Fantasy Feeder

Why are people so angry at fat acceptance movements on the internet?

Morbidly A Beast:
I sometimes pretend I’m skinny to fit in, It’s not a behavior I’m proud of at all and I feel like it’s going to bite me in the ass someday but for now I think I’ll just mask up I do slip up sometimes and talk about how much I like to eat. But people can be so vicious

Oh, it's gonna bite you in the ass 200%. But I understand why you're doing it, so I'm not judging.

1 year

Munchies

Why are people so angry at fat acceptance movements on the internet?

BigOke02:
This might be off topic but related, I've wondered myself why the hostility towards fat people on the internet recently...

It's everywhere, especially Instagram. People not necessarily even body positive, feedee or whatever but just average fat people exercising, trying on clothes, talk about stuff, etc but go through the comments... The same worn out "jokes", the same "but your health" trolling, etc.

It makes me wonder why these people hate fat people so... Live and let live, right? I kinda wish scientific studies could be done to figure out why the fuck people are so hostile to fat people.

Munchies:
I've said this elsewhere, but fatphobia is considered the last condoned kind of bigotry. Since society views being fat as a moral failig and a choice, they feel validated to be as cruel as possible.

The internet is a cruel place. If you are marginalized in any way, people will leave hate comments and troll you. But there is a limit to this because if you go after the wrong one or it goes viral enough, the internet will go after you and come for all you hold dear.

With a few exceptions, the internet doesn't have the same level of rage for fatphobia as they do for other other forms of bigotry. So the bullies feel safer to be gross.

Morbidly A Beast:
It’s amazing how even some otherwise progressive people don’t condemn fatphobia, unless the issue is brought up. obviously it’s a less important issue in some aspects but still bigotry non the less.

The ammount of videos you see deriding fat people and body positivity is insane and they all get away with it

Turns out that being progressive doesn't make you a good person.

And I say this as a progressive.

1 year

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Who are the doms and who are the subs?

Smolguy:
Sub feeder, was dom. Realized control in feedist realtionships is messy because its much like liontaming. This is from the perspective of a skinny feeder, large feedee and probably applies to most cases, but there are other edge cases where this doesnt apply for example short feedees and bodybuilder feeders.

Even if we play at it, feedees are ultimately the dominant in a relationship even if they hand the reigns over in the bedroom.

If you weigh a significant amount, you could literally hurt your partner just with your weight. The muscles needed to carry that body are by default going to be stronger than your partners unless they do physical labor or train to be stronger than you in the gym. Thats real power you have over them that you can choose to use. Usually people conflate lack of endurance with lack of strength, so don't be foold just cause you got out of breath. You moved your fat self that your partner couldn't budge.

The feeder is always being subserviant to the feedee outside the bedroom because they have to spend money and time making sure their feedee get enough calories, even if the feedee hands control for play.

The fact is, submission is always a choice, but I think that the negative association with fat influences some peoples decisons about how feedists relationships HAVE to be submissve fat person, dominant skinny person, we all know that the skinny person is in control as long as the fat person tolerates it.

Love that for you. Glad you find such joy in being a sub feeder. But as a domme feeder, I'll have to disagree on feeders always being subserviant.

My partner is my sub in the bedroom, but we are equals outside of it. He's more than twice my weight and is 7 inches taller than me. I'm stacked and jacked, but it's not like I can pick him up like a sack of potatoes.

Still, he treats me like a queen. In the bedroom, he worships me. My pleasure comes before his in all things.

Yes, he has the final say about what he wants done with his body, but that's how it's supposed to be. I'm a sadist, not an abuser.

I don't do submission. Tried it once. Didn't go well. The other guy ended up pinned to the matress in a choke hold, and he was a linebacker.

But when I am in domme-mode, I see myself as a queen. And a good queen takes care of those under her. My partner fully submits to my will because he knows he is safe with me. Tending to his needs isn't inherently submissive or dominate. It's just not being a shitty person.

1 year

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Why are people so angry at fat acceptance movements on the internet?

BigOke02:
This might be off topic but related, I've wondered myself why the hostility towards fat people on the internet recently...

It's everywhere, especially Instagram. People not necessarily even body positive, feedee or whatever but just average fat people exercising, trying on clothes, talk about stuff, etc but go through the comments... The same worn out "jokes", the same "but your health" trolling, etc.

It makes me wonder why these people hate fat people so... Live and let live, right? I kinda wish scientific studies could be done to figure out why the fuck people are so hostile to fat people.

I've said this elsewhere, but fatphobia is considered the last condoned kind of bigotry. Since society views being fat as a moral failig and a choice, they feel validated to be as cruel as possible.

The internet is a cruel place. If you are marginalized in any way, people will leave hate comments and troll you. But there is a limit to this because if you go after the wrong one or it goes viral enough, the internet will go after you and come for all you hold dear.

With a few exceptions, the internet doesn't have the same level of rage for fatphobia as they do for other other forms of bigotry. So the bullies feel safer to be gross.

1 year

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Name a feeling better than this

Hydrogen:
Starting out small at the beginning of the day and slowly stuffing yourself with bigger and bigger meals just to be huge at the end of the day is the best feeling ever. Honestly being full from your favorite food is amazing as well. It’s also fun just to look at the number on the scale go up throughout the day

Nothing real special here, just wanted to share how much I enjoy stuffing

According to my partner, nothing feels quiet as good as an over stuffed belly paired with an adoring feeder and a good orgasm.

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Regretting the gains

FatFalcon:
So I decided to regain again and went back to Grommr. Two encouragers are helping me. But odd kinksters who one of which thinks I should be a punching bag with boxing gloves. The other one is into squashing which I am fine with but I am not really into it unless I want a relationship and discuss it. I have been blocked by two guys who really just set me off. I’m starting to think it’s a mistake to gain with that crowd.

MickRidem:
So, it's not really the gain that's a problem, but the company?

Grommr is an ...interesting place. A lot of hit or miss, and some who are outright disrespectful. Is this something you can just do for yourself? Or wait until you feel more comfortable with the company you find?

FatFalcon:
Basically an environment that is actually better and not just cringe worthy. I have been in an out of that community and to me it’s been really just feels like it’s worse than it’s ever been.

I'm with Mick on this one here. It sounds like you don't have issues gaining, but you want to gain with someone to enjoy it with.

Perfectly understandable. I think most feedees want this.

The think you gotta keep in mind is that Grommer is owned by the same people who own Feabie. So it's no wonder you're having the issues you're having.

I've never been on there (for obvious reasons) but from what I've heard from those on it, Grommer is something of a hell site. Have you looked into other sites like Fetlife? I've heard decent things.

1 year

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Why are people so angry at fat acceptance movements on the internet?

2seatsalways:
If anything I'm for your body you do you, but Ozempic being abused for weight loss instead of mainly diabetes is really tragic. Sure there is mounjaro and a small list of others but ozempic was the leading medication that helped millions of patients.
Now those patients are struggling to get ozempic because it's becoming more available for weight loss than helping blood sugar levels.

Hot take I know but rather this pill be used for people who need it.

Munchies:
Yeah. Plus it's coming out that a decent size of people who are taking this are experiencing permanent side effects.

But that's not about fat exceptance.

PurpleJade:
Curious as to what side effects you’re saying, of listed on webmd all seem standard and pretty expected of a medication. Anything different you’ve heard in particular? My S/O is trying to be approved. I’m not really for it, but that’s not my decision.

In fairness to you, WebMD provides a comprehensive, but not complete list. This is also something that's still developing, so that might be why it's not on there.

There's new evidence that shows some people (not everyone) will experience digestive paralysis due to Ozempic. There's currently a class action lawsuit about it.

lawsuitlegalnews.com/ozempic-lawsuit/stomach-paralysis

It's a rare side effect, but if you end up with it, it may persist even after stopping the medication.

The bulk of Ozempic users won't experience this. But it's a reminder that if you are wanting to slim down and are not severely diabetic, it's worth it to explore other options first.

1 year

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Is it the contrast or the size that counts?

Malvineous:
I'm addressing this to people who say they love contrast. I'm curious as to whether the contrast is actually what most people here are into, or if it's just a preference for a partner of a particular size. Maybe I'm way off base, but I get the impression that with many people who say they love contrast, it's just a way to reframe their physical attractions around a secondary effect that they like.

I suppose what I'm trying to get at is, if you're fat and prefer thin partners for instance, do you prefer thin partners because there's contrast? Or do you enjoy the contrast that happens because of your attraction to thin partners? Would your preference change if you were also thin, or would you still prefer thin people regardless of there being no contrast?

Milhause:
I think this is slightly chicken vs. egg territory because for a lot of ppl, asking them to articulate why they’re attracted to something is difficult. Sure, I can list reasons why I prefer a larger partner but at the end of the day the reason I’m attracted to that body type is simply… because that’s how I’m wired.

I like contrast but there’s definitely a preference involved. I’m not short, but at 5’8” I’m also not super tall. I’ve dated taller women in the past (contrast) but ultimately the attraction wasn’t as strong as when i dated women closer to my height but more plus size.

I suppose it's more like, is contrast incidental or the focal point. I've spoken to a lot of feedists who think the size contrast is hot, but if they ended up a similar size to their partner, it's no big deal. Meanwhile, I've spoken to feedists where the contrast is the whole point.

I know feedists that will do whatever to takes to keep that contrast as much as possible.

1 year

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What are the most helpful advice you received to help you gain weight?

IGotFat0817:
I'm finally back on track with my weight gain journey to 300 lbs. The biggest advice I've come to acknowledge is: to eat even if you are not hungry at all.

As a person who has a fast metabolism (and it's slowing down finally at the age of 31), This is a HUGE advice for me. My appetite has grown because of it, sometimes it gets a lil scary to be able to cram more food in. My mindset is literally shifting to food. Don't eat to live, Live to eat.

I haven't weighed myself yet, but I FEEL fluffier and heavier. 150 lbs was my highest weight, and I miss that feeling. Now it seems like I will move pass that point in no time.

What is an advice you received or researched which helped you cross the threshold into obesity?

Feeder here. I'm not obese myself, but I've helped many people get fat(ter). I think the most important thing you can do is to have fun with it. If you take it too seriously, you'll suck the joy of it is, and you'll struggle with consistency or make yourself sick trying to get past a slump. You'll find more success if you're having fun.

1 year

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Heavy cream

Pigpigpig:
Gonna second cooking with heavy cream, so many delicious things you can make with it! Fettucine alfredo is a personal favorite, my gf adds some to scrambled eggs and it makes their texture really fluffy. If you drink coffee you can also replace half and half/milk with heavy cream.

Personally, I'd never drink it straight up, but it works for some people. I'd rather enjoy myself on the way to getting huge than force it.

Heavy cream is best used as a calorie supplement. When you look at it that way, it's a fun ingredient to add to pretty much anything. It's rich, creamy, and adds a good bump in calories. It's also the way you're supposed to use it anyway.

If you drink it straight up, you run the risk of it upsetting your stomach. Some people are into that, so more power to you. However, it won't last as long. And since heavy cream is kind of expensive anyway, that can but a strain on your grocery budget.

1 year

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