Art Tool:
Thank you for the thoughtful and caring responses. Mottif’s response has been particularly helpful and insightful. It’s given us some ideas and new directions.

I agree with you that working with the doctors is the right thing to do. For the time being we will be following their advice and see where things go from there.

Many thanks!

Angelhoney:
Has anyone ever taken any prescriptions/birth control and experienced weight gain? I’m abt to start spironolactone (I have mild PCOS) , and the side effects are increased fat distribution to boobs and butt(yay) but also tummy and thighs too.. I’ve been average weight my whole life with an hourglass figure and I’m curious n excited. Kinda nervous because it’s always been hard for me to gain alotta weight despite my horny binges

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DanielAviation:
How would I do that?

Munchies:
I see your slender fingers and I raise you "feedee with thick fingers" because the finger fucking is just better.

Sweetfattie:
Glad somebody likes the pudgy fingers! Mine definitely plumped up along with the rest of me.

Art Tool:
Hi There,

Im asking on behalf of my girlfriend, is it possible to gain weight in a 'healthy way' that doesnt impact your cholesterol or blood pressure too negatively and if so what would be the best foods/ways of doing this be?

To give you the full picture. I came out to my partner that I was into this kink about 7 months ago. To my delight she shared my interest in it and feeding has been a feature of the relationship since. She has gained some weight and is now around 220lb (we dont know exactly), is 5'6" and 23 years old. She had a doctors appointment concerning her thyroid last week and after a call back they said that she had some health issues including high cholesterol, obesity and a thyroid that will require medication. She has been told to diet and there is a long list of foods she isnt allowed to eat which includes dairy, sugar, rice, tofu, watermelon, pretty much anything fun.

We both feel bummed out by this and I think it has been abit of a reality check. Obviously this kink is innately unhealthy but having a doctor put it in black and white like this isnt much fun. We would like to keep the feeding and ideally keep gaining weight but that seems at odds with what the doctor is asking and with long term health.

What are other peoples relationships like with feeding and long term health? Is it a concern? Do people ignore it? Are there any work arounds available? Any help would be appreciated, thank you.

MottiF:
Hi,
It's clear that both of you care deeply for one another, not just in terms of desire but also well-being. Navigating a kink like feederism alongside real medical concerns is no small task, and it’s completely understandable to feel conflicted.

so... Yes, it is possible to gain weight in a way that minimizes negative health markers like high cholesterol or blood pressure, but it becomes significantly more difficult when certain underlying health issues are present - especially thyroid dysfunction, already-elevated cholesterol, and obesity.

When a doctor prescribes a restricted diet and medication, especially in a young woman like your girlfriend, it's not just a formality. These are early warning signs that the body is under strain, and ignoring them can lead to serious complications down the road.

Some thoughts and suggestions:
Feederism doesn’t always have to mean unchecked weight gain. Many couples in the community focus on Stuffing sessions without permanent weight gain, Fantasy roleplay and verbal feeding “Soft gain” or fluctuating weight goals within a safe range, Control dynamics that mimic the kink without requiring actual dangerous eating habits

This might be a time to shift from actual weight gain to simulated or psychological aspects of the kink. It can still be fulfilling, creative, and hot - while preserving health.

Work with the doctors, not against them: It may be possible to revisit the idea of gaining later on, once the thyroid is stabilized and cholesterol is managed. Consider working with a dietitian who understands kink-affirming care (they do exist!) to craft a way of eating that doesn’t feel totally joyless but still promotes health.

Consider what the long game looks like: There are feeder/feedee couples who navigate this kink well into middle age, often by being honest about limits, cycling between gain and maintenance, and prioritizing communication over numbers on a scale.

And Yes, health is a real concern in the feedism community. Some ignore it until it's too late, others find creative workarounds, and a few shift their focus over time from weight to control, care, indulgence, or fantasy. It doesn’t have to be all or nothing.

You're not alone in this. The fact that you're asking these questions shows a lot of maturity and love. It’s okay to change how you approach the kink - that doesn’t mean letting go of it, just evolving with it.

Take care of each other.

Dreamcrowblackdream:
Has the chat room been down? The last few days when I enter it just shows 0 members and it’s blank.

Voluptuouslover:
This one has to do with weight gain -

I love it when a women gains weight and even her fingers get fatter or chubbier - so cute!

My wife has fairly slender fingers, it is always the very last place to show a gain, she really has to pack on the pounds all over or it to finally end up on her fingers getting chubbier.

Linnerud:
I’m kinda the inverse. For me, the slender fingers suggest that the feedee was/is still skinny, but giving in to gluttony. Definitely a turn on for me

Voluptuouslover:
Well that is my wife sexy as fuck Shapley slightly fatty with huge juggs and a pear shape with a massive lower belly roll huge hips and thighs and fat upper arms with SLENDER fingers.

Schebabel:
definitely agree that slender fingers on a big belly are muuch better. It emphazises the size of the belly more

Morbidly A Beast:
the endocrine system is very complex and its deeper than estrogen = female testosterone = male

BigBallBellyGirl:
I need to find a new cardiologist. I didn't exactly handpick mine. I had a medical emergency 13 months ago, and she performed my emergency triple bypass. At the time, I was over 600 pounds. Following the surgery, I was able to get down to 555 - 560, but no matter what I did, I couldn't keep the weight off. I settled around 585 for a while. Last December, I got married, and I did indulge on my honeymoon, although I only had one true stuffing. By New Years, I was back at 600. I decided I was going to focus on clean eating (lean proteins, vegetables, salads, lots of water) and activity to the extent that I'm capable of it. I've stayed on the bandwagon (until today) with the occasional treat a time or two a week (and by that I mean a piece of pie, not the whole thing). I also stay within maintenance calories.

Nevertheless, I'm gaining weight. I have a very large girth, well over 100 inches around standing. That limits my mobility in the extreme, and I can't stand for long without my walker. My husband helps me d sitting exercises every day, but I just don't have a big range of motion. I'm about 646 at the moment. I don't have lymphedema... I'm just... FAT.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not unhappy with my size. I actually like my appearance. But I know I have to control my weight, or I could easily be unable to leave the house in a year, maybe less. I definitely don't want that.

My last appointment with my cardiologist was in January, and I was about 600 pounds then. She doesn't have a scale that can accommodate me, so they asked me to estimate my weight. I know exactly what I weigh, and I was honest. She commented on my weight gain before asking anything else. She didn't ask how I was feeling, about my breathing, about my control over my diabetes. She went straight for extra weight and reacted as though I was 200 pounds heavier, not 40-something. Even worse, when I told her what I eat in a day, she refused to believe me. My eyes were stinging with tears the whole time, because I know the truth. I'm not a liar. Otherwise, I would have put 600 down as my weight and not admitted I'm heavier. I quickly got around to refills of my medications, and left. I'll also add, my glucose was 125 and my BP was 140/100, which Is high but pretty reasonable for someone who is super obese, so no alarming indicators based on my actual health.

This evening, I spiraled. Despite my sweet husband trying to distract me, I ordered 5 Big Macs with extra cheese, 2 Crispy Chicken sandwiches, 2 fish sandwiches, 40 chicken nuggets, a milkshake, and a large Coke. I ate all of it, and I felt nauseated, I think because I'm no longer used to eating greasy and fatty foods or consuming so much sodium. It's also unlike me to eat out of sadness. When I was gaining, stuffing was always a happy and festive occasion.

My husband is encouraging me not to guilt myself and reminding me we can reset. And I'm going to ask my primary care doctor for a referral to someone new. I just wish medical professionals didn't take such delight in admonishing, and I wish she had believed me when I told her the truth.

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