Art Tool:
Hi There,
Im asking on behalf of my girlfriend, is it possible to gain weight in a 'healthy way' that doesnt impact your cholesterol or blood pressure too negatively and if so what would be the best foods/ways of doing this be?
To give you the full picture. I came out to my partner that I was into this kink about 7 months ago. To my delight she shared my interest in it and feeding has been a feature of the relationship since. She has gained some weight and is now around 220lb (we dont know exactly), is 5'6" and 23 years old. She had a doctors appointment concerning her thyroid last week and after a call back they said that she had some health issues including high cholesterol, obesity and a thyroid that will require medication. She has been told to diet and there is a long list of foods she isnt allowed to eat which includes dairy, sugar, rice, tofu, watermelon, pretty much anything fun.
We both feel bummed out by this and I think it has been abit of a reality check. Obviously this kink is innately unhealthy but having a doctor put it in black and white like this isnt much fun. We would like to keep the feeding and ideally keep gaining weight but that seems at odds with what the doctor is asking and with long term health.
What are other peoples relationships like with feeding and long term health? Is it a concern? Do people ignore it? Are there any work arounds available? Any help would be appreciated, thank you.
MottiF:
Hi,
It's clear that both of you care deeply for one another, not just in terms of desire but also well-being. Navigating a kink like feederism alongside real medical concerns is no small task, and it’s completely understandable to feel conflicted.
so... Yes, it is possible to gain weight in a way that minimizes negative health markers like high cholesterol or blood pressure, but it becomes significantly more difficult when certain underlying health issues are present - especially thyroid dysfunction, already-elevated cholesterol, and obesity.
When a doctor prescribes a restricted diet and medication, especially in a young woman like your girlfriend, it's not just a formality. These are early warning signs that the body is under strain, and ignoring them can lead to serious complications down the road.
Some thoughts and suggestions:
Feederism doesn’t always have to mean unchecked weight gain. Many couples in the community focus on Stuffing sessions without permanent weight gain, Fantasy roleplay and verbal feeding “Soft gain” or fluctuating weight goals within a safe range, Control dynamics that mimic the kink without requiring actual dangerous eating habits
This might be a time to shift from actual weight gain to simulated or psychological aspects of the kink. It can still be fulfilling, creative, and hot - while preserving health.
Work with the doctors, not against them: It may be possible to revisit the idea of gaining later on, once the thyroid is stabilized and cholesterol is managed. Consider working with a dietitian who understands kink-affirming care (they do exist!) to craft a way of eating that doesn’t feel totally joyless but still promotes health.
Consider what the long game looks like: There are feeder/feedee couples who navigate this kink well into middle age, often by being honest about limits, cycling between gain and maintenance, and prioritizing communication over numbers on a scale.
And Yes, health is a real concern in the feedism community. Some ignore it until it's too late, others find creative workarounds, and a few shift their focus over time from weight to control, care, indulgence, or fantasy. It doesn’t have to be all or nothing.
You're not alone in this. The fact that you're asking these questions shows a lot of maturity and love. It’s okay to change how you approach the kink - that doesn’t mean letting go of it, just evolving with it.
Take care of each other.
I couldn't agree more. As my partner said, you only have one life and one health. Maybe she'll get to a point where gaining is safe, but better to listen to MottiF if you want any chance at getting there.
And if you never do, you can still have a lot of fun.
