Agreed. There is a path that is rarely spoken about and that is that mental transition to accepting that your gluttony has become ravenous. I call it REFRAMING; I had to reframe how I saw myself and what being obese was really like and owning the fact that I now have a new normal. I can't run up the steps anymore because my thighs rub together and I have a hanging gut so I had to become mindful of that. When you get this obese, you only want to be around people who love it as well because now eating, sleeping and gaining become your only obsessions and all you will have energy for because you have zero stamina and eventually acceptance just sets in.

This right here. Once you break past that chubby point to obese that is where your whole mindset shifts.

Yeah, you get it bro. By the time we actual notice how fat we are; we are damn near too far gone to ever lose it. Lol.

Well, the only things that I can tell you are that they kill their men with kindness and there is a reason why these dudes eat themselves into oblivion. Every week we met up and we fat men just chilled out and grazed while our women sipped mimosas and enjoyed themselves. I disappeared from my feabie page two years ago because I was fully-fledged into the life. I had surpassed any weight that I had met before and she wanted more. Eventually, you have to reframe how you see yourself because I was always an athlete and now I had gotten so big that she had to help me get my shirts on and here texts she sent would encourage me more.

I totally concur with this post; there are plenty of female feeders out there. They just don't know anything about the lifestyle. I have always been somewhat athletic but mostly chubby and it was an ex who brought me into it because I always liked bigger women and she was like: "Wouldn't it be cool if we got you fat now ?" I was concerned at first but she helped me through it. But it wasn't until I moved down south did I realize that they are plenty of women who actually prefer fatter men and getting them fatter. I met a woman when I had a part-time gig at Publix who approached me and she had a facebook group based on women who desired fat men so they are out there.

I wholeheartedly concur. And just to add to that, it takes an acute awareness of one's genetic proclivities as well. My family has genetic behavioural patterns that tend to be on the compulsive side and when you add that with how we use food as a soother and in most cases best friend then what tends to happen is that you think that those behaviors are normal so it sends you down a path of just "going through the motions" and you never actually actualize that there are other ways to be and I didn't realize that until I met other SSBHM's down south and so what being obscenely obese day to day was really like.

[quote]Porkie_pies:
One of my hottest fat experiences happened quite a few years ago when I was weighed in front of a group of my wife's female friends. It was hot in retrospect. In the moment I felt a mixture of embarrassment and emasculation.

Let me set the scene. It was myself, my wife and two of her friends. All three of them big girls over 300 lbs. Jed was also there. He was a big guy and very tall at 6'7.

We were drinking and smoking pot. It was a jovial atmosphere. The conversation got around to how tall Jed was and how much he weighed. I think he answered that he weighed more than anyone there. My wife laughed and asked if he was sure. She did this while snickering in my direction.

They kept asking Jed what he weighed but he said he didn't know. The girl whose apartment it was had for whatever reason one of those physicians scales with the numbers at eye level. She had recently lost a lot of weight herself.

At some point she persuaded Jed to get on it. He did and they came out of the bathroom and said he was over the limit. She said "it only goes to 400". He didn't seem too bothered. He just walked out and said "told ya so"

At that point my wife said "your turn baby". I was mortified. I knew I was over 400. What's my excuse? Jed was 6'7, he had some muscle and fat. He was big all over. I was sitting on the couch with my hips and ass taking up nearly two cushions and a pair of tits resting on my larded up gut.

I refused to get up. But they all ganged up on me. Eventually I gave in and I was marched to the bathroom. My wife had her hand on my back pushing me foreword like I had any say in it. Once I got to the bathroom I stood next to the scale. Jessica, my wife's friend, told me to get on. I got on and she moved the lever to balance the scale but it wouldn't. I was too fat for it. My wife said "aww baby" and Jessica said. "We got some big boys here".

At the time I was too embarrassed to enjoy it. But now I think about it all the time.[/quote

I went through something similar but it was my ex telling her friends about how sexing someone with a belly apron is like. Yeah, we are self conscious about it and turned on by it and we feel awkward about it. I say own it. We like to feel self-conscious about how gluttonous we have become.

I had always been an athlete so I had always had that experience and vantage point so I had fat milestones occur and I never paid them any mond because I still saw myself as the athlete. But, it wasn't until I had gone to Walmart and saw folks looking at something on me and I saw myself in the mirror that my gut had hung lower than my shirt and that was when I realized that not only am I fat; I am just past obese.

As I gained, I grew a shelf and it was the sensations that I never expected to have. The fat on me went there first and to feel how both cheeks moved independently as I walked and how it started to resemble two deflated bean bags; I would have never thought that I would like it but women love it even moreso with some of them making jokes about it. Lol.

Such is the very nature of one who projects themselves in a public space like the internet. My side business is as a producer and consultant for a film production company and when you date "the talent" what tends to happens is that most can't quantify how addicted they can get when you have some much attention now that you have put yourself on a platform and you have received an overall positive response from doing that and the options to move onto someone "better" sticks in the back of their mind. Which is why I never date anyone who is in my industry.