Absolutely this. I've been involved in the BDSM Scene most of my adult life, and pretty much all of my partners have been from there. None of them have been feedists, but they've all been fat and open to playing with my fetish, even if they're not open to gaining. We do roleplay, going to buffets (at least before COVID), general talk about how sexy fat is, gentle teasing, etc. (I have to admit, I don't think it would work for me with a partner who was fat and didn't want to be fat. As much as i'm a fatty and a feedist, I'm also a fat admirer and I need my partner to be comfortable with my, well, admiring their fat.)

I've found the more "different" (and accepting of that difference) a person is, the easier it is to get them to understand/accept something like fat admiration or feedism, even if it's not their thing. If someone is, say, a proud geek, well, they're already going against the grain of society, what's one more thing? (This is how I met kinky partners before I got into the BDSM Scene. The kink-geek crossover is HUGE.)

Note: I'm the kind of feedist (mutual gainer) who doesn't actually need my partner to be actively gaining (or me to be actively gaining) for me to get off. I don't know if this would work if I required the actual gains to be happy.

I'm on SSDI (Social Security Disability Insurance, NOT SSI - Supplemental Security Income) due to mental disabilities. I'm happy to answer questions about being on disability, but I can say that extreme obesity alone is definitely NOT enough to get on disability, that they're very clear about that in the documentation. (Sorry, all you folks with King Sized Homer fantasies.)

Also, the amount you get depends on your work history. I had enough work history to receive SSDI. If you don't, and you still qualify as disabled and poor enough, what you get is SSI. People on SSDI get Medicare, people on SSI get Medicaid. (There's some edge cases where you can get both.)

There IS an amount you can work every month (hours and/or money) and still receive SSI or SSDI (in fact, there's even programs to encourage disabled people to try working by giving them better health insurance or by automatically giving them their disability back if they fail) but it's a very complicated formula, and it's even trickier if your work is owning your own business/working for yourself.

So did that discord ever start up? (I remember joining one discord but IDK if that was it and it got weird or something so I left?) Because I, too, am down with getting something like this going. I need more of this in my life.

Let me tell you... going to a running store and having them fit my feet to the right shoes and recommend special insoles has made a HUGE HUGE difference in my mobility & ability to stand. (esp. the insoles) A decent running store won't shame you, will really know their stuff (they'll probably have you walk around barefoot, they may have a special machine that makes like a model of your feet), and while it might cost you $100-$150, this is an investment. (And if you wear out the shoes faster than you can plunk down another grand, you can always re-order the same shoes/insoles online at a fraction of the cost.) A friend of mine who's a runner has been taking me for years... at first I went from being able to stand for an hour or less to being able to stand 3h or more. (I'm bigger now and more out of shape and less mobile, but w/o these shoes & insoles, I don't think I could get around at all.) (Also, running socks are just the BEST. SUPER sweat wicking, they feel SO soft, and they hug your feet in all the right ways.)

Also, I know a lot of people don't wear shoes inside, but you need those insoles for support, so make sure you wear them inside too.

So, yes, I totally recommend going to a running store & having them fit you & find the right pair of shoes+insoles for you! (FWIW, in the Washington DC area, I recommend Fleet Feet Sports, esp. the Kentlands Gaithersburg location. Apparently Fleet Feet is a chain, but that's the location that has always given me excellent customer service.)

I don't really have "wrong" or "right" foods... healthy foods cause it as much as unhealthy foods do. And I don't have heartburn problems anymore because when I got diagnosed with the gallstones, I also got diagnosed with GERD and they put me on omeprazole and I've had zero heartburn for years.

To be fair, I haven't tried to lose weight since then. I've never tried to intentionally lose weight in my entire life.

God, I wish I would have seen this post before I moved away from MD. Best of luck!

Is it for lesbians only or any women who like woman on woman feeding? Because I identify as polysexual queer but would enjoy a place like this. But if it's lesbians only that's cool.

I'm a mutual gainer & I like most genders (and I'm also a BDSM switch), but if we're talking male feedees, I'm only interested if they're dominant & I'm submissive (or we're doing it from a place of equals). I'm very much not into male submission.

So hi! We're out there!

I had my gallbladder out and I'm plus sized. I got gallstones. I gained a bunch of weight after I got it out, but that's because my insurance wouldn't cover its removal, so I had to eat a low fat diet so I wouldn't have gallbladder attacks. I was on it for years until I got insurance that covered its removal. After it was removed, I went back to just eating whatever and gained all the weight back and more. However, I find I do have diarrhea if I don't eat often enough (and if I don't eat enough often enough). It's a pain.

Any other questions, don't hesitate to drop me a private message.

I live in Hampton but am down for driving to Richmond for a public meetup.