I would ask if you are in a relationship now with a larger individual. Large people have been the butt of jokes for a long time. Love and respect is all you can do the rest is on them. It's really hard when they don't love them selves.
As for any new relationships use discretion case by case basis. Slow and steady.

5'7" not far from 240lbs BMI 37.6

33, male, gainer, I was stuffing clothes with anything I could for as far back as I can remember. For a short period of time my attention turned to large women and the wonders of the Internet ( dimensions, the hungry feedee, and hear). I met a woman 7 years ago who likes to cook alot and fatten up her men. I started to get fat, I loved it and now on my own continue.

Oh good golly Mis. Molly, lust dark and deep. Unforgiving dreams and deeds. The tempter has me ball and chain forever in his compound.

If I have a combo upgrade, do the people I message still have limited messages even if I send one to them?

Love her, would be little disappointed if much smaller maybe...

37% got to start somewhere

I was 150-160 size 32 pants till I got married to a women that loved to cook and over feed her men. I gained 60-70 lbs in my marriage 230lb. Now one year later after divorce I'm sill getting fatter on my own. Size 40 pants just fit, willing to bet I am over 240. It would be something to get to 260 this year (2016) 100lbs from where I was.

gainer, definitely gainer with the help of someone else. its not fun alone.

Both!!