shortybbw:
I remember back nearly 20 years ago when I was a junior in highschool I was very self conscious and had a poor self image because of my weight. I find that hard to believe now since i�m now over 120 pounds heavier and have way many more fat rolls but back then as a 17 year old girl and being 175 pounds at only 5�0� tall my world was very different. I know � of the guys avoided me like the plague and was frequently called the �fat chick� by some in my graduating class. I had a few memorable dates though. There were some fat admirers in my school but they were few and far between and I think there were a fair number too embarrassed to admit it. Most of the fat admirers I dated in the mid-late 1990s were true gentlemen.
In recent years I�ve been over 300 pounds on several occasions. I have learned to accept and even love all my excess weight. It seems like everywhere I�ve lived or visited there are always guys asking if I�m available. It seems like being a size 28 today don�t scare guys off like being a size 16 back in high school some 20 years ago. I guess there are for more obese and even morbidly obese women in society today and people are becoming more accepting of us once again. It is even more common today for a man to have a morbidly obese wife or girlfriend.
What is the heaviest girl that you have ever dated?
What did you like most or least about dating a bbw or ssbbw?
If you are married or in a long term relationship, would you consider your wife or significant other to be a bbw or ssbbw?
Was your partner considered obese when you met or became that way after being together?

What are some of the pros and cons, or challenges that you faced being married or in a relationship with a bbw or ssbbw?

Yaamw2017:
OMG you guys really care about the weight of your women huh. I think appearance is more attractive than numbers myself....call me old fashioned

elise ffa:
Hi all,
Long time lurker but finally joined in order to post. I'm a female FA/feeder & occasional gainer having intentionally gained some weight on three separate occasions during my lifetime - including currently!

Isn't it weird how that switch turns on in your mind and suddenly you find yourself stuffing yourself with this, that, and the other, wriggling into tight clothes, and fondling yourself...
Not to mention suddenly looking so tiny and frustratingly slim in the mirror when a couple of weeks ago your self-image was completely different. It is remarkable, truly.

Anyway! I know that typically during these periods of time when I am gaining weight deliberately, I struggle to control my sexual urges more than usual. When not gaining I typically consume FA related material for at least 30 mins a day anyway, although it has to be said that it has been markedly more over the past couple of months, and I would put that down to having suffered a difficult bereavement recently and wanting to distract myself from negative feelings.

Subsequently, I am worried that I am using masturbation and sexual fat-related thoughts as an emotional crutch more and more often. Really, I'm just wondering if anyone has had any similar experiences and how they managed to limit their intake.

It's not affecting my sex life negatively, am still very happy with my beautiful partner and if anything feel more confident at the moment.
I do want to be able to enjoy my kink, it's a big part of who I am and something that I've only just really started to accept properly. That acceptance has caused me to desire participation in the community more and I think it's this issue, that our kink is so related to my sense of self and an evolving identity that makes it so hard for me to separate the need for healthy, affirmative social behaviour with a possibly destructive need to seek out anything that jiggles and spend the evening drooling. Tumblr - it's a blessing and a curse, basically.

I'd just really like to be able to free up some more time to do other things.
Any advice would be much appreciated!

Also, apologies if I posted this in the wrong category!