From the BDSM dictionary (www.bdsmgifts.com/bdsm-dictionary/):
"BDSM - A composite acronym for “B&D” (bondage & discipline); “D&S” (dominance & submission); and “S&M” (sadomasochism).
Used to refer to any consensual activities or lifestyles between adults which include some or all of these things.
The term “BDSM” is used in a general sense to describe any situation or practice which includes erotic power exchange, dominance and submission, pain play, bondage, sensation play, or anything related to these."

No M/s relationship is neccessary to be involved in BDSM, trust me on this. Where you seem to be trying to write an informative article here, I thought you'd want to be accurate about what BDSM is.

Um, BDSM refers to bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism and masochism (it's like a portmanteau acronym, I guess.) I've never heard anyone say the SM stands for slave/Master before. That's part of the kink world, but by no means the whole thing. Any of these things can be done seperately or in combination.

I recently went out to see a local musician who I hadn't seen in a year. I was surprised and delighted to find he'd gained a noticeable amount of weight in that time, going from average to chunky with a nice porky little belly. Best of all, he clearly hadn't replaced all his clothes, so he was wearing the tightest pants I have ever seen on a man! You know when someone gets so fat that their pockets gape because their body needs those extra few centimetres of fabric? He had that. I was practically swooning all night, he was so hot!

Ha, I just read that post and thought, "What? When did I say that?"
Anyway, your situation does suck, but look on the bright side - you're lucky that physical attraction makes you come out of your shell. Some of us have to fight an intense fear of people we're attracted to. At least when you do meet those rare women, you'll be able to talk to them.

I don't if this will strike you as useful, but I love love love this piece of writing: kateharding.net/2007/11/27/the-fantasy-of-being-thin/ -and there's lots of good things in the archives on that site for those who want to learn to love their curves, in quite a different from this site, which is also good.

I think using pansexual rather than bisexual is about recognizing that gender is not a binary. I'm pretty sure it does include physical attraction, just not only to folks who id as male and female. Or maybe I'm the one using it wrong?

I agree 100%. Gay is not a bad thing, and I wish people would stop using it as a pejorative.

I love most vampire tales. I love how they can be used as a metaphor for so many things, sex or addiction or sexually transmitted disease or kinkiness... I find it weird how many want to defang their vampires, after all, it's hot because it's risky, isn't it? The sexiness is definitely there in Dracula, even. I know it's a little kinky, but it also seems to be really, really common to find the sight of (onscreen, at least) blood erotic. I wonder why...

I kinda liked the vamps in Being Human, kinda sexy but still, you know, deadly. Even the good one ended up killing a lot of people!

Hope you find the plump lady you are looking for and these words become true in a good way!

(It's weird that the fat Italian mama who cooks all the time and is always urging people to eat is SUCH a cultural stereotype in North America. And The Sopranos was one of the best tv shows I've ever seen for ogling fat men, and it was all about Italian-Americans!)