I'm with the people who like thinner faces. The contrast of a thinner face and an overweight body usually indicates someone who became fat later in life to me. I know that isn't necessarily true. My wife for example was thin most her life and while she gain weight her face didn't change much at all. So that might be why I have that preference.

Finding others attractive is perfectly normal. My wife and I have been together over 22 years. In that time we've never cheated or strayed. Nor have we even wanted to. But, seeing someone else as attractive or sexy is fine. Its about actions. If you don't pursue any of those feelings I don't see how anyone can fault you for having them. I'm sure its fine.

I think there are some aspects of extreme obesity and immobility that are intriguing. I love the Willix remake of Pigs is Pigs. To be one of the women in that comic in that fantasy setting has quite the allure to it. Being forced to be that fat. Having no control.
But, for my wife and I , definetly keeping any extremes in the realm of fantasy. The risks to health and daily activity is far to limited and dangerous for our tastes past about 300lbs give or take. Yes even that size or any size for that matter can have health risks. But we'd rather not push our luck. I feel we can experience all the aspects of gaining, feeding, etc within that size range. While also being able to do all the sa,e things we used to do. A bit slower, of course, but skill able.

Exactly. Better to stick with science and evidence. There is TONS (ha!) Of info on real weight gain on the internet. Becomingoverweight has posted lots of info right here on the forums. Btw, thank you for all that lovely info.

It all really depends. I'm normally underweight and have health issues that make gaining very hard. Its possible. I've done it before and loved it. But stopped because of life getting in the way and lost it pretty fast. For me to gain I have to go insanely hard at it. Like heavy cream everyday. I can't eat much and my illness makes eating painful. I have been on medications that do make it easier at times. So doing that test gain has lots of individual factors at play. Same with how and if you will lose it and how fast.
Also, if it will be noticeable also depends, as people have been saying. I'm not that tall. 5'8" and I'm at the moment underweight. So I notice almost every pound. As do some people I know. Like my mother because she has a bad relationship with food and fat. But noticing it and feeling even small amounts of weight made me want more and more. So it was very motivating. Best of luck!

What do you mean by scammers here? Are they people pretending to be feedees? Lying about gaining and how much? I remember years ago on my previous account meeting people in the chat rooms that would claim to be women who were feeders. Which of course got them lots of attention from others. But then seeing the things they said it seemed they really didn't know much about feeding. Or I'm sure there are those that claim to be feedees. Who ask for money for food. Which of course gaining is very expensive. But these particular people don't seem to really know much about it all. Anyway, just trying to avoid any myself. Since I've been away from the community and scene for a bit.

It could be that maybe you both take a dominant role at times and both less dominant at times. Maybe depending on mood or what you both are doing. My wife and I are kinda the same way. She is more dominant in initiating intimacy. Currently she is much bigger than I am. She is trying to lose maybe a little to stay healthy. As she had quite a bit of unintentional gain recently. While I am trying to get to her size and bigger for the first time in our relationship.
So, for us either one of us can fill the dominant role at times. You both seem to maybe be similar. Just my 2 cents. have fun!

For my wife 250 was always the rough limit. Even though she always hovered around 200. Well, a couple years ago now she started some new medications and ballooned right past that 250 to a little over 300lbs in about a year. Seeing her at that size basically reinforced and increased that limit. 300 was where her daily life started to be affected. Her movement was more limited. Clothing was harder to find, etc. She has since lost some and is around 270. Which seems to work well.
As for myself and my new gaining journey. We've put my limit at around the same 250. But I'm thinking I will go that little bit over. As one of the main parts of my gaining goals is to finally be fatter than she is. So we will have to see how it all goes. I'm just starting out and am an underweight 140ish. Do I go for just weighing more than her? Having a higher bmi? Do I keep staying fatter than her? Can I? She is only 1 inch shorter than I am, and I'm not that tall. Average actually. So I shouldn't need much weight for it to be noticeable. In the end tho I'd say 300 is the max for us both. Give or take a little. Basically
To be as fat as we can, subcutaneous fat as majority if possible for us both. But to avoid major health issues as much as possible too. Happy gaining everyone!

Its no one's business about why you are gaining weight. People whom are friends and family most likely with quesrion whats going on. But as many have said. They don't need to be told that you are gaining on purpose for sexual pleasure. Personally, sexual things are something I only share with my wife or people who have the same or similar interests. Trying to explain kinks, fetishs, and the like to people who don't share them usually just ends up with weird looks. They won't usually understand. Just as we might not understand someone with a sexual preference for something odd or different to us. I say live and let live. People noticing your weight gain is one thing. That usually goes without saying that its gonna happen. Handling that can be done in more ways than I can think of. Many on these forums have given great advice on how to explain that. But, if you really want to tell others you are gaining on purpose, I'd say start off simple. Tell them reasons that they may understand or aren't to extreme or sexual. As then it might get awkward. Just think if you were asking someone why they like some other more extreme fetish or kink. Ok, I'm repeating myself and rambling, lol. Best of luck!

Whenever I'd hear comments about my wife's size I'd straight up tell them that I love how she looks and her size. When it comes to myself I am much more self conscious. My family has always been very anti-fat. While I was chubby as a preteen. I've had health issues for most my life that has kept me underweight for the majority. But, there has been times I've been on medications that caused weight gain. While I'd still get comments about whatever little weight I gained at those times. Usually only enough to get me into a healthy normal weight. I'd mention it was because of the medications and my health is better for it. My wife recently gained quite a lot of weight because of medication too. I'm going back on some of those medications again. Which I'm gonna use as a jumping off point to also intentionally gain as much as I can on top of that. So with the medication excuse it kinda makes me feel less guilty up front about it all. But at the same time I have told family that I'm fine with being bigger. Since most my life I've been unhealthy and underweight. So while I'm an adult and can and will do whatever I want to my own body and it shouldn't be any one else's business. Growing up with such negative views on fat all around me has made the part of intentionally wanting to gain something I think is better not shared with people who don't understand. I have my more "socially acceptable" reasons and excuses for gaining weight because of the medications. Now I just can't wait for it all to happen.