Glad it went well! Sounds like you just discovered a new activity to incorporate into your relationship fun. :-)
ahots:
Stuffing someone IS really fun...I asked my boyfriend what he thought and though he didn't want to gain weight, he said he wouldn't mind me feeding him. It was cute and romantic, I fed him cake with candles lit etc. I just remained respectful about it (like when and how often he wanted to do it) and he was super open which was awesome. He ended up loving it, and being a feeder at heart, so did I!
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SweetLittleTreat: (think over 100-150 pounds within a year)
That's impressive! That's a pound every two to three days for a year. That would be really fun to watch.
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What about letting her know that her size is yet one more thing you love and enjoy about her, rather than something you overlook or love her in spite of??? Unless that would be too weird for her at this stage? Just curious :-)
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Depends, but generally, you enjoy it! :-)
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frostybossy:
I never said it like that. I just want her to choose either to diet hardcore or be a feedee. Shes been in limbo for 2 years and shes soooo unhappy with her body.im giving her options to make her happy
You know, there might be a different approach needed here. You're applying your logical solution to her emotional "problem".
We guys tend to go into fix-it mode. It's our nature but not always what is actually needed. I suspect it's more than her size or weight alone. She may lose weight and still not like her appearance. She may be in conflict... Perhaps she herself is okay with her size but feels obligated to hate it because society says so.
If you really truly desire her to be happy, and I believe you do, she may need you to understand her. Understand her unhappiness from her emotional perspective, not your logical one. You need to help her see past the surface issues to the deeper ones. If she's that unhappy, why has she not dieted herself? It's not like she's never heard of them.
Open honest safe communication is what I think you two need, where she can talk without being judged or subjected to solutions shes not ready to hear. Of course, sometimes, we do just need a stern kick in the pants to get us going, too. I hope that makes sense and I hope it all works out good for both of you.
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So basically you introduced her to a brand new idea/concept and then gave her an ultimatum. I wouldn't do it that way, but I hope it works out for you and her, in the end. :-)
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johnxyz:
None of the cheerleaders I knew in my high school were snobby or mean. They were all nice and down to earth.
That's nice to hear :-)
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SweetLittleTreat:
Generally though, being around my family is a pretty fat phobic environment even though so many are fat. It sucks.
I wonder how many households create that same atmosphere. Probably a lot, unfortunately. :-(
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kissmythis:
Yeah I definitely felt like that and still do at times. For me though I think it genuinely takes time to find the right person and u never know when that'll be. So just take a breather , stay positive and open minded in time you will find one who understands and accepts/ even is into the lifestyle like you.
Also very true! :-)
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Given that's it's a bit of a lifestyle with sexual overtones in some cases, I think it's just one more area that we have to find someone compatible with - along with all the other ingredients that make up a successful relationship. I would imagine any fetish that spills over into real life will have this problem. People into BDSM probably have it too if one person loves it and someone else doesn't. Two Doms wouldn't be happy together (likely) so they each gotta find a sub. A person with a foot fetish needs to find someone that isn't grossed out by the idea. In some ways, this might narrow the dating pond a little bit but, as is true in most areas of life, the greater the risk, the greater the reward. If you can find a good match who's also into your fetish, it will unlock a whole new dimension of fun and enjoyment not known to those with their eyes still closed to these different worlds.
So, should you be single and enjoy this? For some, the answer may be yes. For others, no. It depends on how significant and necessary this is to you and your enjoyment of life, and how willing you are to hold out for what you truly want. Only your heart can tell you that :-)
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