Francis808:
Curious to read other peoples experiences & advice on staying positive & true to yourself, when the feederism/ gaining lifestyle is usually frowned upon, how others have delt with negative criticism etc, and still embraceing what we all love.

Munchies:
I take the "I don't care. I do what I want" approach.

Mind you, I only do ethical kink. I like the extreme sides of things, so ethical kink is super important. As such, I know whatever criticism someone has of me are easily ignoreable.

Besides, most of the people in my life are supportive of my choices. The ones that aren't are too afraid of me to be acting a fool.

Piggyobese:
Eating without control

Glitter Jelly:
As I've mentioned before, I've involuntarily gained 20-25 lbs pounds in 2024 (by now it's probably closer to 35-40 but I'm too afraid to step on the scale and face reality).

Knowing myself, if the number is much higher than I expected, I'll spiral deeper into my depression and the suicidal ideations will get even worse than they are right now.

I'm not in denial, however.

Looking in the mirror, I can see my waistline is less defined, the fat pads on my lower back and around my knees are thicker, my thighs and my boobs are bigger (I seldom wear a bra but the last time I couldn't wait to take it by the end of the day)... I'm AFAB but identify as agender so no, this isn't something I'm excited about.

Also, I've noticed that many of the M-L sized clothes I've bought in the last few months to replace my outgrown XS-S wardrobe are much tighter that I like them especially around the waistline and at the legs.

This is all the more concerning to me because I had intentionally bought them larger than necessary in order to feel more comfortable and less self conscious of my fuller figure.

Even at my skinniest (I got down to 90 lbs at the worst of the anorexia relapse), I've always preferred looser clothing as I hate feeling constricted.

Because of my autism and sensory hypersensitivities, I can't tolerate wearing tight clothes so I've increasingly been avoiding wearing most my new wardrobe.

I don't need to dress up in the morning as I've been on sick leave since May 2024 therefore most days I wear whatever I slept in the night before all day long.

I'm a little ashamed to admit it, but whereas I rarely wore longewear outside of the house when I was thinner, lately I've been shipping to the grocery store and droving my boyfriend to his school or workplace in my pyjamas and winter coat (which was much roomier when I got it in November) and I didn't care what people thought of me.

In case you were wondering, they weren't the type of nightwear that could easily be mistaken for actual clothes.

When I bother dressing up, I always reach for the loosest ones I own, usually sweatpants and hoodies. I know these habits aren't helping my weight loss because that's how I unknowingly got fatter in the first place...

It's only when I have to dress up for special occasions (like my friend's funeral in August or Christmas) that I can fully appreciate how much fatter I am now.

I'm definitely not thin anymore, I'm chubby and on my way to becoming fat. Unless I do something drastic like cut all sugars (including fruits and sweet vegetables) and starches from my diet, soon enough I'll be obese like I was before.

In August or September I tried the pretty dress I wore last year at my boyfriend's parents Christmas dinner and I was mortified when I couldn't zip it all the way up and it was obviously too small for me. I wouldn't dare trying it on today, the zip probably wouldn't go more than halfway up.

I hate myself for letting myself go like that... I fooled myself into believing a few chocolate bars, cookies and pastries wouldn't make me fat but after so many years of severe restriction and clean eating my metabolism is extremely slow and my body has been holding on to every extra calorie I fed it.

SumoSized:
Gaining weight isn't the end of the world, I know it's not what you want but you can still change that, and you can still look good no matter what size you are.
It's okay if you need to buy more clothes at a size that is more comfortable for you now. It may actually help your body dysmorphia if your clothes aren't as tight on you.
If you're looking to lose weight I'd be careful about cutting all sugars as that can't be dangerous for your body and could result in slowing your metabolism all the way to a halt. I'd recommend using a tdee calculator to see how many calories your body burns in a day and try to eat just under that. That way you can lose weight at a decent pace without having to cut out the sweets and pastries you love. Weight loss is primarily a numbers game of calories in and calories out. So as long as you count them, and make sure you're not letting too many in, you can have leeway when it comes to dieting.
Just don't give into despair, don't think less of yourself as a person just because you're a bit heavier than the average person. This is a community that celebrates fat and embraces it as a natural part of being human. It's okay if that's not for you, and you could do with less of it. But you don't have to let that hurt your self esteem

Quiver:
We fat-admiring women are 100% present, but honestly so many of us get chased off these platforms because one too many men get aggressive or entitled, stalk them, etc. It doesn’t have to be that many to become overwhelming quickly. That part sucks, and it’s part of a larger problem with how culture treats us generally.
My mantra is “keep your approach soft and your bellies softer”

Feedee Boy:
Im dating a girl who is trying to gain weight but she has a fast metabolism. I dont know what foods to feed her or what things she should be doing. But if anyone has any advice, please let me know.

Fatty Timmy:
I have been watching Grand Sumo Highlights from this January’s tournament in Tokyo. I was not aware of how much strategy was involved in competitions before watching. I have become a real fan. Is anyone else a fan of Sumo?

Munchies:
While I never got into sumo as a sport, sumo wrestlers were definitely my FA awakening. There was just something about beautiful men purposefully stuffing themselves silly so they can have a size advantage over their opponents.

And they are so silly sometimes. I once saw a video of two sumo wrestlers standing in traditional garb. One of them started casually bouncing the other's tit. It was equal parts funny and hot.

Edit: Found a gif what I was talking about



Just look at these goofy goobers

Canuck:
wow, this thread has a long history! my previous response is apparently 4 years ago - so time for some new perspective, i think.

i gained a bunch of weight since my last post and over that time i've experienced some new limitations, and i am also with a new partner, which has changed my perspective, too. i gained up to a top weight of about 475, although i've lost some weight since then (about 450 now).

there are a lot of limitations that have been hot. little things, like being to wide to get close enough to the kitchen counters to reach the upper shelves. i get teased about that regularly, which is kind of hot.

my partner is pretty fit, and the contrast between us is really nice, and her ability to easily dominate me, just by being more flexible and limber than me, is very hot. the limitations it has created in our sex play has actually been very hot, too.

the limitations in standing, walking, not fitting in chairs, and just getting through the day are the nuisance problems which i can live with by i don't enjoy them at all. i've had to lose some weight for health concerns recently, and i am definitely not enjoying the food limitations (mostly missing beer!).

Munchies:
When it comes to health issues and physical limitations, I think there's a bit of a disconnect between fantasy and reality. Sure, it's sexy to be too fat to move normally. But that's also really inconvenient.

MottiF:
Yeah, not to mentioned the fact that it could be really problematic if your partner let’s say leaving you or something, then what would you do?

Munchies:
Not just that. Illness, job loss, death ... the list is long.

Hell, these past due months has seen an uptick in natural disasters, war, and terrorism. Not saying people need to live in fear. Just be aware that things can go tits up without any notice, and you need to be prepared