for me, health issues and immobility are not the goal, and those ideas are not the thing that arouse me.

i've gained more than i ever expected or tried to. for a long time my health was fine, which i chalked up to my first 40 years of being in shape and eating well. more recently, i've started to have some warning signs about potential health issues, so it seems my lucky streak was coming to and end.

i've made some changes to my diet, and tried (and mostly failed) to get more active to try to maintain my health without having to change my lifestyle too much... i've cut out drinking, which should help.

but one of the things about becoming a feedee, the draw of eating and overindulging, of being stuffed, is so enticing that it's hard to resist! i am supposed to cut out carbs/sugars, but the feeling of being so stuffed after eating a whole pizza (or more) is just hard to resist!

also, to me, while immobility would be a frightening position to find myself in, less drastic difficulties are very, very hot - having to stop or sit down, while my partner teases me...
when my belly presses into the table and prevents me from reaching something...
when i can't lift myself up from a chair...
when i can't reach a shelf because my belly is pressing into a counter...
the limitations to my range of motion and my flexibility, which allow my partner to dominate me physically...
even the limitation in having sex have been something that is really hot!

but if i couldn't get myself to the bathroom when i needed to go, that would be a problem, i think. the fantasy of being "trapped" is better than the reality, i think.

i am another fan of contrast. when i was fit and thin, i loved feeding my partners and seeing them grow soft. my last partner at a fit man was a ssbbw who was almost 3-times my size when we met - that contrast was amazing!

now as a fat guy, i am enjoying contrast from the other side - i am more than twice the size of my current partner.

being the "bigger one" in a pairing wasn't ever a goal or desire of mine, but i will say that when it happened i've really grown (pun intended) to love it.

i know the functionality makes sense in some ways - if you want to delete, you don't necessarily want to leave anything behind. but in terms of stories, it really is a shame to see so many stories vanish. it would be nice if there were an archive like there used to be on the old dimensions site.

this 100%. in my mind, there's no difference between not talking about fat and not talking about bdsm - with my relatives or anyone else that has no business talking to me about my sex life.

that stuff should be left between you and your partner(s), or the other people in whatever community you share details of your sex life.

this is a topic that i really relate to. i was a thin, fit feeder for so much of my adult life. i started gaining by accident, and haven't really been able to stop it since.

i've posted about my experience over the last 4 or 5 years, so i won't rehash all that. but i wanted to talk about how lifestyle contributes to this. i sympathize with @otherday66 because i've tried to go back the gym a few times, i've tried to change my diet a few times over the years (including this year) and for the most part it hasn't been successful.

part of it is how seductive the feedist lifestyle is... it's kind of built on pleasure, abandon, and sloth. to move to a mode of discipline, effort and abstinence (from food!) is a really hard change to make. and it's too easy to be tempted back into indulgence, i find (again, and again...).

i'd be interested to hear from anyone who has found success in striking that balance after going to the fat-side?

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interesting view on skills vs fitness. a friend of mine who used to be a track & field runner in school at a competitive level, then got fat later as an adult when i met him, told me that he still had the speed - just not the endurance! which sounds like your experience.

i wasn't into sports so much as weight lifting and cardio at the gym... at 150-160 i was really fit, in great shape. then i took a break and porked up to 220 - when i tried to go back, my loss of strength, stamina and flexibility was really shocking to me. i felt completely out of place, i felt really embarrassed. having to get off the treadmill after just a few minutes because i felt like i was dying was a real shock!

now i am more than twice that size, and i don't know how i would even get up from the bench after trying a bench press!

when i met my partner (we met on woo plus), i knew she liked fat guys. but she didn't have a clue about feedism.

as we were getting to know each other, it wasn't important, either. she could see i liked to eat! and gradually, over time, i introduced her to this site and others. she approached it with an open mind, and as she got familiar she was able to articulate what she liked, and what was a no-go for her.

i mention this because that is really the only time that my fetish(es) have come up - when i am with a partner that i want to get to know better, or i want to be more intimate with. with everyone else in the world that i happen to bump into, i don't want to know their fetishes, and i am sure they don't want to know mine. just like must of us don't talk about our interest in bdsm with casual acquaintances.

yes, ours reads out the weight. it's just one we bought off amazon, nothing terribly exotic.

i sometimes get this when i eat too fast, i think it's a combo of too much food working it's way down the pipe and maybe some gas.

if you take a break for five minutes does it persist? does it last long after you've finished? if so, you might want to talk to your doctor.