I note you're in the UK.

The lack of AC causes a lot of the issues but, having been to the the carribean a few times with my ex who was over 200lbs at 5'0 I can suggest 2 things in the current heat wave: anti chafing cream and silk.

Fabric choice is a big deal, silk prevents rubbing and helps regulate surface moisture on the skin.

Further to these 2, there's the obvious keeping hydrated, balancing your salt intake to accomodate for increased sweating,

Again looking at native Pacific Islanders, carribean and middle eastern communities where female obesity is more normalised, there is a significant amount of acclimatisation that plays a role in easing the discomfort. Unfortunately the UK doesn't seem to be holding on to the heat past tonight (June 2nd) so sadly acclimatisation, which usually takes 15days for athletes and military personnel on tours, is not likely to happen.

I do like very large bodies, but almost conversly, I don't like unhealthy or inactive partners.

Someone who seriously indulges in food and gradually has made themselves very large and plush but maintained good.strength and mobility and is social and likes.to.go out and explore is an ideal.

I mean, I really enjoy feederism as part of my love.of larger bodies but one major part of feederism is the sharing of gastronomic experiences out of the home.

Watching my wife [over]indulge in new places as we travel is something we both enjoy.

In good years that has been walking the streets of new cities with a restaurant guide (gault millau or Michelin usually) in hand visiting 4 to 5 places a day that are recommended. In not so fruitful times it has been exploring bout local cafes or new.parts of town whether in NYC London TLV BCN or Manchester where we have lived in the last 7years.

It's hard to explore when one of you is not in to having a stroll through an occasional city. This can be driven by weight and fitness along with general attitude.

I've had thin partners that aren't go getters, and my largest partner who was just shy of 300lbs at 5'0 was still (somehow) a basketball coach and loved to walk across London stopping regularly at cafes and having a latte and pastry.

I guess, as much as I love the idea of being with a very large partner, mobility is a big issue for me.

In what way is it sabotage? Being dishonest about your preference is toxic, and not being controlling toward a partner by explicitly and supportively freeing and insistent that they follow their own path is not passive aggressive by any definition.

Honesty should never be deemed as passive agression in a healthy relationship and again to state the obvious, and to requote myself if one is lucky (for your own preferences) your partner will when given freedom of choice demonstrate similar choices to you.

The same applies to all areas of a relationship from decor to child care. Being honest but giving absolute freedom.allows for a healthy relationship to thrive as it does not cause either party to be dominant and further to that allows the relationship to either further grow together or apart based on honest principals.

In summary, if both sides are honest then each side can know what is worth staying for, leaving for and if willing, compromising for.

What would be sabotage is not making a partner aware of honest opinions when asked and allowing for subconscious and covert drivers to control the direction of a relationship.

My wife has lost weight a few times. The allure of it always wore off and each time she comes back fatter. Last time she really ballooned fast from her bottom weight of the cycle.

From my experience, letting people have control over their own bodies but being clear with your preferences and feelings throughout usually results in a more comfortable relationship and also brings people round to accepting their body as theirs. If your attraction wanes, don't fake it, but also don't be harsh. If you're lucky, she will realise that she's in control of her body and preferers gaining to dieting.

This idea of kinks often have an appeal. Introducing your kind as something to try might result in a match.

Try not to stigmatize feederism. If you said you wanted to try a bit of light bondage (if you were in to it), say handcuffs, would you be ashamed?

In my case I was just open with my wife and it awakened a hunger in her.

With my ex it didn't. But if you don't try, you'll never know.

What started with feeding my wife strawberries whilst blindfolded in bed has flourished in to her eating doughnuts whilst us being intimate or her overeating as a precursor to intimacy or her wanting me to play with her now overhanging belly in bed.

It all started with honesty and directness.

I'm not too sure. I can think of examples of very rich individuals who aren't from Western Europe or north America. A number of rich Arabs I have had dealings with have clear preferences for fat women and are married to fat wives. I also know of 2 uzbeki Russian oligarchs who love and flaunt their 250lbs+ wives.

In Islamic culture, as there's no alcohol and more modesty in the fashion, food and dining are much more prevalent in social mixing than in other cultures who may go to bars or cocktail parties.

Otherwise I can say that in general there is a pressure to conform to a social norm for most successful people in business.

A "picture perfect" family implies that you can manage your home therefore are more likely to be able to manage your business.

If a CEO or a fund manager has what is seen as an unkept wife and children [which sadly to many people means out of shape and not academically successful] then it emit the idea that they don't have a handle on things and should be trusted less with managing larger businesses.

If you want to look at people who are somewhat richer than others like actors, look at Pierce Brosnan's wife (ex James Bond actor) even after weight loss of 100pounds she's still north of 200 and he looks less happy.

I ascended to mathematics via engineering, who cares about this thing you call "height" :'D

The FA in me intrinsically loves this, the quant in me has to know why?

Oh hell yeah.

My wife has been gaining recently but we don't have a scale. She's outgrown all her pants but the mystery of her current weight is alluring.

Married ffa who's wife and kids live in Ra'anana.

Not come across many people on here. Have a gay friend from TLV who says there's a gay gainer/bhm community in tlv but straight wise seems a little empty.