Maybe don't lead with being a virgin. It is what it is, but it's not something to brag about. Never lead with something perceived as negative in most of society.

I'm not saying this to be mean, but never lead with anything negative like that. I would tell you the exact same advice if you lead with something else like "I haven't been on a date in years."

The only thing that will do is invite questions as to why this is, which can lead down a rabbit-hole of other questions you really don't want them to be asking, like "what's wrong with this person?" This could then result in "yeah I'm giving that person a wide berth."

If you want me to delete the thread entirely, please let me know and I'd be happy to do so.

In the meantime, I think this belongs in the personals board.

Realistically? Yes, I made my peace with it well over a decade ago. The bottom line is, the numbers don't favor it, I'm not gonna lie to you.

Also, anytime gaining is involved, at some point that has to end. But I'm assuming you don't want the relationship to end when that happens, I know I don't. This means the relationship has to be built on something else.

It's far, far easier to find someone who's already quite fat and likes eating. While that means you'd miss out on the gaining process, it would have to end anyway. It also means having a life that's already adapted to being fat.

Also, someone said it might be easier or more likely when you give up looking. That's not true. If you do, life will pass you by, and you will die alone. Last time I was on a date, was years ago and I'm not even sure if it really counted. I've made little to no effort since then (why this is, is beyond the scope of this thread), and there have been no dates or prospects since then.

But, that's not why I keep coming back here. I come back here because I like the community, the discussion, the thoughts, and the content that others upload.

This is only a part of me, anyway.

I can almost swear it's more leaky than before, but I don't know what triggers it, so it's hard to give context or more information.

I'm not talking about the leaks around reset which are well known and easy enough to avoid.

On 3 occasions I've seen it happen, many times in a row, not just one random message.

In every case, they appeared to be intended to be PMs. They always ended up one-sided, so it's not both sides of the conversation showing up.

At one point, perhaps the first time I saw this happen, I banned someone for 1 day, thinking it was deliberate and it went on for a good while, annoying the other users. Although the user didn't respond to any of my attempts to reach out and acknowledge it either. I think it was maybe deliberate but I'm not sure now.

The second and third times were acknowledged by the user. No bans needed, and in both cases it stopped, though I'm not sure what those users did. Maybe they reloaded the chat web page?

I'm sorry I don't have more information, or can provide any method through which this can be reproduced reliably.

I can confirm that it's doing nothing, as of this evening, March 27th, '25. No channels/rooms, no user list, 0 available private message threads remaining, etc.

As if the entire backend is frozen, has crashed, or otherwise not running.