C00kie:
Unfortunately, being fat is something visible to everyone you encounter, and you can’t control how they feel about it. Even if people aren’t romantically or sexually interested in you, many still have something to say about fat bodies and not all of it is positive.

The reality is - as a fat person you’re likely to get looks and comments, whether from strangers, friends, or even family. Some may express concern about health, while others use it as an easy way to make a joke at your expense. Sadly, fat people remain easy targets, and in many circles, commenting on larger bodies is still seen as acceptable.

The real question is... how much do you actually care about what random people say or do? Do you really want to let others dictate your existence or your happiness?

TheUltimate323:
Well, I don't really care much about the opinions of random people. I'm mainly referring to the opinions of people close to me, like family and friends.
You know, I've always been at a normal weight, but I have a desire to have a very obese body. Making that change makes me uncomfortable when my family makes comments like, "You need to lose weight," "That's not good," etc.

If a person who has always been overweight gains more weight, it is not surprising, however, if a person who has always been in a normal body weight gains a lot of weight, then yes.

Arame:
Your metabolism or BMR(Basal metabolic rate) is directly influenced by your lean body mass index(how much you weigh minus the body fat). The leaner you are, meaning less body fat you have, the higher your metabolism will be. To slow it down, you need to increase your body fat percentage. One pound of fat is 3,500 calories. So, to gain one pound of fat a week, you need to consume 500 calories above your TDEE (total daily energy expenditure) aka maintenance calories per day to reach 3,500 calories in a 7 day span. Because 3,500 divided by 7 is 500.

By my calculations, you being a male at 5’11, 128lbs. Your BMR should be around 1,593. Assuming that you want to live a sedentary lifestyle, then your TDEE should be around 1,911 calories per day. So, to gain, you should be consuming 2,411 calories a day. Hopefully this helps

SumoSized:
It's called a TDEE calculator and they're invaluable to gaining weight when you have a fast metabolism. I used to think it was impossible because I was just thinking I needed to eat over 2,000 calories a day for the longest time. When in reality I needed to eat another 1,000 calories on top of that to gain weight. It's definitely possible to gain with a fast metabolism if just might take a bit longer and take quite a bit more food

Morbidly A Beast:
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because it implies that they were digging through threads and threads of content
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it just is and it’s kinda spooky.

Enas:
Why is that the case? Spooky because someone got an interest which makes them search through the forums? I really dont think it’s spooky!

LuvsChub04:
Downer is relative. Ive read a ton of calls comments you're not downers. Y'all speak from tru life experience n for 99% of it its refreshing. N ya the OP ha stated that question many a time in my lurking journeys. Its all relative with obesity, some people handle it in some ways some in others. There are never ever two people who handle it the same way.. Yet back on my ramble munchies n a beast are just stating stuff that is tru, sometimes ya dig it other times ya dont.. yet hardy Debbie downers...now I want a lil Debby coffee cake lol