"flabussy" is a new one! my partner calls mine a "fatgina"

i was a thin, fit guy for most of my life. my penis is average length, 6 inches. when i started to get really fat, like over 300 lbs, i was very nervous that the fat accumulating down there was making it look smaller and smaller.

it was something that really concerned me. when it started to really cover i did get worried about the future of my sex life, and how i would experience that kind of pleasure. plus it was a little embarrassing.

in the last few years, now growing to 450 lbs, my fupa (fat upper pubic area) covers my penis even when it's hard. it is totally buried all the time (unless my partner manually pushed the flab out of the way so she can see and access the head).

unlike the guy you mentioned, i can't get off just by moving my fupa. it would be fun to experience, but it just doesn't work for me. penetrative sex with my partner isn't impossible, but it takes so much effort, it is so awkward, and my stamina isn't want it once was, so it's kind of impractical and not really pleasurable. but we've adapted in numerous ways. i've become more of a "bottom" where penetration is concerned, and oral is great - it's even inspired us to explore new ways to derive pleasure from oral, which has been amazing. lately i have been experimenting with multiple orgasms by avoiding stimulation of the penis.

do i miss being able to fuck the traditional way? sometimes. but this has opened up a whole slew of new experiences i would never have explored if i didn't end up in this position.

i am an aficionado of beer, and it definitely has helped me gain. i try not to overdo it, but it happens occasionally. a couple of beers each night will help put a couple pounds on you, but you won't "blow up," you'd need to consume a lot more beer (or cream - blech!) to gain substantially.

probably not the healthiest strategy, if that's your goal. i drink it because i enjoy it. i do find that when i drink alcohol i tend to eat more, too, which is the bigger impact, i think.

eat dinner. go out to the bar. drink. eat bar food (nachos are a staple). drink more. go home, get burgers on the way home. sleep.

happy birthday fantasy feeder!

i think this is the only resource from that era that is active and still going strong, so well done! dimensions (my first entry point into the community) is still around, but it is a shadow of its former self. whereas ff has grown and added features and improvements it seems dims has retreated into just a piece of forum software.

here's to another 20 years!

my partner (amazingem) found me on wooplus, though that was a couple of years ago now. the good news is we're still together!

i was really fit, maybe 150 lbs, and i knew i was getting fat when i started to see my belly sticking out, all soft... and then i was replacing my pants with a 32" waist with 34"... then 36"... then 40"... and when i stepped on the scale as saw i had passed 200 lbs, i felt like such a fatty!

the shock was so much that my initial reaction was "wow, i have to lose weight!" of course, when i tried, i failed... and i tried and failed one more time when i'd put on another 40 lbs!

now, over 400 lbs, clearly i have accepted my blubber.

ok, so you told your therapist you are unhappy if you exercise and eat well and you suffer from depression as a result. your therapist said, fine, do what makes you happy. now you're upset that your therapist isn't forcing you to eat better and exercise? do you hear the mixed messages you are sending?

it sounds like you want to be "cured" of this fat fetish, so i suggest if you want therapy to be useful, you should talk to them about that. talk about what attracts you to it and why that makes you unhappy.

the drug addict comparison is way off base. being fat is not the same as being a drug addict.

here is another short animated thing from saturday morning tv that has inspired a lot of wg fiction stories, too:

probably my ex-gf. she was about 450 lbs at that time, i was 150 or 160... she gained weight while we were together, but then started to lose.

the funny thing is now, all these years later, i am nearly as big as she was... and she is probably down to 200 lbs now!

i feel this.

i love my lifestyle, i love my sex life, and i am completely happy being a big, fat guy... but honestly i am surprised when i step on the scale that i am still getting heavier. i am getting close to 450 lbs, and while that has an element of excitement to it, being over 400 definitely has added additional struggles that i don't necessarily want to make any more challenging.

food and beer are just so damn good, though!

before i got fat, i had dated fat people and took on the role of feeder in most of my relationships. when you are with fat and growing people over the course of 20+ years, you don't really have to tell people. to most friends and acquaintances they didn't know the kink aspect, but they knew i preferred bigger, fatter partners.
the kink aspect, to me, is personal. it's like, do you casually talk to people about their interest in bondage, or anal sex? i hope not, because for the most part they aren't interested in that and probably don't want to know! that is what these communities are for - we have a shared interest.