A bit of work-from-home weight gain, and a bit of muscle turned to fat, and suddenly none of my clothes fit and I'm buying a size I wasn't sure I was ever going to allow myself to reach ... with the effect that my fat-lust is running pretty much full time. I'm in my freaking 50s, and I'm as distracted by it all as I was in my 20s. I guess glad to know everything still works, but at the same time it was kind of nice to be able to focus on other things most of the time, lol.

Birth. Seriously, I was 30 pounds at my one year check up, and my memories of childhood are heavily flavored with comments encouraging me to eat moderately. Basically all it takes for me to gain is to take my foot off the brakes for a bit.

It is totally normal, and as already said it is a great outlet for those feelings.

It can also let you explore these feelings in more detail in a safe way. That is there are things that you know you like (the character getting fatter), but there are things around that which maybe you are less sure? For example the character being encouraged to eat beyond being full just to get fatter, or burping a lot, or being teased for getting so fat. When you try writing things like that it can really help you figure out how much those appeal to you.

As a suggestion, don't try to put all your feelings and desires into one character and story. Making yourself write some other short stories or scenes might make it easier not to obsess as much about one character.

To answer the general topic: like a dream come true, truly wonderful.

To the specific questions:

How often do you have sex?
- it varies depending on what else is going on in life, weather, whatever, but generally once or twice a week, with occasional weeks where it doesn't happen.

Do you feel like your relationship is built off love or lust?
- much more on love, but lust definitely still plays a roll

Do they know that you love fatter people?
- she knows that I love her fat, but I never talk about what I find attraction in other people (fat or anything else)

How do they feel about themself?
- She doesn't always love her weight, but there are times she feels pretty hot, and in bed she knows I'm nuts about her and that helps.

What activities do you like to do with them?
- walking, biking, drinking coffee, eating -- walking and biking often involve stops at coffee shops to do the latter two

For me one of the big ones was when I went to pick something up off the floor ... and missed. My lean down to pick it up just didn't get all the way down because my belly was in the way, and I had to change how I did the movement.

For my wife it was the first time I saw her rocking back and forth to gain some momentum prior to standing up from sitting.

My wife was still pretty thin when we met, when she was 19. Over the next six years she steadily gained, totaling about 90 pounds. So she would be the example of someone gaining after high school I guess. But then again, she was dating an FA, who knows what would have happened otherwise.

Second how it gets in the way when looking down. It also makes getting dress shirt collar sizing right difficult, because just like a belly it can really thicken your neck when compressed.

Sometimes if I'm brushing my teeth energetically I'll feel it jiggle some.

Same here. Stretchy 42" waist jeans are uncomfortable to sit in for long anymore. The number of options available drops dramatically when sizing up to 44", so I haven't quite accepted that I need to do that, just yet.

This captures a lot of it for me. But also getting fat feels kind of like coming home. It just feels comforting and 'right' in a way that is hard to describe. Which may not sound 'fun' specifically, but it kind of is, in a lot of small moments over the day.

I think a lot of stress eating comes down to our body and mind's reactions to stress. When I'm stressed I never seem to feel satiated, even when I'm physically full. So the hunger tends to drive me to overeat.

But part of it to is the cravings for the side effects of over eating. There is a heavy, sleepy, feeling that helps the world and its worries melt away, and when really stuffed there is almost a high that comes with it. At least for me.

That latter part maybe you could train yourself to? But the first part sounds like one of those things that is pretty individual and could be a lot harder to change?