It was a natural progression for me in which I let the greed become a mind of its own. I moved away with a woman to change things up and we went all in into this life to the point that I had really not had that "I am fat" moment until I caught my gut hanging below my shirt in Walmart and by then I was too addicted to the food and the results
4 years
thiccbell:
So the other day I met someone and we hit it off pretty well talking about the kink and many other things. We exchanged handles and have been keeping in touch but I'm always surprised at how open they are about sending pictures and such of stuffing and that they are glad to know that i enjoy what they send.
You know how it is, it's too good to be true, right? I know we have a good thing going but in my head it feels like it's not real and we barely know each other.
They say how genuinely glad they are that i enjoy what they do and never ask for anything in return. As much as I love this, it feels almost suspicious. I mean, most of you probably have been in similar situations, right?
So there's this imposter syndrome, where i don't think I deserve what they do to me but also that it might be a trick that they are setting up. But at the same time i feel bad that they might be genuine and I just might be trampling on their feelings because of these thoughts.
Don't ever feel bad for feeling this way; there is nothing wrong with being skeptical until you see consistent congruency between their words and actions. You have to be safe on here and set boundaries for yourself because you have folks all over the globe on here and so many people on here are here just to pilfer money from folks. Some are here just to get off to fat chat. I had someone who saw me chatting with another person in the chat and they started talking about how they wanted to get fat like I have and I gave them everything I did so the very next day the deleted one profile to start another and then apologize that they used the conversation to fake like that wanted to get fat so they could actually masturbate to the fat talk so always set your boundaries and realize that folks on here are strangers you don't know.
4 years
loradayton:
welcome to the life of what I think honestly MOST of us feedees are! In my opinion - most of us aren't gaining. Anyone who tells you that you must somehow be involved with gaining - whether giving or receiving - in order to be "in" in the community are gatekeeping ***s and dead wrong.
If you read my profile, I've outlined it like this: the kink is foreplay and sometimes fun for me. It's not a lifestyle. That's not a dis for those to whom it is a lifestyle. Maybe you are just discovering it is not your lifestyle, but just for fun or foreplay.
Feedism does not mean limitless or immobility for everyone. If you still enjoy feedism, you are still a feedist and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. You get to decide that on your terms.
It's not an absolute or black and white. You can stop and go as you please or re-evaluate whenever you want. If you want to pause and lose now, that's cool. If you want to pause and gain later, that's cool. If you just need a breather to figure that out, that's cool too.
Sounds to me like you just hit a limit for awhile. Sit with it and see how you feel and don't make any rush decisions.
I thought that I was the only one trying to speak from real vantage points on this page but this is so spot on that I have to give a standing ovation for its artistry. All of this, is a kink; some of us just take it further than others and this is not some cult that either you go all in or not. It is a person's own kink and the "FAT GIFT" affects each of us very differently and that is cool and nor should you have to justify how you express it. I chose to go beyond a point of no return because back when I started down this path, I was told that this was what one should do when they accept that they see fat in this way but I later realized that there were way more subsets and categories in this and they are all a part of the same spectrum. We all have our limits. Hell, I went down this path and enjoy all of the fat I grew but I know a group of women in Louisiana who had spouses that they help feed to such a point that these dudes had issues doing everything and that was when I can be fat but not that fat so accept your limits and pay that nonsense that you have to keep going to prove how much of a feedist you are no mind.
4 years
Ditzy:
I caught a lot of guys staring some just smiled and some had a look of disgust but I loved it so I would smile back.
There is nothing like catching folks gawking at our apron.
4 years
Nice to meet you and if you have any questions about any of this then we are all too glad to help.
4 years
I actually had several who wanted this with me but I declined because I have seen the darkest side of this fetish and the practical application of being superobese day to day so I would rather be extended fat than immobile.
4 years
Doctor Reynolds:
Thanks for your response to my last post..... I just can't hide it to myself anymore, it's really sad to be alone all my life without no woman.
DaphneFeedMe:
I highly recommend counseling. It's how I learned to put myself first and figure out all my priorities. When you put yourself first, you will attract others.
I totally concur with Daphne with getting counseling and that is where you learn concepts like being mindful and how to reframe belief structures that keep one in a state of constant rumination.....
4 years
Complicity:
DaphneFeedMe:
He's not happy her tits deflated...sounds like something they should seriously talk through before marrying or they could experience what I did. She's dieting and he doesn't like the results. Communicate! Again, divorce sucks lol
Complicity:
Don't people usually prefer firm/shapely breasts over deflated ones? What's there to talk about, "Honey, the way your breasts look after weight loss isn't as sexy, just wanted to let you know"? If OP were to divorce over saggy tits, that's a totally separate issue from this fetish.
If the complaint was that she was losing weight, period, I'd get the concern, but that wasn't mentioned at all. This is just a matter of a looser, saggier body after weight loss, which generally isn't the ideal preference of nearly anyone, haha. In fact, the whole point of the post is that OP is enjoying being a feedee now as opposed to mutual gaining. Seems to me like OP is perfectly accepting and supportive of their partner's weight loss, and just celebrating the new dynamic!
WideJuan76:
Everyone on this post has a point and I actually had a fiance leave because I was losing the weight so I can see this from all of these vantage points and I agree that all it takes is just to bring it up to your spouse and let the chips fall from there because each person sees this way of life very differently and some are more experienced than others in which some will divorce you for losing weight while other will just see it as a minor thing so it depends.
DaphneFeedMe:
Thanks for the thoughts and sorry to hear you had something similar happen.
You are welcome but I know exactly where you are coming from and those experiences teach you whom to deal with and whom not to deal with when it comes to how we want to live our lives
4 years
Complicity:
DaphneFeedMe:
He's not happy her tits deflated...sounds like something they should seriously talk through before marrying or they could experience what I did. She's dieting and he doesn't like the results. Communicate! Again, divorce sucks lol
Complicity:
Don't people usually prefer firm/shapely breasts over deflated ones? What's there to talk about, "Honey, the way your breasts look after weight loss isn't as sexy, just wanted to let you know"? If OP were to divorce over saggy tits, that's a totally separate issue from this fetish.
If the complaint was that she was losing weight, period, I'd get the concern, but that wasn't mentioned at all. This is just a matter of a looser, saggier body after weight loss, which generally isn't the ideal preference of nearly anyone, haha. In fact, the whole point of the post is that OP is enjoying being a feedee now as opposed to mutual gaining. Seems to me like OP is perfectly accepting and supportive of their partner's weight loss, and just celebrating the new dynamic!
Everyone on this post has a point and I actually had a fiance leave because I was losing the weight so I can see this from all of these vantage points and I agree that all it takes is just to bring it up to your spouse and let the chips fall from there because each person sees this way of life very differently and some are more experienced than others in which some will divorce you for losing weight while other will just see it as a minor thing so it depends.
4 years
Anjou:
My fiancĂ© has been dieting since the New Year. Done 45 lbs on Keto. While not really happy that her tits are deflated so much, I will say that having those pounds plaster on me has been fun. I am over 270 now to her 185 and she LOVES me turning into a fatty. The other day we went to dinner and while drunk she called me her â*** toyâ.
Anyone else go from mutual gaining to being a feedee?
I was introduced to this lifestyle by someone I was dating but I always saw myself wanting to always be fat in my mind and I never thought that I could actually manifest it nor did I ever realize that it had a name and I went from one end of the spectrum to the next and the biggest mind-blower was that some women actually liked it. It took years to convince me that the woman that I was dating did and after that, I was ALL IN
4 years
