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Hi There,
Im asking on behalf of my girlfriend, is it possible to gain weight in a 'healthy way' that doesnt impact your cholesterol or blood pressure too negatively and if so what would be the best foods/ways of doing this be?
To give you the full picture. I came out to my partner that I was into this kink about 7 months ago. To my delight she shared my interest in it and feeding has been a feature of the relationship since. She has gained some weight and is now around 220lb (we dont know exactly), is 5'6" and 23 years old. She had a doctors appointment concerning her thyroid last week and after a call back they said that she had some health issues including high cholesterol, obesity and a thyroid that will require medication. She has been told to diet and there is a long list of foods she isnt allowed to eat which includes dairy, sugar, rice, tofu, watermelon, pretty much anything fun.
We both feel bummed out by this and I think it has been abit of a reality check. Obviously this kink is innately unhealthy but having a doctor put it in black and white like this isnt much fun. We would like to keep the feeding and ideally keep gaining weight but that seems at odds with what the doctor is asking and with long term health.
What are other peoples relationships like with feeding and long term health? Is it a concern? Do people ignore it? Are there any work arounds available? Any help would be appreciated, thank you.
You're thinking with your head instead of your hormones, and I love that. Kudos to you.
I do believe there is a safer, albeit slower way to gain that involves maintaining physical activity and healthier food choices. I didn't choose the healthier path, and not to say I have regrets, but there are definitely consequences. You two are thinking about it at the right time rather than 100 pounds down the road. The earlier you are on the journey, the easier it is to change trains and still reach your ultimate destination.
I'm afraid there are no hacks unfortunately. Your path forward is probably going to be bigger quantities or more frequent meals that include lean proteins, healthy fats, and a good portion of green things. She can absolutely indulge, and if stuffing is an interest, it can also be worked in as a periodic treat. Be careful about not making it a daily thing though. A massive appetite and stretched stomach are verrrry hard to reverse. Take it from a 650 pound woman who fights cravings daily, despite health issues.
Final piece of advice-- she needs a doctor she trusts, not one who shames her or pushes her to lose weight as the end-all be-all. No doctor is going to give an outright blessing to obesity, but you do want someone who respects her as a person.
Very best of luck to the two of you.
