I think these are valid observations, but I fear you have an incomplete view on things.

There's been a heavy emphasis on the feedee models. While I agree the commercialization of this fetish is concerning, you cannot have a market without buyers.

I've lurked in the community long before being an active member. There's a growing sense of entitlement from all corners of this community. I see people openly being entitled to fat people and their bodies to an alarming degree.

For example, if you look in the comments of any feedee or gainer, you'll notice a lot of hostility if they don't gain fast enough or stuff themselves intensely enough, the audience gets nasty. And not just models - regular feedees get this too.

I had a conversation with a fellow feeder not too long about about his struggles finding a feedee. He exhibited the same growing entitlement. I pointed out that when you are pushy and entitled, the only people who will give you the time of day are those that want your money.

But people ain't trying to hear that.

On top of all this, this community has developed a cult-like mentality towards fatness. These days, so many people value extreme weight gain over everything else. It's to the point where feedees that want to go from 400 lbs to 250 lbs for comfort do not feel comfortable talking about these things

Hell, even though I am strictly a feeder, I get a lot of people who are genuinely confused as to why I want to be muscular over being fat.

Back in the day, people were less obsessed about extremes. Sure you had the extreme weight gain crowd, but it was a niche within a niche. But now you have feeders genuinely upset that their feedee - who has gain 50 lbs in a year - is not gaining fast enough. Feedees are mentally spiralling because people are shaming them for not being at least 200 lbs.

I am into extreme weight gain, but we desperately need the kink diversity we are rapidly losing.

I think a lot of people get into the whole "Don't yuck my yum" mentality that they don't examine their yum in the first place. They have deep, conflicting feelings that they don't want to explore.

And I get that. Introspection is scary.

But I have spoken to a lot of feedees, gainers, encouragers, and feeders. A lot of them admit to seeing fat people like a dirty little secret. A lot of fat people notice those that fetishize them often see them as less than. It's really sad.

Look, despite allegations to the contrary, I am not a prude. I'm probably freakier than most people. Hell, I have written stories with detailed torture scenes. But the prevelence of how popular these themes are speaks to a wider problem in the community.

I talk to a lot of people on here. And I've noticed a lot of users feel ashamed of fat. Whether it be how they want to be fat, fatten people up, or just have a fat partner, so many people hate they like fattness. And shame has away of evolving into weird situations.

This is not to say exploring theme of fatphobia are bad. I don't think there is anything inherently wrong with writing or enjoying revenge weight gain stories. But we as a community need to better interrogate our relationship with fatness. Ask ourselves if we are satisfied with how things are.

Based on the many people I've spoken to over the years, the answer seems to be no.

You will note that I am painting in broad strokes.

That said, I took a glace at your story and um ...

Are you sure you want me to explore the themes therein.

Because I can. I will be fair about it, but are you really sure you want me to do that?

Crock pots

Chuck in the ingredients and go about your day. Come dinner time you have a big meal waiting for you.

The appeal of fast food is in it's low effort. If you make a bunch of low effort foods, you can eat that instead of fast food.

Partner in tight button downs

Partner pulling out his belly and wobbling it

Partner jiggling his ass (man can't twerk, but this is a close second)

Partner being so stuffed he gets all helpless and needs me to take care of him

Any man with a really big ass

I think this is true in terms of surface level, individual reasons. But the popularity also speaks to feedist culture. As much as feedism is countercultural, feedist still live in a fatphobic world. I do not think a lot of feedists have interrogated these influences as a whole.

I noticed revenge weight gain stories follow a general beat. Mean person is skinny and hot. As punishment for their sins, they get fat. Society rejects them, their life is ruined, and then they get fatter. Bonus points if the mean person joins the other loser fatties or the loser fatty they bullied become skinny and hot.

Notice how this frames fat as bad and skinny as good. There are, of course, variations on an individual level, but this is how the bulk of them go. From where I sit, this suggests feeling ashamed of their kinks and fetishes. They find fat sexy (the porn part) while also negociating some level of fatphobia (the revenge part).

But I suppose it makes sense. A lot of people sexualize what they find taboo.

What on earth are you talking about? People of all sizes have always existed.

Also, can we please stop talking about teenagers in a sexualized way? That's sketchy.

More padding or more calories? 😏

It's always been strange to me how prevalent the whole revenge fattening fantasy thing is. Specifically the whole "You were mean to me in high school. I hope you get fat."

We like fat around these parts. It's like saying "You were mean to me in high school. I hope you get smoking hot." But in these revenge fantasies, it's always a bad thing.

Are we so ashamed of our preferences that someone achieving them is shameful?