Plus size dating guide!!
I think its easier if you're fat yourself...you'll understand more from personal experience.
If you're slim,think about distance and size of places etc...short walking distances,seats/chairs that accommodate fat people and remember to avoid places that have lots of stairs etc...easy to overlook if you're slim (I know...I was slim!)
If you're slim,think about distance and size of places etc...short walking distances,seats/chairs that accommodate fat people and remember to avoid places that have lots of stairs etc...easy to overlook if you're slim (I know...I was slim!)
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Chef heros
Raymond Blanc (or Ray White as Gordon calls him!lol)...the accent,the food oh la la
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Fat to slim...then fat again?
HerMajestyOfMars wrote:
In most cases (mine in particular), it's not necessarily that you LIKE being slim; we like the way we're treated when we're slim. Doctors, employers, and every day people are nicer to you when you're slim. I don't get bullied really, but people avoid me because of my weight. But when I try to lose weight, I hate myself for giving in to society, and I get sad watching my bulges and love handles disappear. It's a difficult tightrope to tiptoe.
I wish I could tell you how to balance these things! I wish I knew how to, haha. I guess the best thing you can do for yourself is just think long and hard about what really makes you happy and find a way to make it work- if you like being fat, but hate the way you're treated when you're fat, surround yourself with people who love you no matter what and ignore the rest. If you like indulging but want to be slim, just find a good exercise regimen that allows you to overeat but still work it off.
This was a lot longer than I meant it to be! I hope you figure things out
It's sad that the world's like this,but this is so true.Agree with all the aboveIn most cases (mine in particular), it's not necessarily that you LIKE being slim; we like the way we're treated when we're slim. Doctors, employers, and every day people are nicer to you when you're slim. I don't get bullied really, but people avoid me because of my weight. But when I try to lose weight, I hate myself for giving in to society, and I get sad watching my bulges and love handles disappear. It's a difficult tightrope to tiptoe.
I wish I could tell you how to balance these things! I wish I knew how to, haha. I guess the best thing you can do for yourself is just think long and hard about what really makes you happy and find a way to make it work- if you like being fat, but hate the way you're treated when you're fat, surround yourself with people who love you no matter what and ignore the rest. If you like indulging but want to be slim, just find a good exercise regimen that allows you to overeat but still work it off.
This was a lot longer than I meant it to be! I hope you figure things out
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Help for a back in pain???
rubyripples wrote:
This is a VERY common complaint of supersize women, and not so supersize too. If you can build up the core muscles in your abdomen and lower back it might help. Otherwise, yes, I'm sure as you know, it's the sheer weight of your belly pulling your lower back in. There really isn't any item that can pull the belly up to relieve it. I used to read on other sites about people saying they were going to invent a "belly bra" to ease it! I have the same problem but mine was exacerbated by viral arthritis. If you rest your belly on something like a table, does the pain immediately ease, leaving just a little ache? If so, then yes I def think its the weight.
I would definitely look up some core strengthening excercises if I was you though, as they are the one thing that might ease it a bit. I certainly know how frustrating it can be at your weight and height when some much slimmer person tells you to be much more physically active, when it's HARD work lugging that weight around all the time! And no amount of doable exercise is going to make aches disappear at this height and weight. I do think strengthening the abdominal/back muscles would be the thing to help. I do think the suggestion of a water exercise class is a good one though if you're looking to get a bit fitter in general - heart etc, as it is non weight bearing, so you won't destroy your knees, and it will be easier to do some moves.
Good luck and I hope you find some relief.
Some slim,large breasted women have this problem.I knew one who had a breast reduction operation as the pain got too bad.400at40 wrote:
At 405 lbs., I have a very large belly that hangs down but also juts out really far. And as I get bigger, the weight of my belly is really pulling on my back, causing a lot of pain. Standing for even 5 minutes is very painful, as is walking very far. I've gotten to the point where I try to avoid moving as much as possible. Is the anything out there that will actually lift the belly to take the pressure off the back? Has anyone found anything at all to help with this pain? I appreciate any and all suggestions. Thanks so much!
At 405 lbs., I have a very large belly that hangs down but also juts out really far. And as I get bigger, the weight of my belly is really pulling on my back, causing a lot of pain. Standing for even 5 minutes is very painful, as is walking very far. I've gotten to the point where I try to avoid moving as much as possible. Is the anything out there that will actually lift the belly to take the pressure off the back? Has anyone found anything at all to help with this pain? I appreciate any and all suggestions. Thanks so much!
This is a VERY common complaint of supersize women, and not so supersize too. If you can build up the core muscles in your abdomen and lower back it might help. Otherwise, yes, I'm sure as you know, it's the sheer weight of your belly pulling your lower back in. There really isn't any item that can pull the belly up to relieve it. I used to read on other sites about people saying they were going to invent a "belly bra" to ease it! I have the same problem but mine was exacerbated by viral arthritis. If you rest your belly on something like a table, does the pain immediately ease, leaving just a little ache? If so, then yes I def think its the weight.
I would definitely look up some core strengthening excercises if I was you though, as they are the one thing that might ease it a bit. I certainly know how frustrating it can be at your weight and height when some much slimmer person tells you to be much more physically active, when it's HARD work lugging that weight around all the time! And no amount of doable exercise is going to make aches disappear at this height and weight. I do think strengthening the abdominal/back muscles would be the thing to help. I do think the suggestion of a water exercise class is a good one though if you're looking to get a bit fitter in general - heart etc, as it is non weight bearing, so you won't destroy your knees, and it will be easier to do some moves.
Good luck and I hope you find some relief.
I think swimming/water aerobics could be good for the reasons mentioned above.I had a prolapsed disc in my spine a few years back and I was advised to keep moving...things like swimming and walking:nothing strenuous though.You should get professional advice though from a physiotherapist...should be able to advise on specific exercises that will help somewhat, hopefully
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