Dreezy:
Wow man, appreciate the reply this great info!

Yea okay, sounds like it might be a bit more challenging than I’d originally planned……

So I’m 20lbs in 3 months might be a more realistic goal? I’m just trying to set real expectations, I wanna enjoy this process.

Also would 20lbs be noticeable? I’m currently 5’6 185lbs so that would put at about 205lbs (which is the heaviest I’ll have ever been btw)

Dreezy:
Is this possible? If so would it be difficult to do? I’m currently 190lbs and would like to be about 220lbs by the end of the year.

Would appreciate info! Especially from experienced gainers!

Thanks!

Delta9:
I don't care if you think it's rude. It's a legit question and perspective that should be considered.
Someone is considering the possibility of regaining weight after an invasive surgery which put enormous stress on someone's body to force weight loss. Having the surgery done was a big and life altering commitment. If it was done for health reasons, I'm sure the benefits were weighed against the costs and it was deemed necessary. So if someone had good enough reasons to put themselves through the surgery, why would those reasons not still be valid for sticking to a diet plan.
People usually end up doing things because it's an easy path, not necessarily because it's what they want. I would say, consider the reasons for doing the surgery in the first place and ask yourself whether they are still valid.
And yes, most people do regain, but it may not be too late for OP to change course.

Eatmorefatgirl:
Hello everyone.
I've been a member for many years. Back in 2017 I had some health problems and elected to have gastric sleeve surgery. Highest weight was 260 and I got down to 180. Fast forward to 2025, post pandemic...life happens and I noticed a few days my bras were fitting weird and clothes were more snug, belly pokes out more. Got on the scale and it's 209. Part of me wants to get back to the gym tomorrow morning and another part says why bother..i work full time and am a full time grad student.I love drinking Pepsi(rely on caffeine to handle long days). I can drink 2 20oz bottles a day
love having treats everyday like the share size M&Ms packs for $2 or a pack of oreos from the gas station that are about 400 cals. Some of the struggle is the money and time spent on the WLS initially and debating i should just indulge now and once I'm done with grad school if I have feelings about making changes I can address then. There is also a degree of rebellion against having to watch what I ate and drink for the initial years after the surgery. It's like I don't want to tell myself no and tell myself have as much as I want. Such a conflict so any advice would be appreciated i realize that the FA in me never left for whatever reason...

Delta9:
So what was the point of having the surgery if you're just going to let yourself go again? Seems like a waste.

Enas:
Yes, i feel like i will never find a girlfriend. I might be in a worse place than you. There is 3 reasons for why that may be.

I have never went out on a date in the past 7 years (i dont go out much, im shy, i can't talk to people i dont know - I went to a fetlife munch recently and i was able to talk with only one woman).

Aside from that i am attracted to intelligence before anything else. In fact its necesary that i trust the intelligence of a woman, in order to want to live with her, etc. And i sense that most people (and by extention, most women - which is who im looking to date) are not intelligent. I might be very sensitive to finding problems in peoples' rationality, but i can't turn this off. It makes me extremely uncomfortable to be in the presense of someone who is using incorrect logic. I've gone through this when i was in a D&D so i have experience of it.

The third reason is this fetish. I wanna have sex too, and my sexuality necesarily involves feedism, so i wouldn't like being with a partner that is not super into this.

I am feeling as if i stand on the outpost of lonelyness.

Or at least that's what i would feel like, if it weren't for the few, wonderful people i consider true friends! :3 Im blessed to have them!

Munchies:
Seeing that this is a fat fetish site, I don't think your size is the issue. Now, I will say there are a LOT of flaky people on this site. It may not have anything to do at all with you. Hard to say.

Munchies:
What have you done thus far to find love?