Miachu:
Thanks guys 🤍🤍🤍

Munchies:
Anytime. Just focus on loving yourself during this time. Remember that this isn't your fault. You are not unreasonable to expect basic respect from anyone.

Lynne841:
Strange or not you deserve respect, he is entitled to his personal preferences but that doesn't excuse being an ass about your weight. Depending on your height doesn't sound like you've even gained that much yet.

Pure speculation, but societal pressure alone could be causing some feelings of insecurity that he's not sure how to handle. Or won't allow himself to admit, and maybe authentically experience the plus sides to your new curves, causing this hostility.
In the end you need to be true to yourself and what makes you happy, if he is reacting this way now... How will he feel in another 10 20 or even 50 pounds?

Give him some time and space then if he can't have an open honest conversation about his feelings or how you both might reach a compromise... You sadly might need to cut your losses and move on. Best of luck.

LydiaFatOttter:
here the thing you cant fix these now then drop him your weight will effect you for years or even your whole life.

Dating/gf/bf goal is lead to marriage long term. could you marry someone who dislike your body choices. if cute losses now or it will hurt decades later

Enas:
To me it seems like he's in some sort of panic. There is a wide variety of possible causes. If i am to speculate, it can be anything from having a hard time at work, to downright cheating you, thus getting anxious.

I know im a little late to give advice on what to do, but maybe next time you get to talk to him, try to help him be as honest as he can and explain his feelings.

I hope for the best possible outcome to the both of you!

Feederboiii:
I think you may need to factor something else in, with the change to you, there's a strong possibility he's showing interest in somebody else and is trying to push tou into breaking up so he doesn't feel guilty about it.

Munchies:
From where I sit, this sounds extremely toxic and controlling of him. Again, taking the fetish aspect out of it, it sounds like he's being extremely fatphobic. He's got some personal maturing to do, and I don't think you can help him with that.

Unfortunately, it seems you will have to make a choice. Will you lose weight to keep your boyfriend happy? Or will you keep gaining even if that means breaking up?

Miachu:
I all honesty I'm a bit surprised with all this. he's never been like this before, and when I first told him about my fetish he said he was cool with it, because he likes me for me... But clearly somethings changed.

like i don't want to loose weight, I'm the happiest I've ever been since deciding to gain and let go. I've been in this boat before with the possibility of a break up, this being my 3rd rodeo... but this time o thought it would be different than the other 2. I guess I'm just doomed for failed relationship's.... I'm gonna give him some time to think. kinda ended on a sour note earlier with me hanging up.

But your right, I'll need to make a choice soon

Munchies:
He probably meant what he said at the time. But either he didn't expect to lose attraction to you or he didn't appreciate how big you were going to get. It's absolutely tragic, and you deserve better.

I have full faith that you will get to have the love you deserve - a love that doesn't depend on your size. I wish you all the best.

Munchies:
From where I sit, this sounds extremely toxic and controlling of him. Again, taking the fetish aspect out of it, it sounds like he's being extremely fatphobic. He's got some personal maturing to do, and I don't think you can help him with that.

Unfortunately, it seems you will have to make a choice. Will you lose weight to keep your boyfriend happy? Or will you keep gaining even if that means breaking up?