Fatgirlbelly:
Ok so as someone who’s been on a GLP-1 for a year, it isn’t what the media makes it out to be.
And before anyone comes for me…
If you’ve seen my profile you’ll know I’ve lost 50lbs and I had to for health reasons. I’m still big, I’m 210lbs. And on the highest dose I’ve fluctuated between 210-215 for months.
So it doesn’t magically make you lose weight. But what it has done for me is help regulate my PCOS, fibromyalgia & pain. Even my skin is better. So a GLP 1 is only as good for weight loss as you’re willing to put into it. The health problems that come with it are people being idiots and losing weight too quickly.
So will fatness disappear as a result of GLP-1s? Almost certainly not. In the same vein that gyms exist - governments haven’t forced us all to go to get “fitter”. Also, gyms and glp1’s are not suitable for everyone.
I hope this adds a bit of balanced context
JN_TumLover56:
Hey you won’t get any judgements from me because I’ve always appreciate your well-thought posts and opinions. And honestly it’s nice to hear from the perspective of someone who’s looking after their wellbeing. I mean THIS is the nuance that I am looking for!
However as for governments, I have heard about the Metabo Law in Japan where there’s a mandatory waistline measurement to keep their obesity rates low. While I don’t think there’s a penalty, I’ve heard some people may or may not be giving a hard time to get them the consultation to lose weight. Here’s hoping that something “strict” like this doesn’t end up taking over western society.
Thank you! I appreciate that. I want to be as open as possible and hope that helps others who may be struggling with conflict too because for a long time, I felt ashamed that I wasn’t being authentic in this space, and although it’s “fantasy” feeder, I think its important we can incorporate it as healthily for our minds and bodies as we can. That way we can enjoy it in a more fulfilling way.
As for the future, I can’t see there being a disappearing act of bigger people without big changes being made in our society. I suppose time will tell
3 weeks
Ok so as someone who’s been on a GLP-1 for a year, it isn’t what the media makes it out to be.
And before anyone comes for me…
If you’ve seen my profile you’ll know I’ve lost 50lbs and I had to for health reasons. I’m still big, I’m 210lbs. And on the highest dose I’ve fluctuated between 210-215 for months.
So it doesn’t magically make you lose weight. But what it has done for me is help regulate my PCOS, fibromyalgia & pain. Even my skin is better. So a GLP 1 is only as good for weight loss as you’re willing to put into it. The health problems that come with it are people being idiots and losing weight too quickly.
So will fatness disappear as a result of GLP-1s? Almost certainly not. In the same vein that gyms exist - governments haven’t forced us all to go to get “fitter”. Also, gyms and glp1’s are not suitable for everyone.
I hope this adds a bit of balanced context
3 weeks
JN_TumLover56:
So here’s my insight based on personal experience with this particular topic.
I have had an interest with bigger ladies since I was in my preteens in which was also the time that I first discovered the Feedism kink as well (but a bit slightly later). There was something that was very erotic about chubbier bellies and deep belly buttons, especially with the fact that there is a thing that some people would actually want to make themselves bigger to achieve such a thing? That lowkey got me hooked into it.
Now I don’t really ever engage with the kink of feeding and weight gain in my dating life anymore as I used to, due to some bad experiences that almost ruined a past relationship of mine (and even within the community itself). Unless of course the potential partner of mine is actually into Feedism as well, really the only thing how it would work. Plus I also have learned the reality that not all bigger people are the biggest eaters as what’s depicted in media and fetish content. However though with my interest in bellies - that’s not changed.
In my dating life now I do bring Feedism up whenever a dater and I talked about sexual interests. But that’s basically it, ultimately it’s up to her if she wants to practice or invest in the weight gain kink. Even if she doesn’t want to do that, I am personally more than happy to embrace her current body/size right now and find other ways to please each other! Even if this means lots and lots of belly rubbing and love!
This is it, isn’t it? it’s finding what works for you and ultimately what you can and can’t compromise on and what you need to live a happy life while sustaining healthy relationships.
I would take some occasionally belly rubs as a starting point 😫
4 weeks
Arne The Viking:
…That which is rare is considered precious. We are unicorns.
I love that. And I will treasure the connection we had as such
4 weeks
SqueeGee:
To the OP - Wishing you all the best as you navigate this! It sounds like you are on to something when you say perhaps there are other, deeper issues outside the kink.[/quote]
Thank you 🙂
And I hope you find some comfort too
4 weeks
Torchcacti:
…I don’t find it worth it to throw it away and try to find that one person whose way of being a feedist matches mine. And I also don’t feel like it makes sense to leave these spaces since I’m always going to come back to try to scratch the itch. So maybe that’s being kind of trapped in terms of sexuality, but 90% of my life is happy. I hope at least that much for everyone here….
Billedmeup:
….a long very happy marriage even after having two kids…..So we keep it a fantasy….get in the mood, then go to bed and we have great sex.
Thank you for your replies, you’ve both touched on things there that have given me a bit of a realisation.
The online connection I had really fulfilled me and “filled in the gaps” so to speak where they are missing in my marriage and life in general. They helped me become a happier more confident person in every day life - friends and family even commented on it. I put that down to both of us finding an outlet for this space that worked for us.
But maybe that connection was highlighting where many of my needs in life are unmet and how important they are to my everyday happiness. They made me feel safe, seen and free to express myself.
Billed - you’ve got a balance there I really envy. Unfortunately, mine and my husband’s drives are completely mismatched and it’s been an issue in forever. It’s more than sex too. This is all stuff being worked out.
So maybe it’s about more than the “kink” in my situation. I need to really look at where to go from here
1 month
So I’ve been drawn to the feedist ways in forever. I suppressed it most of my life resorting to the occasional browse on Dimensions and dropping into, and always eventually out of, FF periodically engaging in pretty surface level interactions with little connection. In “real life” I found a normy in my 20s and eventually got married. I’d never experienced any real life interactions related to this space.
As I’ve gotten older I’ve become more accepting of myself and felt it’s been damaging overall suppressing this side of me for so long. I decided the end of last year to come clean to my husband. It’s not his thing. It was a long shot to expect that. But he has been supportive in me exploring and having fun online with it.
But finding something fulfilling that can meet those needs entirely is another thing. I was lucky enough to experience a beautiful online connection through here with someone who was in a similar situation to me for a short time but unfortunately, circumstances meant it couldn’t continue in the long term. It was something rare and I don’t think I’ll be lucky enough to find it in a way that met me so well, again.
I speak to some lovely people, and have some great interactions, but at the same time this can be a really difficult space to be in frequently, between here and Feabie. Maybe I came back too soon, I don’t know. But I feel drained
I’m feeling stuck in all honesty. What is everyone’s experiences and advice? I don’t know if being in this space is serving me in the same way any more but at the same time, I don’t want to abandon it completely and go back to how things were before. I’ve seen what it can be at its best - but it’s a super high bar that is unrealistic to expect to find easily. It took me 30 years to find the first time around, after all.
1 month
Yeti:
Yeah I don't want to put someone in a situation that they wouldn't want to be in. I live in France currently, it's not really a well known thing here, or at least not that I'm aware of...
Thanks for the advice !
I’ve definitely seen people from France on Feabie so that may be worth a shot.
I hope you find what you’re looking for!
I got with my partner who I kept this part of me a secret from as it was way before I accepted this part of myself, 18 years ago. If you can be honest and have a partner who’s interested in it from day one definitely do that. It can be problematic if not, it’s been difficult for me. I came out to my husband and he doesn’t understand it but I’m lucky he’s fine with me exploring this part of me online, but it’s not the same I imagine as having someone you can experiment in real life with.
Good luck! 🤞
1 month
It’s difficult I know, it’s a difficult fetish in that we have to wear it all day everyday so it’ll inevitably affect those around us.
Balance is key I think and that’ll be different for everyone. I couldn’t stay at 270lbs due to my health and needed to lose weight. I’m 215 now, meant to be losing more but I’ve been stuck around this weight for months for various reasons. But I decided I’m going to have days where I indulge because it’s part of me. Compromising other days with healthier choices or bloating instead with things I know will do that in smaller portions.
Experiment and find a compromise that hopefully works for you.
1 month
I’ve always had slightly younger partners (and for some reason every one has been born in December, but anyway 😂 🤷♀️) despite me having a bit of a thing for the older “daddy” types but I think Pedro Pascal had a point here -
“Daddy is a a state of mind, you know what I’m saying?..”
It’s more about emotional maturity for me that’s the biggest attraction. If they’ve got that soft dom energy then I’m into it ☺️
1 month
