What would you do if you got chunky too?

You're missing the point. Stores like the ones you are brought up are so fatphobic that they will label you as too fat for their clothes without you even being fat. So, they cannot be a reliable benchmark for anything.

If you are going to talk about places like H&M and Forever 21, I wouldn't use them as a benchmark for BBW-dom. I'm a thick and curvy woman. I rock a size 12, and I have DD cups. I am too small to wear plus-sized clothing.

Yet I avoid those stores because I know the clothes will be too tight in all the worst places. My thighs are thick, my hips are wide, and I am one flex away from shredding some of those sleeves.

I don't think anyone would categorize me as a BBW.

What stores are you shopping at?

American clothing sizes at the mall are quite diverse these days.

Ignoring stores that specifically cater to plus-sized women like Torrid, you can find clothes for the size 18+ crowd. JCPenny, Belk, Kohl's, and Dillard's have clothes up to size 24. Places like Torrid have up to size 6X.

Well, that's your prerogative. But speaking as a person who's hands are rated E for everyone, sometimes you gotta be strategic about things.

I do know that admin takes reports about offsite harassment seriously. It is better to send them your evidence than to make a random post that will get buried.

You're right on all counts.

Another thing to keep in mind is that a lot of Western cultures increasingly prize individualism overall. What's in it for me? What do I get out of this? And when people decide to socialize, many try to min-max it. In other words, they put in the least effort to get the most results.

To return to the original post, people use AI chatbots, or chatbots in general, for many reasons. The OP used them as a tool for introspection. Putting my feelings on AI aside, OP did this in an act of self-betterment. This isn't a case where anyone is substituting human interaction for a language bot. It is disheartening that this is where the conversation has gone.

Instead of making these kinds of posts, report the behavior. You can do this by either emailing team@fantasyfeeder.com (including screenshots if possible) or going to the profile, clicking the flag, and submitting a report that way.

This is such a self-report.

Something that I've noticed is that you've repeatedly brought up how things have gotten better for women in the dating market, but "certain" men are being left behind.

Let's just call a spade a spade.

Women are being taught that they don't have to settle for a man who will treat them poorly or rely on a man for survival. As such, we are less likely to settle for any old man.

Men from all walks of life are finding long-term partnerships with women. It doesn't matter your age, race, socioeconomic status, lifestyle, etc. - there's a woman who's into that. It might take a bit of patience, but it can be done.

However, if you are out here monologing about how the West is on the decline, and women don't want certain kinds of men, you'll never find someone. That sort of thing is woman-repellent.

When men say stuff like this, women hear, "I'm not happy, so I'll take it out on you. I'm not safe to be around. If you can't fulfill this hyper-specific idea of what I want in a partner, I will make that your problem."

I can't tell you how many times I've encountered a guy I would happily date until he opened his mouth and started talking.

Domme though I am, I will never ever make the mistake of dating an insecure man. That is, as the cool kids say, hell on earth. I did it once, and I regretted it so much. Never again.

It sounds like you aren't talking about struggling to find people who find you attractive. It sounds like you are looking for a relationship.

Is that a fair assumption?

As a female feeder who lives in a culture where women overfeed their husbands and boyfriends, I find this very interesting.

You and I have been on FF for about the same time. I've run into female feeders, mutual gainers, and feedees who prefer bigger men. Sometimes, they even loudly announce it.

I've even seen entire forum threads about feedees who say they prefer me who are bigger because they tend to make better feeders.

With peace and love, are you struggling to find women who are attracted to fat men or are you having issues finding a woman that wants to be in a relationship with you? These are two different struggles with two different solutions.