Amen.

A great milestone!

The next one is when you step on the scale and completely destroy it.

I'm a feeder, not a feedee, but this is a subject that fascinates me and which I've studied informally for years.

There are two kinds of feedees: those who have thought about gaining since childhood or early adolescence (let's call them "died in the wool" ) and those who discover the appeal of it only after gaining "accidentally" or to please a feeder, or because they stumble on it on the internet and realize they like they idea ("late bloomers" ).

The reasons they start when they do are usually one or more of the following:

1. Many feedees of both categories start when they have an "accidental" or "opportunity" gain. This usually happens when their situation changes and they sudden have an opportunity to eat more fattening food and/or larger quantities of food than they did in the past. This typically happens when they leave home and/or get a job that gives them the freedom to eat what they want. They start overeating for the fun of it. Another cause, of course, is pregnancy. They gain without really planning to and then they realize they like gaining, or that they like it even more than they thought they would and continue gaining.

2. Some start gaining when they meet a feeder who convinces or coaxes them to gain. Some died-in-the-wool feedees don't want to start until they find the right feeder.

3. Some start when they find the weight-gain sites on the internet (e.g. this site) and realize they're not alone. Some of these start almost immediately upon finding the sites; others are gradually convinced to gain after visiting the sites for awhile. Some don't start on purpose but find after visiting the sites for awhile that they've gained weight and like it.


If you're actually looking for advice on when or whether to start, see my article "Deciding to Get Fat" at askdrfeeder.dyndns.org.

1. Ask her what her deepest, most intense secret sexual fantasy is.

2. Try really hard to help her fulfill that fantasy. Repeat.

3. Eventually she'll ask you what YOURS is.

4. Tell her.

How about: "I love to eat!"

How about: "I love to eat!"

Just make sure she has plenty of snacks and enjoy the ride!

It seems almost universal that people's appetite increases as they gain.

I also believe it increases even more if you gain quickly, but I have less evidence for that.

There are lots of people would like to gain but can't, or at least, can't right now. They have job or lifestyle conflicts (like you), or health concerns, or their significant other wouldn't like it, or their parents wouldn't like it, or they want to find a feeder first, or they are physically unable to gain (maybe 2% of the populace can't gain no matter how much they eat).

And of course a lot of feeders have a similar problem...they want to feed somebody but can't find the right person.

Welcome to the club!

Maybe for feeders the idea of fattening up a lover is so intense we forget the other aspects of a relationship. Then we meet the feedee and it turns out (s)he is a human being, and so are we, and even if the sexual aspects of it are ideal, we're just as picky as anyone else when it comes to making a relationship work. We have to bond on emotional, intellectual, spirtual, political levels as well as the rest of it. So we often let you (and ourselves) down.

But notice I said "often". Not "never".