What happened is you gave her a license to overeat and she's using it.

Are you at all less conflicted than when you started? Or do you at least enjoy eating more?

On another feedist site--which shall remain nameless--only 43% of the fat people are feedees. I would expect the number to be much lower in the general population, because I wouldn't expect your average non-feedist fat person to be interested in a feedist site. I'm guessing maybe 20% at best.

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It's just hard to figure out how much you need to gain to get over the hump or whether there is a hump until you get there. I think 30 pounds is pretty common. Maybe that's a good question for a new thread...[/quote]

Just added this question to the Gaining sub-forum.

Many feedees are conflicted when they first start, but feel less so after they've gained enough that they're "over the hump". After they gain 30 pounds or so they enjoy gaining more and fear it less and any doubts go away.

Has this happened to you? If so, what was your starting weight and at what weight were you over the hump?

If you have not gotten over the hump, do you expect to? Or hope to?

I think this is the best way.

I think this is pretty common. Once people get "over the hump" they learn: people's reactions aren't as severe as they feared; overeating is more fun than ever; they like the extra weight (or at least the upsides outweight the downsides); and losing the weight is not a serious option.

It's just hard to figure out how much you need to gain to get over the hump or whether there is a hump until you get there. I think 30 pounds is pretty common. Maybe that's a good question for a new thread...

Ah yes, the Point of No Return. I don't think that's based on absolute weight so much as 1) your own metabolism 2) your eating habits 3) how much you like gaining 4) how much you like being bigger.

I chatted with one woman who wanted to go from 130 to 180 pounds. She was having trouble gaining, so she finally started stuffing herself to the point she couldn't take a deep breath. Every day! At that point she started gaining and got up to 180 in a few months. She quit stuffing herself like that then but her appetite had gotten so good she kept gaining without trying to. When I chatted with her she weighed 300 pounds and was still gaining. She couldn't stop.

So she probably reached the Point of No Return before she was even fat!

Another woman planned to gain 25 pounds and stop there. So she did gain 25 pounds, and maybe could have stopped there, but found that she LOVED it. She didn't want to stop, and decided to simply let herself go, figuring that limits didn't work for her.

Of course, some people gain and do lose it, or at least find a final weight they're comfortable with.

In short, once you decide to gain on purpose and start doing it, it's very hard to predict where you're going to end up. Just accept that there's a chance you'll get bigger than you want (of course that can happen even if you never gain on purpose!). If you're worried but still want to do it, just take it slow. You can stuff yourself on junk food now and then--I mean, that's probably part of the fun, right? But eat healthy the rest of the time.

No kidding! I came of age in the 60s and 70s...I never even heard of feedism (aka feederism) until the 80s. I knew I had feedist tendencies and assumed there were others like me but really didn't know for many years. I did see a "Hilda" calendar in a car-repair shop back in the 60s (was tempted to steal it but settled for trying to brain-download as much of it as possible) so I at least knew there were others who appreciated curvy women.

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