Playing guitar and (a bit of) bass; weight lifting; reading and learning: science, history, mythology of different cultures; food and cooking, and of course eating. Lol
1 year
I don’t know if all fat gay men deliberately gain but at least on Grommr there are 10s of 1000s of gay men who are gainers, maintainers, encouragers, admirers, feeders, feedees and every permutation there of. I don’t know what explains this phenomenon but I’m a fat gay guy and love other fat guys. In fact, I’m finding myself upping my fat game, that is, I’m being drawn more and more to wanting to be fatter than I initially aimed for, and finding super chub guys very much more of a turn on than I used to.
1 year
I’m on bupropion, busprione and lamotrigine for bipolar depression; metoprolol for blood pressure; and oxycodone and pregabalin for chronic back pain (failed lumbar fusion surgery).
So yeah, they’re messing with my libido and ability to have an orgasm. And I’ll be straight up honest, this kink/fetish is very erotic and a big turn on for me. I love imagining myself getting and being fatter when I masturbate but achieving orgasm is difficult because of the meds. Even in the shower playing with my fat and my fantasies it can take forever to orgasm and ejaculate. I think this is very common.
1 year
Fat Dreams:
I'll start with one I just learned recently: "executive." I love how it connotes both power and opulence.
Men’s Wearhouse has a line of suits and jackets called “Executive” … for us fat guys. 🤣🤣🤣 Used be referred to as portly.
1 year
I haven’t but I hope at some time I can. I’m trying to learn to c*m by playing with my nips, but no luck yet. I would love to be sitting on traffic, for example, rub my belly and c*m in my skivvies.
1 year
MarshmallowMinotaur:
Ok, I’m sure this isn’t going to be popular but it’s just my opinion since the door was opened …
I’m gay but I mention it only when it’s relevant to the conversation. I’m not a transphobe or any kind of ‘phobe, being a member of a group against which there is still a lot of prejudice and I dare say hatred.
However, though having said I’m gay it’s not my primary attribute. It doesn’t define me. If someone is gay or trans or asexual or whatever orientation or attributes it seems to me that they put that first and foremost.
To be blunt, it’s always an announcement and almost spoiling for an argument. If someone begins a conversation I’m interested in I respond. I really don’t care which letter of LGBTQAP+ they happen to be.
If people don’t respond it’s possibly and probably because they’re not interested in the subject. I think it’s a disservice and insult to people to assume they don’t engage because the original poster is LGBTQAP+ or whatever.
I’m sorry if that’s harsh it’s not my intent but too many people in the LGBTQAP+ group look fir ‘phobes under every rock.
PhoenixChimera:
It is the common factor of every piece of abuse I get-I almost wish they’d choose another attribute to take up arms against, for some variety.
My question is do you make being trans the first thing you mention whether it is pertinent to the subject? To be blunt, do you announce it, are you “in your face” about it? When I first came out gay I made sure to tell everyone. At one point my sister told me in a less-than-tactful way “tone it down, it’s like you’re looking for a fight, no one cares that you’re gay”.
I moderate at very large and active religion and politics forum. We have a number of trans people whom everyone interacts with like they do with anyone else. So my other question is, actually it’s a two part:
1. Do people target you because you’re trans and how do they know?
2. Do people simply not engage with you? Maybe it’s nothing more than people having nothing to say.
I’m not trying to argue or be a doosh, I’m just asking as an “outsider” and disinterested third party.
1 year
I’ve always been insecure about my looks, though tbh I’m not bad looking. I’m short, fat, bald (shaved), and bearded. Think of Jason Alexander with a beard and shaved bald.
Nevertheless there are/were always other guys I wanted to look like. For example, I’d go crazy trying to find a shirt I saw a guy wearing, whom I was turned on by or wanted to look like.
There was a fat Hispanic guy named Hector I worked with at a school. He was a custodian, I was the IT guy. I swear I was in love with him. I’d fantasize about being with him. I still do. He was probably the first fat guy I was attracted to.
I unintentionally started putting on weight. I saw myself in a mirror in a department store and actually liked what I saw. I wavered back and forth about gaining and losing, I went up, I went down, I went up again, down again, rinse and repeat. Now however, I’m on my way up again. I’m 218, 5’5ish”, size 44-46 waist pants. I think about getting to at least 250-260. My fantasy is 300 lbs and size 49-50 pants.
1 year
I’m only lately open about my kinks. I was always embarrassed because I’d think people would laugh and say “What? What a nutcase!”’ But I’m learning that there are a lot of all kinds of kinks and fetishes.
But here are mine…
P*ss… I love drinking mine. I want to drink another guy’s “from the tap”. I take a large cup into the bathroom when I have to pee, fill it and toss it back.
I’d like to try pony play. I think I’d like to be harnessed and bridled.
I have a kink for crisp starched and pressed dress shirts, particularly if they have button down collars. I have no idea why. 🤷🏻♂️ I occasionally wear one just to masturbate. It’s a big turn on. When I see a guy dressed in a shirt like that I usually have to go into a men’s room and crack one off.
1 year
If a person is respectful, interested in and supportive of our kink, and not a troll, imo that person is welcome. I’m on Grommr, which has skinny guys, average guys, even muscle monsters who are admirers, supporters and encouragers. Don’t be shy, jump in.
1 year
Ok, I’m sure this isn’t going to be popular but it’s just my opinion since the door was opened …
I’m gay but I mention it only when it’s relevant to the conversation. I’m not a transphobe or any kind of ‘phobe, being a member of a group against which there is still a lot of prejudice and I dare say hatred.
However, though having said I’m gay it’s not my primary attribute. It doesn’t define me. If someone is gay or trans or asexual or whatever orientation or attributes it seems to me that they put that first and foremost.
To be blunt, it’s always an announcement and almost spoiling for an argument. If someone begins a conversation I’m interested in I respond. I really don’t care which letter of LGBTQAP+ they happen to be.
If people don’t respond it’s possibly and probably because they’re not interested in the subject. I think it’s a disservice and insult to people to assume they don’t engage because the original poster is LGBTQAP+ or whatever.
I’m sorry if that’s harsh it’s not my intent but too many people in the LGBTQAP+ group look fir ‘phobes under every rock.
1 year
