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You'll deffo find loads of inspiration in this thread.

Hey LilRascl,

I'm a 20/22 and 5'8" so not far different. The style you described sounds a little like me so here's my two happen'orth in case it helps.

I tend to go for dresses (with reasonably stretchy fabric - not necessarily figure hugging, but something with a bit of give to it) with leggings or really thick opaque tights. In the winter I go for chunky footwear to give it a slight edge, like biker boots or ankle height fringed cowboy boots, and in the summer with sneakers like Converse, or ballet pumps/flip flops. (Basically I can't do heels - too painful!). I layer up with knitwear, particularly cardigans that are longer/drapey in the front and shorter at the back, so I can draw them over my belly if I'm feeling self-conscious, but at the same time they're not swamping me like a giant tent. I really like accessorising with stuff with a gothy/grungy twist like giant black flower brooches, feather fascinator, skull necklace, etc. Maybe even a pillbox hat with a veil if I'm feeling fancy.

As for brands, I'm liking ASOS Curve too, particularly Junarose and Little Mistress dresses. I got these ones all from ASOS recently:

asos.com/Junarose/Junarose-Lace-Insert-T-Shirt-Dress/Prod/pgeproduct.aspx

asos.com//Alice-You/Alice-You-Mono-Print-Scuba-T-Shirt-Dress/Prod/pgeproduct.aspx

which go well with leggings underneath & you can style them up or grunge them down.

I find wrap dresses are completely brilliant if you have big boobs and a big butt, but some kind of vague waist silhouette (despite the belly), because the v-neck shape is super-flattering, shows a bit of nice cleavage, emphasises the waist and then flares out comfortably over the belly/bum area, AND looks ladylike OR you can style it down with sneakers/edgy boots. I have a really nicely shaped one from M&S which is black with polka dots, quite short above the knee so it doesn't look frumpy worn with leggings.

I find tea dresses are also good for the same reason, particularly if they're wrap-style, although I can't quite get with the 40s vibe that it evokes. Wannabe Princess on this site has a completely FABULOUS one with a cupcake print from Lady V of London:

ladyvlondon.com/Black-Cupcake-Print-Estella-Dress/#.VIvMNSgnZnE

OMG they have some left in your size!! Get it!!

For Christmas parties or smarter occasions I went for:

asos.com//Little-Mistress-Plus/Little-Mistress-Wrap-Front-Dress/Prod/pgeproduct.aspx

asos.com//Junarose/Junarose-Cape-Sleeve-Dress/Prod/pgeproduct.aspx

asos.com//Little-Mistress-Plus/Little-Mistress-Plus-Wrap-Front-Sequin-Dress/Prod/pgeproduct.aspx

The cardigan shape I absolutely love is this one from All Saints:
allsaints.com/women/knitwear/allsaints-wasson-pirate-cardigan/

Yes I know, they only go up to a size 14 BUT It fits me fine because it has some stretch. Might depend on how big you are in the upper arms. I have it in 3 different colour ways (they release different ones every so often) and literally it goes with everything. Short in the back so you're not swamped (which is fine if you're ok with your booty - I find it works because if you're relatively proportionate, it will emphasise that you have a waist) and the front can tie, or wrap round (there are poppers on the ends of the long sections) or simply hang like a jacket, in which case it looks quite presentable, smart even. OR I've also found almost exact copies of it by Next etc for a lot cheaper and nearly as good a cut, and in bigger sizes.

There are a bunch of plus size websites posted somewhere on this forum - I'll find the link for you. When I discovered Navabi.com I was so happy! It's a European website, and more expensive/designer than say ASOS, but when you want to buy something really good quality for a special occasion it's brilliant - I don't think there's anything else like it. So often I'd tried to throw money at the issue but found that NO-ONE COULD TAKE MY MONEY because they just don't make a size that fits me (and to be honest I don't consider 20-22-24 that big or unusual these days). So Navabi fills that gap in the market (but come on UK, why can't we do the same?).

Happy shopping and belly-flaunting

I don't read any other kink websites but you might be able to answer your question partially by looking to see if it's male-dominated across lots of different fetishes, not just feederism... if so, then maybe it is because men are more likely to use the interwebz for getting their rocks off than women. Feedism might have just the same percentage of women to men as other kinks?

I haven't finished my 2014 resolution yet.

I'm going to seriously hope it's part of an almighty hot role play and that he's gonna ask me if I've gained, and tell me he's only asking because my belly is really embarrassingly huge these days, make me stand on the scales, pinch and prod my tummy and tell me I've got waaaaay too fat, measure me and write up my stats on a wall chart illustrating how far I am away from any kind of acceptable shape, make me do sit ups and laugh when I can't do more than a few, force me to jog on the (handily sited) treadmill while I huff and puff and get humiliated by how much I wobble [etc, etc]

I agree with Jhale. The oils thing is a complex issue. It's all about complicated science and the types of essential fatty acids, omega-3 and triglycerides. It's also to do with what else is in your diet.

Certain oils can help improve health eg. improve insulin sensitivity, which is good for those of us who may have an increased likelihood of diabetes. But only if you're not eating a terrible diet (eg. lots of carbs, trans-fats, processed food) as well.

There is strong evidence that certain vegetable oils (eg. canola, corn, sunflower) are not good for you at all.

Whereas monosaturated fats (eg avocado, olive oil, most nuts) can be excellent for you. NB. olive oil should not be used in cooking on a high heat as it then become bad for you....

Other good fats are those from fish and flaxseeds (the omega-3 oils).

Many people advocate eating butter if it's organic and from grass-fed cows. It contains the type of tricglycerides that won't raise cholesterol.

Some of the up-to-date information on fats runs entirely contrary to the now-defunct or disproved "received wisdom" (eg that sunflower oil is healthier than butter) and it's scary how many apparently qualified health professionals still peddle this nonsense.

This article explains what I'm trying to say much better: poliquingroup.com/ArticlesMultimedia/Articles/Article/1017/Why_Fat_Is_GREAT_For_You_Seven_Tips_For_Eating_Fat.aspx

Happy healthy gaining x

I guess the good thing is that we seem to have a lot of discounts on online shopping this weekend, so I've managed to do most of my Christmas shopping! Yay!

(even though I don't understand how Black Friday is even a thing in the UK. I'm guessing it's the American equivalent of our Boxing Day sales but they've tried to introduce it over here to give shopping a boost and get people to start their Christmas shopping early?)

There's discounts this weekend on sites like Amazon, House of Fraser, John Lewis (who are price-matching everyone). There's also lots of plus size websites with reductions this weekend, for anyone looking for a Christmas party dress. Have a look on ASOS Curve

I call my fat friends (who are into it - I'm not just gratuitously rude) "the fats" haha. Because it sounds funny. Eg. Fats! 50% off at Domino's! GO GO GO!

I love voluptuouslover's answer to the OP's question! Hot!

I have kind of a similar story only over a longer time-span.

At university aged 19-22 I rowed in eights in a really competitive environment. We rowed 6 days a week (only because of restrictions on using the river on the 7th day, otherwise it would have been 7) and additionally trained "on the land" ie. in the gym, running, swimming, circuits, aerobics etc 5 times a week. So most days I was doing at least 2 or 3 hours' exercise at quite a hard-core level. I would spend most of the day in a one-piece lycra bodysuit with either just a t-shirt or hoodie over it, since the next workout was always just a few hours away. Fitness training then (this was 1989-92) was still in the "aerobics are good for you" phase and lifting weights wasn't as widespread as it is now for women, but we still did one or two weights sessions a week, although it was light weights/high reps.

So at that stage of my life I was pretty fit and slim, although still not as thin as most of my crew members several of whom were (in my view) struggling with eating disorders. The obsessive exercise regime imposed on the team was masking the fact that they were obsessional about exercise and food themselves. I was never like them in that regard (thankfully) and was happy to eat whatever I wanted given we were doing so much exercise, and not worry about it too much, although I was aware that I was (in their eyes) a tad on the chubby side.

In the first year I had arrived at university somewhat unfit but I soon got into pretty good shape. I weighed about 10 stone (140lbs) (I'm 5'9" ) most of which was muscle. In the second year although I carried on doing the same level of sport I started to put on a bit of weight. I kidded myself that a vast quantity of pasta was essential for an athlete, haha! My team mates were watching what they ate whereas I was more cavalier. By the third year I got to around 11.5 stone (161 lbs) and as luck would have it our Rowing Captain (who was a diet fanatic) decided to have a weigh-in with all the girls together. It was totally humiliating as I was by far the heaviest (I know, right?! WTF? They were all so thin! Most were 7-9 stone) and was told in front of everyone that I needed to lose weight "to help boat speed" and go on a diet. To be fair we were the fastest of the college boats and every fraction of a second counted in the races we entered. But eights have tiny people at each end of the boat, and taller, stronger girls like me in the middle (the middle 4 are called "the powerhouse" ). I was comparing myself to the tiny skinny-minnies as well as the taller beanpoles (who were nearer my weight although no-one else was more than 10st) and felt like a heifer.

Also as luck would have it I got glandular fever around that time, was in the sick bay for about 3 weeks and mainly delirious, couldn't eat a thing, and left at around 10.5 stone (147lbs) - to the delight of my Rowing Captain. So ridiculous that serious illness was seen as a godsend! Under pressure from my team mates I avoided putting any of the weight back on as I recovered. I took up coaching other boats on top of the other sports commitments so that added several days a week of cycling up and down a towpath for a few hours, in addition to all the exercise I was already doing. Also I guess coaching was an incentive to stay slim as you lose the moral high ground telling others to work out if you're not seen to be in good shape yourself.

So I left university at around 147lbs, extremely fit, and used to working out 2-3 hours a day, 6 days a week.

Starting a high-pressure career in London and discovering that socialising in the pub for several hours each night was a lot more fun and better stress relief than working out meant I started putting on weight. It wasn't that I didn't want to stay fit, it was just that being transplanted into an environment away from the pressure to be at a physical peak, and away from the convenience of the university facilities meant that I grew lazy. At university everything was right there within 10 mins' walking distance; in London I'd have to get on a bus to get to a horrible public gym (I was too skint to afford a posh one like we'd had on tap at university), I didn't have the pressure/support of a team and races to win, plus exercising was time-consuming when there were now other calls on my time such as earning a living, commuting, and working at my desk or being in the pub (de-stressing from the sheer terror of my job ) most evenings.

So fast forward to 2014 and I've gradually gone up to 17 stone+ (238lbs +), and although I aim to get to the gym twice a week it's not always that frequent.

In the intervening time I've had periods where I've worked out a lot (I spent about 2 years going to the gym about 4 times a week, when I was somewhere around/under 200lbs) and periods where I haven't exercised at all (at various points I gave in to hedonism... and put on a stone or two, haha). Certain things would increase motivation to exercise/watch what I ate, such as being single (before I discovered FF that definitely used to increase my exercise levels!). Events such as being a bridesmaid at an impending wedding would lead to a lot more working out/dieting because dresses had to be fitted into or I didn't want to be "the fat bridesmaid" next to the others. Summer holidays were another reason for crash dieting and increased gym attendance... for a few weeks anyway.

Generally I'm not a natural lover of exercise but have historically been either press-ganged or guilted into it.

It's definitely more difficult to motivate myself the heavier I get because there's no getting around it, exercise is harder once you're fatter. Certain exercise is pretty much off the menu for me now, eg. running, as it's just too exhausting. I have absolutely no idea how people heavier than me continue to run, I'm totally in awe. Body-weight exercises such as squats, step-ups, push-ups etc are all harder now than when I was slimmer (obviously). However lifting/pushing/pulling weights is a relative strength compared to cardio-type exercise so I try to play to my strengths. But being bigger and in less good condition means I get out of puff more easily, sweat more (ugh. I hate sweating) and generally exercise is a lot less comfortable than when I was lighter. I don't think fatter necessarily means you have to be less fit but for me it's worked out that way.

The other major disincentive to working out is that having discovered that there is such thing as feederism and eventually worked out that this is my kink, I've given myself permission psychologically not to have the stupid learned hang-ups about body image. And once you get to that point, a lot of the exercising and working out stuff that other people feel they have to run around doing just looks like misguided vanity. Kudos to you if you're into it and want to look slim and buff, it's a popular body image and there's no doubt that high fitness levels do feel good (although laziness and chocolate feel better, right?). But it's all a question of choices and priorities and mine just don't lie in that area any more, although sometimes I do miss it.

Having said that, I do still think if you're going to be a fatty it's probably not a bad idea to be strong too, just to enable you to live conveniently and without injuries. Unless obviously you're aiming for the whole thrill of being properly out of shape, which believe me, I do understand the pull of

Definitely maybe! I'm an old lady so whichever venue doesn't have loud music - can't be bothered to bring my ear trumpet...