[quote]PlumpChick:
[quote]AskDrFeeder:
Personally I would not want her to get so big that it was crippling.

At the same time, if it's a _bit_ of a struggle climbing stairs or getting up off couches that's pretty cute.

So I guess ideally she'd get big enough that it was a minor inconvenience.

Of course there's always the possibility she'd love gaining so much she wouldn't want to stop at that point. That's actually kind of hot. So even if it wasn't ideally I think we'd cope!

@AskDrFeeder So then you are one of the more extreme feeders. Thanks for your honesty, but this is the attitude I have been afraid of encountering.

AskDrFeeder:
Okay, but I fail to understand your attitude.

If a feedee gets to the point her weight is crippling or threatens to be, and she's unwilling to cut back on the snacks, what's her feeder supposed to do? Drop her like a hot rock? Lock her in the basement and feed her 1000 calories a day?

@AskDrFeeder No one should eat until they are too obese to walk around, use the bathroom by themselves and clean themselves. Feederism is cool but only to a limited extent. You should discourage the feedee if it is reaching the point of being crippling.

[quote]Fatleonkennedy:
Honestly, I want my feedee to be comfortable first and foremost. So if they have a specific goal, I will get them there. If they want something extreme, I will help. If they want to go slow, we'll go slow.
The whole thing is about consent.
Like I tease about bigger more extreme weights but if the feedee isn't into it, I'll respect their wishes.

Id never force fatten a feedee unless they wanted and asked for it.

@Fatleonkennedy I think you are a caring, compassionate and respectful man. There aren't many like you in the world, thanks for answering.

[quote]MakeUMochii:
I'm a rather modest as a feeder, the journey matters a lot more than the destination. The act of indulgence and sharing the deviant taboo is what really does it for me. It's hard to put a number on it but you can play it as you go each month ☺️

@MakeUMochii Thanks for your detailed reply. I agree with you that it's more about the act itself than about gaining the weight.

[quote]AskDrFeeder:
Personally I would not want her to get so big that it was crippling.

At the same time, if it's a _bit_ of a struggle climbing stairs or getting up off couches that's pretty cute.

So I guess ideally she'd get big enough that it was a minor inconvenience.

Of course there's always the possibility she'd love gaining so much she wouldn't want to stop at that point. That's actually kind of hot. So even if it wasn't ideally I think we'd cope!

@AskDrFeeder So then you are one of the more extreme feeders. Thanks for your honesty, but this is the attitude I have been afraid of encountering.

Thanks for your direct and honest answer.

[quote]MutualPl:
My Feedee’s knew that in my most extreme fantasies, they were two or three times heavier than their starting weight. However, I never imposed such a goal on them; I preferred everything to happen naturally. Enjoying our time together and good food. Whenever they had doubts, I tried to reassure them that they didn’t have to worry about their weight and that they could let go and lose control around me.

@MutualPI I think it is a good thing that you did not push your feedees into reaching a specific weight and just let the situation be fun.

[quote]Caloriefree:
My wife and I talk about this a lot. She teases me I want her 1000lbs. She’s been nervous to break 215, I know she likes to graze and we talk about how in the long run she’ll expand naturally due to her diet. If she landed at 300, goodness I’d be done for ha. It’s sexy because it’s her. Sure, we love talking about very big ideas and concepts but we both appreciate and work with reality. She started at 180 or so, her body took to having a few kids and I’ve never encouraged her to diet. She’s seen many a photo I love from TheStudiofa or Luvembig’s collections. Anyways. It’s all balance, it always is. Good luck!

@Caloriefree Thanks for your detailed and sound reply.

[quote]PlumpChick:
I am just wondering how much feeders typically want their feedees to weigh? I have been afraid to explore my fetish partly because I have heard that a lot of feeders are very aggressive and demanding and want to fatten their feedees up to 300 pounds, sometimes even up to 500 or 600 pounds.

Xx Lillith Xx:
There are feeders who are not like this but I do understand this worry.

Remember, it's your body and you're the only one who gets to decide how much you gain and what your limits are.

There will be those out there who won't push you to go further, and if someone does try to do this, you don't have to stay. ❤️

@Xx Lillith Xx Thank you for your well-thought out and and wise reply. I will keep your words in mind.

[quote]Beansy:
However much they want to weigh. Your partner's comfort and agency is always top priority.

@Beansy I am glad to know you think of the other person's well being, however there are many selfish people who don't.

[quote]PrincessPork:
There is a risk that with gaining fetishes there is in theory never an end.

However the progress kink doesn’t always have to be active gaining. It can come from looking at before and after pics or comparing the feeder to how much smaller they were with clothes etc.

Couples should have a conversation and look at similar body shape feedees who have gained. Establish a limit before getting in too deep

@PrincessPork Thank you so much for your advice and opinion.