Kitsune2:
Seems like on Reddit you will always get unsolicited advice 100%. It's a literal minefield.

Enas:
So, i recently had an experience that made me ask a few questions about uncoliced advices, in general.

What do we actually mean when we categorize some piece of advice as "uncolicited"?

"Advice that was given without being asked for" is the common explanation (or definition?). At the same time, a lot of people view it as something that is *always very undesirable*. I have even come across some post which said that uncoliced advice *is* a boundary violation.

I wanna hear peoples' thoughts on this, and i also wanna share some positives, negatives about it, as well as things that are relevant but not about it.


So what do i think are the positives of uncoliced advice?

It can break one's bubble of ignorance. Basically if you are completely unaware of something (which also means you will never be able to ask about that thing) receiving information about that thing from someone else is one of the very few things that can introduce you to the thing, which is good because that expands one's horizon of knowledge. Thats basically its only positive, but it does have variations (one can simply not keep something in mind when they do some activity, because they have not connected the two, if they are relevant, in their mind) and it has consequences which can be good.

What are the negatives?

It is prone to errors due to an insufficient grounding in reality. The way you give the advice might not be optimally helpfull, or it can be not helpfull at all if you dont understand sufficiently whats up with the other person (to which you want to offer the advice)

And there are also things we, wrongly - in my opinion, associate with unsolicited advice.

Being passive agressive; Yes, you can be passive agressive through giving uncolicited advice, thats about you, not about the act of giving uncolicited advice, in the same way that if you do something bad in some way, what matters when someone judges your action is that you did something *bad*, not the way in which you did it.

Offense; Offense can be justified (if what the offender says *is valid*) or unjustified. You can offend through uncoliced advice but that is about the validity of what you say. Not the act of giving uncoliced advice. With implicit offenses its similar, those are about the validity of what is implied (and there are specific techniques to figure out implicit assumptions that somebody makes)

Being offended; Im putting this as a separate thing because i could not include the element of fragile egos in the previous point. So, how you recieve an offense depends on how competent you are. If a very rational person recieves an offense, they will judge if it is valid or not. If yes, they will know they can improve themself, if not they will know the offender has made a mistake. In either case, they will act acordingly and reasonably. On the other hand, if a person with a fragile ego recieves an offense, they will feel threatened and, usually, lash out. So, thats about the person who recieves the uncoliced advice, not about uncoliced advice.

What do you think?

Morbidly A Beast:
I feel like I could do that for a weekend or something but 2 and a half months of 10,000 calories a day would be pretty brutal, and I’m someone who puts away 3-4k lunches in a sitting. I get pretty painfully stuffed around 8k

Enjoyment factor would lead me to say nope to this but props to feedees who’d go for it

EarlOfNewton:
Here’s a fun idea: a rebrand of the fitness challenge called 75 hard. This challenge normally consists of working out twice a day etc for 75 days straight and if you fail any component you have to restart.

My idea is for a weight gain version:

Rule 1: you have to eat a minimum of 8,000 calories a day.

Rule 2: you have to drink a minimum of 2,000 calories a day (weight gain shakes, alcohol, soda) any drink with a decent chunk of calories

Rule 3: no exercise, and you can only walk a maximum of 2,000 steps a day. This means you’ll need to maximise driving, delivery, use of drive throughs, having partners/friends/family go grab you things etc

Rule 4: spend at least 9 hours a day in bed, not necessarily asleep and doesn’t have to be in one go, but plenty of naps and sleeping on a full stomach assists with weight gain

You have to do this 75 days in a row and if you fail any component you have to restart.

Munchies:
Hmm.

Who is spending 9 hours in bed in this economy every day? Love that for them tho.

With that said, I would not have any feedee of mine do this challenge. (As someone who works out until failure, the 75 Hard Challenge sounds like an ER visit in the making, but that is outside of this kink community."

Instead of eating 8kcal and drinking 2kcal, I would combine these two categories. Make it a minimum of consuming 10kcal. Give them that flexibility to minimize illness. This sounds like a puking session in the making.

Nix the heavily relying on others for all their needs for 75 days. Unless they can afford to be Ubering and Doordashing like that (in this economy?) or have a dedicated feeder, this is just going to piss their loved ones off.

I don't know anyone who is interested in exercise while eating 10kcal + a day, but you need to at least walk around to prevent constipation. This is painfully common if you are regularly overtaxing your belly. And I wouldn't keep that up for 75 days. A month at most. Two and a half months is too much.

Anjou:
My husband used to eat that much and work out 2 hours a day when he was younger and competed in strong man events

Fundingfeeder:
I’ve always wanted a sub so large she physically cannot get off without another persons help.

I love the inherent weight Humiliation paired with the orgasm control.

Fat girls don’t get to cum without permission.

TheDemolitionMann:
I love this type of domination and is not quite represented here enough if you ask me. This would truly be a dream.

Munchies:
That's because toys exist.

TheDemolitionMann:
And your point is?

Munchies:
Simple. Women are more likely to masturbate with toys than men. These toys extend our reach. As such, it takes a lot more for women to get too fat to get off compared to men.

TheDemolitionMann:
Fair points all. I was referring more to the stories that I have been reading tend to not have the mix of BDSM and Feeder/Feedee I am necessarily looking for, which is also fine. And this could be a reason why. I hadn't consider that perspective. Thank you for the enlightenment.

EarlOfNewton:
Here’s a fun idea: a rebrand of the fitness challenge called 75 hard. This challenge normally consists of working out twice a day etc for 75 days straight and if you fail any component you have to restart.

My idea is for a weight gain version:

Rule 1: you have to eat a minimum of 8,000 calories a day.

Rule 2: you have to drink a minimum of 2,000 calories a day (weight gain shakes, alcohol, soda) any drink with a decent chunk of calories

Rule 3: no exercise, and you can only walk a maximum of 2,000 steps a day. This means you’ll need to maximise driving, delivery, use of drive throughs, having partners/friends/family go grab you things etc

Rule 4: spend at least 9 hours a day in bed, not necessarily asleep and doesn’t have to be in one go, but plenty of naps and sleeping on a full stomach assists with weight gain

You have to do this 75 days in a row and if you fail any component you have to restart.

Thiccbell:
I didn't expect to read something so cute today. That's adorable!

Decipher:
About 15 yearsago, I was visiting my regular bar. Always at saturdaynight. I was one of the regulars. At one night I was sitting at the bar, next to a fat girl. Just talking, having a drink together. At one point that night 4 guys (none regulars) came in quite loudly and started calling names at the fat girl next to me. That is where I stoot up and replied to the guys that she was a nice AND BEAUTIFUL girl. Other regulars, were suprised, but choose our side and in the end the 4 bullies left.

The next week, I got questions. Not weird ones, just trying to get to know e better and learning that some guys like blond, others dark hair, some guys like big boobs and others not and also that I'm of those guys who fancy fat women more that skinny women. So at once all the regulars knew about my preference for fat women and they accepted it, maybe not their choice, but it belonged to me.
It happened after that, when on a friday a fat girl came into the bar, I got a message, that I had to come.

Morbidly A Beast:
Part of me wants to be fetishized and lusted over for my body but I feel like the novelty would wear off real quick if everyone became a fat fetishist, been told I’m x despite being fat for a while, why can’t I be an object to sexualize — I totally get how that isn’t everyone’s experience, particularly fat women; but it’s how I feel sometimes as a fat person