Why thin to fat?

I've always had an attraction to bigger women. I find thin women beautiful too. But, the fact my wife has gained quite a lot over the years. Which has been amazing.
I also remember that my initial fascination with fat and weight gain started when I was young and was more focused on myself gaining and getting fat. Which I think projected to my wife. Who was thin when we met. I told her my views and she proceeded to let herself go over the years. Much to our enjoyment.
As for myself, I've been underweight for most my life because of health issues. So wanting to gain also comes from getting healthier and having control over something I usually haven't. I think its a contrast and its like body building. But with fat instead of muscle. Having control over yourself and body. Or losing control. So many aspects make the thin to fat journey interesting.
4 years

What could be done to stop so many from leaving the community?

I know for me personally I've come and gone from this site and gaining/feeding in general a few times over the years. I did have a previous account that I forgot the email to or something and had to make this one a year or so ago. I used to be Primal113. I have no idea what happen to that account.
Anyway, the main reason for me is my life situation. My wife and I have had lots of ups and downs in life. Mainly because of my health issues. When struggling in life the last thing on my mind is gaining, weight, fat, etc. But, when things calm down and get better, then here I am. Hopefully this time will be for much longer. That I can actually accomplish something. But, I can't predict the future. I do think many people leave because this fetish/preference/kink often becomes at odds with social stigma. I know for myself it took a long time to come to terms that I loved that my wife was fat and to tell others. Its a whole other thing coming to terms with wanting to gain weight intentionally. I've flip flopped on that many times. Each time I come back around I feel more and more comfortable with it and closer to really living the dream so to speak. Its taken me decades to get to this point. So I'm sure others also take time too. Leaving and rejoining the community many times over the years. Thats my 2 cents anyway. smiley
4 years

Arbitrary goals besides weight? what are yours?

My main goal has always been to catch up to my wife. I'm only about 140lbs and she is 280ish. So I have a long way to go.
But the other main goal that always seems to pop back into my head is to be fat enough where I can't suck in my stomach or hide how fat I've become. The few times I've gained some weight I've usually been able to hide it a bit. Not 100% of course. My wife tries to suck in her stomach and it doesn't change anything how fat she looks.
I've had my battles within myself of wanting to gain and not wanting to. So to surpass those feelings if I'm fat enough that any thoughts to hide it are pointless. I then feel I'd have an excuse to keep gaining and not really have a choice to stop.
Thats my 2 cents. smiley
4 years

Geeky/gamer people, come say hi!

I'm a life long gamer. I'm also into all sorts of things considered geeky. But, I'm also into things that aren't. I've always wanted to try as many things as possible. To not miss out on anything in this one life we have. Ttfn!
4 years

Recently came out as fa to wife

wow! Congrats to you both! smiley
4 years

Faceless photos

Doesn't matter to me. I'm just here to talk to people who have similar likes that I do. I'm guessing if someone is here for dating or forming more intimate relationships when seeing a person's face would be more of a thing. But, I'm sure getting to know someone first then sharing pics of each others face would work too. But, to each their own.
4 years

Recently came out as fa to wife

Congrats on you and your wife's adventure! I came out to my wife years ago. Which she embraced but always hovered around 200lbs. She is also pretty tall for a woman, so I always hoped she would get a bit bigger. Well, I recently got that wish. She started a new medication about 2 years ago. Nothing bad or crazy. But, I guess for some people it can cause severe weight gain. Well, my wife is one of those. She got to a bit over 300lbs at her highest in about a year. Without even changing her eating. It was crazy. But amazing. Nice to see other happy couples enjoying the good life! smiley
4 years

Connecticut

I'm in CT. I'm not really a feeder tho. But it would be nice to just know or talk to people who have similar interests. smiley
4 years

Do you get embarrassed?

Jiggle Junkie:
No embarrassment, but it’s different for me.

I’m eating far better now, but between about 2010 and 2015, i literally lived almost entirely off of bagged potato, corn, and related chips, and piles of manufactured chocolate candy (M&Ms were a big fave), with protein drinks and soups and sometimes ground meats thrown in. This was related to what i had to do at the time to survive after the medical community (orthodox and alternative) gave up on me, until i found better ways. It all relates to severe intestinal issues starting decades ago which almost killed me and required surgery that has basically the same effect as a gastric bypass: removal of a section of my small intestine. I was average-slender before all this, and since then it’s a daily battle to get nutrients into me, more or less taking fat gain off the table.

January & post-Easter: go into Target or wherever and clean out the bagged candy on deep discount sale section—no shame.

Every week: mountains of bagged chip products. On these grocery trips i was usually with my housemate/ex, a mid-sized BBW. There were a number of times she felt the need to clarify “They’re for him. I don’t eat those.” And for the most part, she didn’t.

This was at checkout, where they also tended to ask (esp. me solo) “Having a party?” I don’t recall noticing other customers paying attention to my/our carts/baskets.

Those who inquired tended to regret it, because i’d automatically launch into a very friendly and detailed discussion of my medical issues and why i was eating these things and could not (and still cannot) digest fruits & vegetables unless juiced, etc. etc. Pretty much always their eyes glazed over and they said nothing more.


I have Crohn's disease. Which has made weight gain very hard. I've had multiple surgeries to remove feet of my small intestines. I also cannot eat fruits and vegetables. I am often on prednisone for my disease. As I am again. I often gain from that. This time I hope to intentionally gain too. So hopefully that will work. But its still a great struggle. Gaining is hard! I have a really hard time eating enough. While also hoping it doesn't cause horrid pain. Lets hope it works this time.
4 years

I want to stuff but my appetite says not

I'm starting out again on this weight gain journey. The last time I gained i tried to eat as much as possible to gain as fast as possible. But, normally I don't eat much at all. So I felt awful after eating almost everytime. Especially when I went overboard. Which was almost always.

What I ended up doing was basically keeping myself full as I could. Not to the point of pain. But just on the border of uncomfortably full. I did this pretty much everyday for about 2 weeks, if not a bit longer. I found things like heavy cream and boost or ensure shakes to fill in the gaps between food. After about that 2 weeks or so I remember noticing I no longer felt as "yucky" from being full. I actually found I was hungry more often and could eat much more before getting that "bad" full feeling. Once this happened my weight really started piling on. The eating and gaining almost took a life of their own and just went.

Maybe it was my stomach stretching or getting used to being full. My brain realizing food was in excess and to take advantage of it. Whatever it was, I just had to white knuckle it those first couple weeks and then things really took off. I hope this works again. Since I am starting again to do this. Hope something I said helps. Cheers! smiley
4 years