This is a frustrated rant, but I do believe this is a good question.
As I gainer I've never had any experience with a feeder, not in person nor online, so my expectations come from what I see others tell about their own experiences. In a way we're sacrificing our bodies, health, mobility, clothes, furniture, job possibilities and social relations. All for a body size we find desirable, yet also making life harder. Is it unfair to expect a feeder's job has to reflect that sacrifice we make? They face monetary loss, that's true, but if I break up with my partner after he fattened me, he walks away with less money, but with his mobility and health intact, while I have to deal with the downfall of not having access to many jobs, fitting clothes or an outside life.
I say all this because in every conversation I had with a feeder the focus has been on what I have to do, what I have to eat, what I have to buy. Some time ago a feeder said that he would care and fatten me, that we would get a disability pension to expend on my gains. And it clicked, that way he didn't loose anything, but I did. He would gain sexual pleasure from fattening me and taking advantage of what I had, but he wouldn't give anything. I'm giving my body to you, but you won't even reflect that? What is the fairest exchange I can expect from a feeder in this regard? On my current weight and without intentionally gaining I don't expect anything from anyone but the basic respect and dignity as the humans we are, yet if making me fatter is the conversation, can I expect from my feeder that his material input reflects what I'm both giving him and giving up?
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One of the worst aspects about being a fat guy is having to conform with boring, ugly clothes. It's either sports clothes or simple plain clothes without any personality whatsoever. I'm someone who not only likes to feel and look good, but I want my clothes to reflect who I am, but it is impossible. Unless you have money and can afford tailored clothes, the only option left is cheap low quality brands that are bad for the environment and exploit workers.
1 month
I'm a 25 year old gainer (178kg) based in Salamanca, Castilla y León. I'm looking for a male feeder to go on dates and enjoy the kink together, no more than 40 years old. I enjoy a realistic and grounded approach to gaining, but my biggest desire is a extreme dominant feeder set on growing my body to huge proportions.
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When I think of gaining, there's always a part of me wanting to become so big. That I need to become so fat, swollen and round. I also fantasize about being taken by a man and driven to immobility without any choice in the matter, just endless fattening till I burst or become a blob. I even enjoy the concept of death feeding, because the end goal is extreme weight gain. If there are gay extreme feeders around wanting to talk about this, my messages are open.
1 month
Throwing this to the wind, maybe here I'll find my knight in shining armor with a side hustle for fattening gainers. I've never been fed by other in person, and I just want to try it (daily). So fingers crossed, here I am ready to begin my intentional weight gain.
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