workingOnIt:
I think that the stress you're feeling is extremely understandable in your situation. It seems like you have pretty high standards for yourself (something I know all to well) which makes it really difficult to deal with the already difficult task of accepting sexual preferences that "deviate from the norm".
As hard as it is it might be to swallow, I am very confident in saying you can actively try and "force yourself away from this fetish" with all your might, but it's not going anywhere. I spent years trying to ignore my feelings and trying to convince myself that I could "get away from this." It doesn't work like that though, and in the end, that's really because it's a part of you. With that being said, I really really can relate to the stress your feeling in these circumstances.
I promise you though, if you find a way to manage the stress for the time being and give yourself the space to be open with yourself, that you likely won't always be this overwhelmed. You're already posting on this website which means at some level you're already working towards a level of self-acceptance. As you keep working through this process you'll get more comfortable with what you like and will be able to set aside unrealistic expectations more and more and see it in an unbiased light.
Having this fetish doesn't mean "you are doomed to be lazy." Having this fetish doesn't mean "you can't find a girlfriend who loves you for who you are." Having this fetish doesn't mean "you can't excel in your studies." It doesn't mean any of those things, or any of the other million things your anxiety is telling you it means. It's just an attraction like any other, another part of a perfectly normal and healthy sexuality.
Sending you positive vibes to get through this stressful time! Relax! Have a snack haha
Thank you!! All of that is so reassuring and helpful! I appreciate it greatly to realize I should accept myself rather than fight what is apart of me. I hope you accept yourself as well, I appreciate all the help and kind words so much!
5 years
Gay couples and transgender are more popular now more than ever and it’s being more and more accepted everyday.
I feel like more people can accept that it’s a thing that exists instead of impulsively feeling the need to judge or fat shame use. You know someone asked if I need therapy because I was simply asking about a bloating method. People can respect what we like and what makes us feel good, but they don’t need to be apart of it. I believe it
5 years
Now I know this is a feederism forum where we talk about gaining and stuffing, but this feels related enough and I hope to be welcomed with useful feedback and not be told to take my thoughts elsewhere.
I’m confused right now. I’ve had my belly fetish my whole life and have hid it for most of it, and been roughly ashamed because of how my family/girlfriend has responded to it. I understand their POV though. I feel lost and it’s affecting my real lifestyle. I want to give in because I feel like I’ve been given a fetish to love and be attracted to, but it comes with a heap of problems that I’m not sure I can deal with right now. I want to focus and do my damndest in college, I want a high work ethic, I want to make the best damn decisions I possibly can, but actively forcing myself away from my fetish stresses me the fuck out, but when I give in I’m constantly anxious and stressed and... if I try to gain or bloat myself, I feel horrible later on, like eating junk food and feeling heavy doesn’t have a good outcome later on. Not only that, but I kinda feel like it adds to my laziness or my procrastination. It doesn’t make me motivated to work towards my goals I have in life. I see people who workout actively and look great and healthy... but that’s where I question myself. Is what I’m doing really worth it?
I’m so fucking stuck right now, and I don’t know why I’m writing about this on a fetish website. I guess I’m hoping to find some advice on how I can set myself back on my path or look for validation. Thank you if you’ve read this far, sorry it’s so long.
5 years
I’ve been like this my whole life. Liking girls who stuff themselves full and are all big and fat I are who I find very attractive in life, including pregnant women. But most of the time, I try to distance myself from my fetish. I have a girlfriend who’s not into that stuff, but she supports me in anything I want to do. I feel like I won’t be accepted, if I change my body I’ll look chubbier, I’ll be judged, life with get harder, and I’ll regret it. I see people who are successful in life, and they don’t weigh above 200 or 250. I’m nervous and I’m unsure about my fetish because I want to be loved and accepted and to feel my best. I’m unsure which side to chose, my normal life side that everyone sees or the fetish side of me that I love, I feel affection towards and could make me feel good... I’m so stuck and now I feel like I have a community who will listen and understand me.
Can anyone relate or understand how I’m feeling? Any advice?
5 years
I’m kinda curious of this too, because it seems like life would be more difficult. Difficult to move around, clothes don’t fit anymore, unnecessary judgement, expensive to buy tons of food. What kinds of pros come with being all big and fat, slow and heavy.
5 years
Do you have any opinions on fit people? Your someone who obsesses about gaining a big fat belly and wants to be fed and rubbed and to be so heavy and immobile, so what are your opinions about someone who’s got sculpted abs and works out daily with no fat hang whatsoever. Would you want someone like that to feed you, or are you that person that’s fit that wants a fat guy/girl to feed?
5 years
I guess I was kinda blind to the obvious fact that gay couples love each other’s bodies, and straight people love each other’s female/male bodies. I rewrote the post a little, in no way are girls better than guys or guys better than girls, I never thought that way to begin with.
Both develop fat in different ways, being a straight guy i favor girls bodies more, of course that’s a preference.
5 years
That’s fair, don’t get me wrong, I’m not bi (nor do I have anything against bi or gay people) but there are certain guys that have come across as attractive to me with their bellies.
I guess I find women just naturally more attractive. Just was wondering if I was the only one who felt like they were naturally more attractive or if you have to be straight to think that way
5 years
Clearly I was mistaken and missed the main idea that should be grasped: everyone likes their own type of bodies. Girls bodies are not better than guys when fat, and guys bodies are not better than girls when fat, they both are sexy and chubby and amazing in their own ways. What is your favorite body type?
(This is what I said earlier) I’m not being insensitive or sexist, and maybe it’s because I’m not gay, but I feel like weight develops better on girls. No disrespect to any men who feel sexy with there fat bodies, y’all look perfectly beautiful with your weight. Biologically women are meant to have more fat on their bodies because they are meant to produce children and get pregnant, so their bodies are meant to expand and get bigger as well as their boobs and butt. Within the weight gain community, girls tummies look different in a good way apart from guys gaining. I’m not sure how to describe it, but fat grows women bigger differently that works.
I’m not being insensitive, and I apologize if I offended anyone. Does anyone agree with me? I’m not saying fat looks bad on guys, out of both women and men, women get fat that either looks sexier apart from men or... idk it just looks different in a good way. Men look sexy as well with fat on their bodies, just not as sexy.
Give me your thoughts, I’m curious and hope I don’t get hate for this.
5 years
Yeah, fat or chubby is very looked down upon, and people will despise you for it. They are worried about health and shit, when really we might love our bodies growing to be bigger and to feel good with ourselves. You might not find someone with the same fetish, but you might find someone who respects you for what you like and will do anything that makes you feel good
5 years
