Stockylove:
Good luck. This is not a situation I would want to be in. But I don't think that will happen to me.

PurpleJade:
Oh it’s not a problem. A few bad apples made it hard to feel comfortable with making my partner gain. Exes that were vulnerable and obsessive, gaining weight solely for me against their own will to feel wanted by me. It made it hard it hard to apply my fetish to anyone but myself.

I’m sure I could be a feeder after all that if the circumstances were all right. I just would rather stick to gaining. My partner may be into it by how they act around my newly found belly, but I trust their judgement to tell me and I won’t be the one to expose it.

And I wanna try different positions, it sometimes feels limiting. I know there is a post with fat positive sex positions but all felt more or less the same but at a slight angle, leg raised, or straight up didn't work for us.

Munchies:
Oof. That sucks. I'm sorry you went through that.

My first feedee was a people-pleaser. It was nice at first. He said that he was dedicated to my pleasure and would do anything he could to fulfill my fantasies. That didn't end well. It turns out that when you put your partner on a pedestal as an object of worship, your relationship goes south fast.

My current partner has a strong sense of self, and I wouldn't have it any other way.

I think the way you are handling your partner's possible fetish is the best way to go about it. Your partner already knows about your kinks. He's more than likely figuring his own out. He'll come to you when he's ready.

Wackaroni:
I just can't imagine keeping things to myself. My parents had an extremely strained relationship because of their sexual incompatibility. It just caused chaos in our house, as they had very different expectations. Both of them felt unfulfilled and unable to satisfy one another, but in the end I guess they were pretty good at the whole financial and material aspect of things.

I just hate having such strong feelings only for me to keep them to myself. I feel like a massive aspect of my fetish or whatever is the desire to please another human being that shares what feels like an alienating interest. I desperately yearn for private intimacy with somebody who just gets me. I am tired of only being able to relate through lifeless screens, and only feeling temporarily but artificially pacified by seeing pixels of somebody that doesn't care about me and doesn't even know I exist.

XFat:
I feel like I cannot compete with the super large stuffings of many people here, but I feel like I've had a good stuffing day so far and wanted to share. Anyone else proud of their successes even if they don't match the feats of other gainers here?

Today I ate:
1 x xl crossaint breakfast sandwich with bacon, sausage and extra cheese
1 x chocolate chip muffin (costco size)
1 x classic glazed donut
1/2 a lumberjack sub (the super big ones from the grocery store)
3 x Shortbread cookies
1 x xl mocha with extra whipped cream
1 x 6 piece nuggets
1 x double cheese burger
1 x med coke
1 x large hot fudge Sunday
1 x large piece of lasagna (approx 5" x 5" x 3"
1 x pint Ben and Jerry's half baked
1 x 500ml coke

I know that's not much for an all day stuffing, but I'm proud of my progress 😊

Stockylove:
Good luck. This is not a situation I would want to be in. But I don't think that will happen to me.

PurpleJade:
Oh it’s not a problem. A few bad apples made it hard to feel comfortable with making my partner gain. Exes that were vulnerable and obsessive, gaining weight solely for me against their own will to feel wanted by me. It made it hard it hard to apply my fetish to anyone but myself.

I’m sure I could be a feeder after all that if the circumstances were all right. I just would rather stick to gaining. My partner may be into it by how they act around my newly found belly, but I trust their judgement to tell me and I won’t be the one to expose it.

And I wanna try different positions, it sometimes feels limiting. I know there is a post with fat positive sex positions but all felt more or less the same but at a slight angle, leg raised, or straight up didn't work for us.

NoMoYoYo:
I am now two weeks into my healthier gain. What a difference. I haven't been perfect, but I have cut out most of the fast food I had been eating and some of the junk too. I've also added some exercise.

Its amazing how quickly I've felt better. I've also noticed my belly becoming much softer.

I will continue this strategy and see where it takes me. I am pretty sure I will not gain any weight this month and thats okay. I'd rather remain fat and be more healthy than to continue the route I was on and get to a point where I had to lose weight again.

Munchies:
Some of that firmness reduction is due to a reduction in inflammation. A lot of junk food causes some level of gastro-intestinal inflammation. When it gets out of your system, much of that inflammation goes away. The same is true for fluid retention.

NoMoYoYo:
Interesting. This is obviously a good thing.

Now I need to find a way to up my calorie intake. Fast food and junk have tons of calories and is super easy to eat. Healthier foods fill me up quicker. I would like to get back up to 3000 calories a day, but am managing low 2000's right now.

My goal of 275lbs is in sight and I would like to get there possibly by the end of the year - about 2lbs a month.

Babyberry:
I've been thinking about gaining with heavy cream, but it turns out that they don't sell it here. Are there alternatives to heavy cream with similar effects to the delayed gain?

NoMoYoYo:
I am now two weeks into my healthier gain. What a difference. I haven't been perfect, but I have cut out most of the fast food I had been eating and some of the junk too. I've also added some exercise.

Its amazing how quickly I've felt better. I've also noticed my belly becoming much softer.

I will continue this strategy and see where it takes me. I am pretty sure I will not gain any weight this month and thats okay. I'd rather remain fat and be more healthy than to continue the route I was on and get to a point where I had to lose weight again.

Stockylove:
I was just wondering if there were a lot of people who admitted to having these fetishes or kinks to their parents, families, friends, or work colleagues. How they reacted. Did they discover it or did you tell them? How do you live this experience?

For my part, no one knows. I simply don't assume it, especially since I have a lot of kinks around gaybears and bellies in general. If I told them all about my weird big weirdo's kinks, they'd be sent to the psychiatric asylum.

MitchHedberg:
I believe this is 100% the best way to achieve subcutaneous fat over visceral fat gains.

People will tell you heavy cream this and that, but it doesn't produce consistent results. The only time-tested consistent method is the sumo wrestler lifestyle.

Munchies:
The reason they say that is because guzzling heavy cream is easier than what sumo wrestlers do. And I know this because every time I suggest it, most people react in disgust.

For those who don't know, it boils down to eating a healthy, high calorie diet and exercise. You don't have to do it exactly the way sumo wrestlers do it. I don't think most can or want to. But if you eat a healthy, high calorie diet and exercise, it's enough.

What happens is the healthy, high calorie diet gives you the nutrition to function and feel great while exercising manages your viceral fat. Since your body burns viceral fat before it burns subcutanous, you can reduce your viceral fat while eating enough to be fluffy.

There are some caveats. You have to keep your calorie intake well above what you burn. For that reason, it's best to do medium to low intensity exercises. Also, if you have a lot of visceral fat, you will not see a significant shift. In my experience as a feeder with a preference for belly heavy men, what usually happens is their round belly gets softer, but there's still a lot of visceral fat under the softness.

MitchHedberg:
I disagree that simply exercising is enough and I say this as someone that has stuck to a clean diet and done consistent "regular exercising" (weight lifting 3 times per week + high intensity cardio ). I still gained plenty of visceral fat in the process.

The key to the Sumo Wrestler success is the intensity and frequency of their exercise.

MitchHedberg:
I believe this is 100% the best way to achieve subcutaneous fat over visceral fat gains.

People will tell you heavy cream this and that, but it doesn't produce consistent results. The only time-tested consistent method is the sumo wrestler lifestyle.

Angelgluttony:
Lately I've been super lonely and just not feeling okay mentally. a lot of my “friends” have told me that I need to try to make friends. Most would think that a 23-year-old would have some sort of social life but honestly I don’t. I’ve been chatting with people and having basic conversation and such but eventually it just dies off. And when I text them every other day it just makes me feel like I’m a bother. of course everyone is busy/ have their own life. But for some odd reason I get offended when seeing them online and actively chatting in groups. I feel like saying that makes me feel narcissistic or selfish. But if I didn’t want to talk to someone, I would tell them. Idk man. And then me being a feedee it gets so boring when I have no one to send pictures and stuff too or talk about things with. I do it for my own pleasure sure but it just gets so depressing when the only time someone messages you is to basically “get off” on “chatting”. I mean I’m not judging but where is the “ Hi how are you?” 😂 does anyone else feel like this?