Don't expect your gain to be linear. You'll usually find just sticking with the habits that worked before providing you are checking your still consuming at least 500kcal over your required amounts will bring a gain. If you've gained muscle in your legs to support your new size consider that this will increase your rmr and hence you'll need to eat more to maintain.

To "kickstart" another gain, you can try changing patterns. Sleep a little less, fast mornings, glucose bomb before your big meal.

So my wife and I have 3 (7, 3 and 18months).

We're talking together about this together as I type.

1. Yes during pregnancy your sex life changes. Usually for the better after the 1st trimester. We continued our feeding kick but, switched to healthier stuff (no more donut holes on the bedside table)

2. After becoming a mom, you have responsibilities but, gaining becomes easier for most as there is a lifestyle shift. Although not her largest, she is big and now thanks to 3 large babies, very very soft in the middle.
You can gain to a point healthily and in both the USA and the UK there are regular cholesterol and blood sugar checks during and after pregnancy up until jr is 6 months old ish.
Keeping active is possible but so is regular over eating and snacking.

If you like changes in you body and getting softer and heavier and rounder then pregnancy is great. Just remember, there's someone sharing the space and stuffing isn't easy when your organs are reduced to 1/3 of their normal space.

3. Postpartum sex is a slow relearning curve for most. Give it time and see where the land lays. Don't assume everything will be the same physically or mentally.

4. Gaining and keeping baby weight is a societal norm, despite pressures to lose some, you are expected to keep most. I feel my wife "gained " her figure through becoming a mother, some claim women loose theirs. She's never lost the tummy from the first and has added to it each of our 8 years. You'll find plenty of chubby and fat moms in social groups and can coast in to obesity throughout your 30s if that's what you wish.

As with all gaining, there's no rush, you're 26 and it can be a kink you can enjoy for decades. And if you're lucky you can keep the weight in to old age so long as you're sensible [don't daily gorge heavy cream shakes and only leave the couch to use the bathroom and expect to not have health issues]

We've taken our kink in to our mid to late 30s by maturing it. High end dinners where she'll eat both hers and most of my tasting menu. Good chocolates, long brunches, her truly enjoying the early baking efforts of our 3 and 7 year old. And, the occasional box of macarons on the bedside table once the kids are asleep.

The weight and softness keep coming but its usually due to a shock in the dressing room that she realizes the progress.

5. Being a reflection and example of society to your little ones is part of parenthood. If you're fat and lazy expect your kids to notice. Own it and show confidence in what you do and remember being a good parent is possible, being a perfect parent isnt. If you enjoy sitting down and snacking and being pampered then let it happen but also let the kids be around and not feel neglected. Put on family films or educational shows while you park yourself and eat. Being physically healthy is partly being mentally healthy, and being present and engaging is easier when you're hapoy at home eating than it is if you're always at the gym being unhappy with yourself.

There are a raft of options and what we feel the most important thing is, is to be honest with yourself and your husband about how you both feel, before during and after pregnancy. That goes for kinks too.

Bah. Shame but, sitting at different tables in a pub isn't really the best way to make friends.

I have some hongkonger friends who bought and kitted out their first Chinese buffet in January this year and they are terrified by the idea that it may be impossible for the business type to every come back in the same way.

My wife had just gotten in to them too and it really helped her when actively gaining.

Here's hoping for a return to the glory days

How often do you have sex?
As often as we can with young kids and a baby around

Do you feel like your relationship is built off love or lust?
Both but probably more love. They drive each other

Do they know that you love fatter people?
Yes

How do they feel about themself?

Mixed. At the moment were on a beach vacation and she is in mixed minds about no longer having the bikini body she had 6years ago, but the good weather and food has her in a good mood generally. She loves her belly and is showing it off a lot, but is not a fan of her cute double chin.

She loves herself in private but not so much in public.

What activities do you like to do with them?

Concerts, walks, restaurants, travel(not happening much right now), working on our companies.

Totally this. My wife is now very soft (although she has lost some size in the last month). But for some reason I can't shake the old.roles of I do the heavy and hard she does the fine and soft and as a result we match our roles in our relationship.

I'm still up for it (so long as they end the lockdown so we don't all have to be at different tables....)

Lactase tablets do help, but then again, carbs carbs carbs can really increase the calories without needing any dairy intake.

Big pasta meals, burritos with no cheese, burgers, the list goes on for non sweet stuff. For sweet things, use oil in cakes and mashmallow fluff for a "creamy" filling.

If she has no family history of raised cholesterol, then also consider using animal fats in cooking to replace butter. Duckfat roasted potatoes, lard/tallow based pastries, schmaltz/tallow fried potatoes.

Calderdale

Just be honest and ask if your partner is willing to try it once or twice to see if they like it.
Gaining is not instant so there's always a way to back out. It's not like.asking someone to get a tattoo, and the progress rates are not as severe as getting a new haircut.

Would you feel shy about asking a partner to grow their hair out?