because that's my kink. It turns me on whether I like it or not. However, people assume that I'm into this just because I love being fat more than anything, and that's not entirely true.

People also assume that I'm eating. Like, yes, I do eat a lot, but that doesn't mean that I'm stuffing myself 24/7. People will message me and ask me how full I am and things like that, and then they almost act disappointed when I tell them that I'm not at that particular moment.

Also, mutual gaining. If I was into that, I'd put it on my profile. People assume that because I'm a fat girl, I must just constantly fawn over chubby guys. I'm not even as into guys in general, and while I don't mind a guy being bigger and it's not a deal breaker, it's not really what I'm into, and I really shouldn't have to feel bad about it.

Also, people assume that I'm bigger than I am. Like, I'm 5'5" and 310 pounds, so I understand that that sounds pretty huge (and it is). However, people on here will assume that that means things like impaired mobility and stuff like that. It makes me feel the need to exaggerate how big I am when I talk to people on here, when in reality I can actually still run, jump, etc. While it may be more difficult for me to do certain things, for the most part I can still do them.

The last thing, and potentially most annoying thing, is that people assume I'll automatically be into them. Just because I'm a fat girl and my options are limited doesn't mean that I've abandoned all standards. I still like what I like, and I'm still not really into 60 year old men. Like, if you're a senior citizen, I don't mean to be ageist or anything, but you're too old for me.

So, yeah. Kind of a long rant, but I just needed to get these things off my chest because they get really irritating.
8 years

Preggo

LOVE pregnant women!
8 years

What can ff do to make you come here more often?

chubbyhoney:
Personally I really love that the site isn't full of free advertising for web models and think that stating they are web models and where their content is online in their profile is enough - if people want to see their content, they will go to that person's modelling website and look at it.

I see free advertising for web models constantly on other sites and find it really tedious and off-putting. FF not having this is what makes using this site much nicer than the sites which do, for me (and probably anyone else not interested in fat women/paying to look at fat women).

Does everyone want web models to post more advertising, or is it just something that the web models want?


Heavens no! They are easy enough to find if you want them and I'm not interested in following any of them. Allowing them to post a link on their profile is good enough. How many web models make meaningful contributions here? For as long as I've been coming her, I only see them set up profiles or try to post ads and that's it. Maybe I don't pay enough attention or maybe I'm not here often enough but as I understand it, they are usually under contract to other sites and are limited in what they can do elsewhere anyway. I'm sure there is an exception someone can dig up, but in general, that's my take.

As for charging for stories, that would kill the stories. Most people aren't going to pay even a dollar when there are plenty of stories available for free and reading a story is a bit of a crap shoot. You might love it, hate it or somewhere in between. If I want to gamble with a dollar, I'll go to a slot machine where I have a chance of getting it back. :-)

Perhaps the web models that want to advertise here could pay some kind of fee to advertise. That's how advertising works, right? That would reduce the number of ads to just those that are willing to pay. I have nothing against web models and hope they succeed, and realize charging might hinder the new ones. If the web model is new or something maybe a page for newbies or a rotating banner they can all put in on and it's only one advertisement somewhere instead of spam postings....

I agree with whoever said a good rating and tagging system for the stories would be good - something so people had a reasonable idea of what they were reading. I know there are already tags and I use them just fine but perhaps they are too general for others? That could be a whole separate topic for the community to hash out.

I think this dialog is great. I've been coming here for years but how often varies. Sometimes often, sometimes not for awhile. Depends on my mood and what's going on in life.

This site is geared mostly towards the feederism folks - Fantasy Feeder, hello! LOL but maybe there is room to grow other areas that are related but not feeder specific?? General FA? Healthy eating? Resources for larger people? Fat friendly restaurant seating, larger clothing stores, resources for parents who may be raising larger kids... I guess that would change this into a "Fat Lifestyle" type of site and not just Feederism. Maybe those need to be separate? Maybe we'd get too much of the general public here, who would have issues with things like feeding and immobility. Maybe there could be an "adult" section that was the pay portion of the site and a more general site that would appeal to a larger demographic?

If you haven't already, you may need to define what your exact goal is: Just increasing site traffic? Increasing paying memberships? Both? No particular goal and you're just checking with the population for any strong desires? Money is always a factor somewhere. It cost money to run a site like this, even with a volunteer staff. I appreciate the work and effort that goes into it and I have talked to some wonderful people here.

Sorry for the long rambling post. I was brainstorming as I wrote.

CH
9 years

Weight difference between couple

I enjoy seeing the size difference in people - be it two friends or a married couple. I just find it interesting visually.
9 years

Any other lesbians on here?

Growhappy:
Yo~!
I listed myself as bisexual, though I really hate labeling myself. Lately though I've definitely been leaning a lot more toward girls. They're just so perfect 💕


I agree, girls ARE just perfect. :-)
9 years

Why are you on ff??????

Just here to meet like minded people that I can interact with. Finding a life partner would be an awesome bonus, but that's not the primary reason I'm here. :-)
9 years

World of tanks

Haha, what a fun idea. Create a platoon of feeders or fat guys - or girls too if there are any. I don't play this game but maybe I should?
9 years

What were the earliest signs of your fetish?

necannec:.

At ten years old, I think I had a crush on my teacher, who was big. He'd joke about his weight sometimes which made me swoon, and on Valentines Day I gave him a box of chocolates hoping I'd get to see him eat it. I never did.


But you know he did!! LOL
9 years

Pregnant women

Indeed! I love pregnant women as well as the idea of making them pregnant. Love watching them grow... be it from a food baby or a real baby.
9 years

Fat at the mall - suggestions?

Farleysmom:
If you go to the Mall of America, there is a good chance that you will be the fattest person there. It's located near Albert Lea, Minnesota, the "healthiest" town in America. (Don't worry, the food in the mall is awesome. They put mayonnaise on tenderloins.) When I went there in 2008, I weighed about 225 lbs, and I was by far the most overweight person there. Everyone was really nice, even the Bubba Gump employee who had to deal with me being upset that they didn't have women's plus size T-shirts. (I was not a bitch to her, I know it's not her fault, but seriously, Bubba Gump?) I plan to go back with my BHM friend who weighs about 350 and hope that people mistakenly think he's my boyfriend. I'm barely chubby now, and I can eat more than him, and faster, so I'm looking forward to eating in the food court and especially at Bubba Gump's. (Definitely get the fried shrimp!) smiley


Hmmm I've walked around that mall. Good place to people watch. I always keep an eye out for cute chubby girls - or cute chubby people of any age and gender. I don't recall an absence of them or an abundance of them either. Guess I need to back again. :-)
9 years