Ha, I just read that post and thought, "What? When did I say that?"
Anyway, your situation does suck, but look on the bright side - you're lucky that physical attraction makes you come out of your shell. Some of us have to fight an intense fear of people we're attracted to. At least when you do meet those rare women, you'll be able to talk to them.

I don't if this will strike you as useful, but I love love love this piece of writing: kateharding.net/2007/11/27/the-fantasy-of-being-thin/ -and there's lots of good things in the archives on that site for those who want to learn to love their curves, in quite a different from this site, which is also good.

I think using pansexual rather than bisexual is about recognizing that gender is not a binary. I'm pretty sure it does include physical attraction, just not only to folks who id as male and female. Or maybe I'm the one using it wrong?

I agree 100%. Gay is not a bad thing, and I wish people would stop using it as a pejorative.

I love most vampire tales. I love how they can be used as a metaphor for so many things, sex or addiction or sexually transmitted disease or kinkiness... I find it weird how many want to defang their vampires, after all, it's hot because it's risky, isn't it? The sexiness is definitely there in Dracula, even. I know it's a little kinky, but it also seems to be really, really common to find the sight of (onscreen, at least) blood erotic. I wonder why...

I kinda liked the vamps in Being Human, kinda sexy but still, you know, deadly. Even the good one ended up killing a lot of people!

Hope you find the plump lady you are looking for and these words become true in a good way!

(It's weird that the fat Italian mama who cooks all the time and is always urging people to eat is SUCH a cultural stereotype in North America. And The Sopranos was one of the best tv shows I've ever seen for ogling fat men, and it was all about Italian-Americans!)

Sushi like whoa.

I won't say I've become an extrovert, but I did overcome the social anxiety that kept me silent and terrified as a young teen. In those years, I worried constantly about other people judging me and was convinced I was boring and awful. Now, I don't care very much what people think. As for what helped, I'm afraid external validation was key. Meeting people who didn't know me in high school made me feel free, free to express my real self to people who hadn't already judged me harshly. Those new people liked the real me and told me so, and eventually I got comfortable enough to assume that most people won't hate me. And I like myself, too, which is also key.
Forcing yourself to be social is good, sometimes. Fake it 'til you make it.

Nice soft round bum on a guy = A+. Make me want to give it a squeeze, so I say flaunt it
Saggy pants revealing undies, not so much. Makes me think of the time I was sitting on a crowded bus and ended up nearly nose to ass against a young man with nothing on but grey boxers, it was kinda gross... That said, I don't think that style looks worse on guys with a bigger bum, so go for it (if you must.)