SporksFTW wrote:
Like I say, if you want romanced, you'd better start to like women, or the guys that are regularly stuck in the "Friend Zone."
There are HEAPS of guys out there that would wine and dine the heck out of a woman, but usually they're the ones that get stuck in the "Friend Zone." You know, the ones who get you silly little gifts and are always there when you need a shoulder to cry on after that douchbag guys uses you for sex?
Also, I'm pretty sure the days of wining and dining are over. The economy being bad and all, along with equal rights. Honestly, it's sexist for someone to expect the guy should pay for everything. Dates are for the enjoyment of both people and expenses should be split. Someone goes out with their friends and never pays, what are they? A freeloader. This being said, once I get my boobs, I plan on never paying for another drink or meal again, however, I won't be looking for romance and love, I'll be looking for guys with money who will give it to me. And I'm not even attracted to guys. XD
Dating and attraction is strange. There's pleanty of girls who get "Friend Zoned" by guys too. Why not try dating a friend? After all, your "lover" should be your very best friend, right?
Human courtship is a hot mess. It's pretty funny.
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The "friend zone" is how women get vilified for not being into someone they consider to be a friend. If your goal in being someone's friend is ultimately to court or bed them, then you're doing it very wrong and you're a sleazebag.
If you're someone's friend and they cry on your shoulder when they get dumped by some ***,
there should be no hidden agenda. This is what friends do, they support each other. You don't get jealous of the douchebag for getting with the woman you won't outright try to court. And if you're not being honest about that, then you're a shitty "friend".
If you are sincere in your friendship and you support them- as a friend, not as a potential partner- and that's not reciprocated, then you're getting the short end of the stick. But life isn't like the movies; you're not entitled to the adoration or love of whoever you support through their breakups; you aren't entitled to a single goddam thing just for being a decent person and a good friend to someone else.
And if you believe that women put the "nice guys" in the "friend zone", then you're neither a nice guy nor the friend of any woman you think that about.