Milhause:
I was taught the two things you NEVER ask a woman (should be ppl in general tho): their age and their weight.

I guess you need to be more communicative if it’s really that important but for context I’ve been with my partner for almost a decade, and I’ve never known their weight except for one time when a quirk of our schedules and car needs saw me accompanying her to a drs appointment.

Now granted, my spouse knows I’m a FA and that I find her beautiful and she still doesn’t share her weight or flaunt it. Ultimately, it’s up to your partner how comfortable they are. Personally, I don’t need to know some arbitrary number because I value her for who she is, full stop.

Have a chat with your person if it’s something you feel is important. It may not be a big deal but they also may not want to share that info. Gotta respect it either way.

Enas:
I uuuh, i agree and disagree at the same time with this way of thinking.

I understand the social context, especially for women (you *must* be bellow "x" pounds to be accepted by society, otherwise youre gross, etc) but seriously, how come and in what sense is not talking about something a form of respect? This is generaly a conclusion that is reached when the topic is making someone uncomfortable. But that on its own is a good enough reason to talk, not about the topic itself but about the reasons that this is the case! It takes some bravery but isnt it so much better to be able to handle thinking or even talking about something of importance?

My point here is not so much about the conclusion per se, but of the thought (or maybe the non-thought) process whith which that conclusion was approached. I think its not rational. It helps to avoid (dealing with) conflict rather than resolve it for example. And i think a rational approach would be of great utility because there is a lot of trauma that cannot otherwise be adressed and dealt with.

Im saying this, not in the sense that its not bad to ask women (or everyone) about their weight and height, but to point out that this situation where women will become uncomfortable by these things is really *not* okay. Because this uncomfort is a mere symptom of the traumatic patriarchical order of things. Men have long ago defined in this society what a woman (and also a man) should look like, behave, etc, in order to be accepted. There is a fairly new development, which is that in its briliancy this system (instead of realizing this is a very toxic thing to do) has made women doing it too, as if that has some potential other than doubling the toxicity.

Munchies:
It's about boundaries. When someone has a boundary, you do not cross it. Now, in some contexts, if the relationship allows for such closeness, you can have a conversation about that. But seeing as OP has been dating his gf for 4 months, he ain't there.

Milhause:
I was taught the two things you NEVER ask a woman (should be ppl in general tho): their age and their weight.

I guess you need to be more communicative if it’s really that important but for context I’ve been with my partner for almost a decade, and I’ve never known their weight except for one time when a quirk of our schedules and car needs saw me accompanying her to a drs appointment.

Now granted, my spouse knows I’m a FA and that I find her beautiful and she still doesn’t share her weight or flaunt it. Ultimately, it’s up to your partner how comfortable they are. Personally, I don’t need to know some arbitrary number because I value her for who she is, full stop.

Have a chat with your person if it’s something you feel is important. It may not be a big deal but they also may not want to share that info. Gotta respect it either way.

Zlukz:
But training hard will make me lose fat. But I want to be fatter ! 😅

Enas:
What about cycling? 🤔
(asking because i really love cycling!)

Zlukz:
That sport is also one of those that I used to practice and I still love this sport. But I’m starting to be a little plump in my cycling clothes and I have difficulties to do the same distances than the ones I used to ride. Any tips for fat cycling ?

Enas:
OH i dont have any clothes specific for cycling, i just care about the distances i can cover! (I would love to go into a trip in the mountains with my bicycle and potentially other people with theirs too! I just dont wanna polute while having a fun trip! >~

Zlukz:
Would love too but I’m starting to be too fat to do such a thing 😅

Enas:
What about cycling? 🤔
(asking because i really love cycling!)

Zlukz:
That sport is also one of those that I used to practice and I still love this sport. But I’m starting to be a little plump in my cycling clothes and I have difficulties to do the same distances than the ones I used to ride. Any tips for fat cycling ?

Enas:
I actually havent seen any story that experiments with a feeder (Id prefer a female one) that acts in a combination of (or uproach something that feels like) a combination of genuine affection but also genuine.... abuse, of some kind? Like, the feeder actively fattening the feedee against their will.

I tried to write a story like this (you can actually read its first chapter on my profile) and it went into a really interesting direction. What you can do, can be for example, if the feeder is in a group of people that needs something desperately (which in the context of the story justifies the "abuse" towards the feedee, of making them fatten up against their will, but simultaniously the specific person who fattens them up does have empathy towards that person. And so they try to show affection on them that on one hand eases the pain of the abuse but on the other hand works, in some limited degree, as coersion. For example the feeder (especially if theyre a sexy looking woman) could bribe the feedee with intense sexual pleasure if they keep eating and gaining. And i think this could take a genuine form because the abuse isnt simply because the person is abusive, but something external causes them desperation which turns into abuse. The contradiction between the kindness and the abuse can also be a psychological burden of the feeder, that will be torturing them.

The problem with this, which is also what fascinates me the most (yes it does make me horny AF but as a concept, mechanically, it fascinates me a lot) is that it will be difficult to have the abuse being genuine. In the sense that if the feedee comes to want it, from that point on its automatically not abuse.

Im really curious what youll think of that!

Munchies:
It's really emotionally draining to write shit like that. That's why you don't see stories like that.

When you write, you develop a deep connection with what you write. You have to think about it, imagine it, hammer out the details, and revisit details if you are making a longer work.

I don't think you appreciation what a big ask this is. You are asking him to put himself in the mind of an abuser and her victim but make the victim like it. Sure, some people are down to clown, but most are not.

Enas:
I actually havent seen any story that experiments with a feeder (Id prefer a female one) that acts in a combination of (or uproach something that feels like) a combination of genuine affection but also genuine.... abuse, of some kind? Like, the feeder actively fattening the feedee against their will.

I tried to write a story like this (you can actually read its first chapter on my profile) and it went into a really interesting direction. What you can do, can be for example, if the feeder is in a group of people that needs something desperately (which in the context of the story justifies the "abuse" towards the feedee, of making them fatten up against their will, but simultaniously the specific person who fattens them up does have empathy towards that person. And so they try to show affection on them that on one hand eases the pain of the abuse but on the other hand works, in some limited degree, as coersion. For example the feeder (especially if theyre a sexy looking woman) could bribe the feedee with intense sexual pleasure if they keep eating and gaining. And i think this could take a genuine form because the abuse isnt simply because the person is abusive, but something external causes them desperation which turns into abuse. The contradiction between the kindness and the abuse can also be a psychological burden of the feeder, that will be torturing them.

The problem with this, which is also what fascinates me the most (yes it does make me horny AF but as a concept, mechanically, it fascinates me a lot) is that it will be difficult to have the abuse being genuine. In the sense that if the feedee comes to want it, from that point on its automatically not abuse.

Im really curious what youll think of that!

Letters And Numbers:
For current stories, I think you might like Life With Lipidease: fantasyfeeder.com/stories/view

It hits some of those dynamics you're talking about.