LoLbreadplease:
Hah, I'm kind of relieved to hear you compare it to coming out, because that's what it felt like for me too. I had to tell my husband a couple years ago, finally. And while it wasn't easy, I'm ultimately glad I did, because I feel like I'm more true to myself. It wasn't easy with him because he isn't pro fat, but how could I hide this from him forever??

I lightly "came out" to a few friends as well, and no one has been anything but full of love and understanding. Telling my best friend has been the most positive thing. It feels amazing to have someone you know and love to know this about you and how you see yourself and what makes you tick, someone who is willing to see it through your eyes, but also knows and understands everything else about you. I get to be myself with them truly!

I found it difficult to talk to a therapist about it. The pro fetish therapist I talked to didn't know a lot about this and couldn't find a lot of information to educate herself. I didn't find it helpful to talk to her, unfortunately, but that is just my experience with one person. And sometimes it's reassuring to have someone professional to talk to anyway. You might also try a therapist who has experience as a relationship counselor, but mention fetishes early on.

Joej35900:
Preface- I've been lurking on this website for years, but I've never actually interacted with anyone or used any features.

If there are any unwritten or better known rules regarding etiquette/behavior would love to know. (Besides common sense stuff like don't be a creep or an asshole.)

Thanks and lookin forward to shooting the shit on here.

Take Care - Anon.

Munchies:
I mean, if you act like you have common sense, that pretty much covers it.

Don't give internet strangers money.

Don't be an asshole.

Don't be a creep.

Post your personal ads in the personal ad section.

Everything else is written down in the site rules.

Cattastrophe:
God I need to be fatter. I just do. I wanna be massive and I just am so needy for it. My belly hanging down, my boobs bigger and softer and milkier, my ass and thighs filling any seat I sit in. I want my belly to hang over my belt. My ass to struggle into pants. I want to have stretch marks. I want my body to jiggle when I walk and be soft to the touch. I want to close my thigh gap and have my thighs to pop out of ripped jeans. I want my zippers to struggle and I want my bras to be tight. Im just so needy.

Sweetfattie:
I’m on a couple different psych meds. It’s in everyone’s best interest for me to take them as prescribed, and my life is far better without the extreme highs and lows of bipolar disorder. So trust me when I say that you do NOT want to take this stuff unless you have to. The side effects are no joke. I can go into detail if you really want, but honestly it’s kind of depressing when I let myself think about it too much. You should only take mood stabilizers or antipsychotics (the usual suspects in medication induced weight gain) if your mental illness is making you miserable and/or impacting your ability to perform activities of daily living.

Who24:
has anyone else witnessed a relative pack on the pounds? was wondering if anyone wanted to dm or chat about their experience here

C00kie:
Unfortunately, being fat is something visible to everyone you encounter, and you can’t control how they feel about it. Even if people aren’t romantically or sexually interested in you, many still have something to say about fat bodies and not all of it is positive.

The reality is - as a fat person you’re likely to get looks and comments, whether from strangers, friends, or even family. Some may express concern about health, while others use it as an easy way to make a joke at your expense. Sadly, fat people remain easy targets, and in many circles, commenting on larger bodies is still seen as acceptable.

The real question is... how much do you actually care about what random people say or do? Do you really want to let others dictate your existence or your happiness?

TheUltimate323:
Well, I don't really care much about the opinions of random people. I'm mainly referring to the opinions of people close to me, like family and friends.
You know, I've always been at a normal weight, but I have a desire to have a very obese body. Making that change makes me uncomfortable when my family makes comments like, "You need to lose weight," "That's not good," etc.

If a person who has always been overweight gains more weight, it is not surprising, however, if a person who has always been in a normal body weight gains a lot of weight, then yes.

Morbidly A Beast:
I’m not sure how it is in Spain and the situation isn’t the same for everyone but generally assuming your family and friends aren’t evil people praying on your downfall they won’t say a thing and you’re overthinking it.

If you’re worried about it cross the bridge when you get there but for now you have a while until the concern comments come

TheUltimate323:
Here in Spain, it's not like the USA. About 15% of people are obese (BMI 30+). You walk down the street and don't usually see fat people.