After I'd been out of university for about a year I was at a party where someone was taking pictures. I saw a pic of myself sitting down and I had quite a clear gut sticking out in front of me. At the time I was about 190 pounds, 5'8".

Of course I'd feel slim at that size now!

When I started dating my wife, she was of pretty normal weight (a bit soft in the butt and thighs, but you could see her ribs-- just how things distribute on her).

Then she gained 15 pounds the first year we were dating, and the same the next ... she was up about 65 by the time we got married (and wearing plus sizes), and in the end she gained about 90 over six years. It was indeed very hot!

She did lose some after that, but eventually got back around that peak weight again (may even be heavier now, but she hasn't weighed herself in ages, so I'm guessing).

I got married before having access to online spaces like this, or even knowing the terms like feeder or feeder (and generally being pretty naive, it was my first real relationship) My wife is a foodee and a small BBW (now), but not a feeder or FA or generally into fat kink at all.

She was not more than curvy when we met. I didn't quite openly ask about this stuff but hinted at it, and I thought the response -- her enjoying her food and gaining steadily and without complaints as we dated-- meant she shared something of the same feelings. By the time I understood that she didn't I was both hopelessly in love with her and married, so I've learned to deal with my feelings on my own.

In part online fat-kink friendly places help, because I can at least talk about it. ive always given myself permission to fantasize in private, and I've written some fat fiction too. And I enjoy the fat that she does carry and the memory of how much she did gain.

My wife had a similar gain, going from 145 to 235 over the first six years of our relationship (we got married after four years), only resisting the gain in the last couple of years of it. In her case she did then lose close to twenty pounds, but then we had a baby and she put ten back on, and has basically +/- 15 pounds of that weight in the many years since. Basically if she gets much lighter she doesn't feel so bad so stops fighting her appetite as much, and if she gets much bigger she begins to feel uncomfortably fat and gets her habits back in hand. Although with age she has tended more to the high end of that range.

Given that nobody can gain forever, I'm pretty ok with her staying moderately fat but still quite active, and having some minor ups and downs over time.

I like dabbling in it. Not serious enough about it to go public and make waves, but it sure feels comforting on those few occasions when I can slip into femme clothes for a while.

If you are eating heavily and constantly for a while you can also end up carrying close to ten pounds of combined food weight and water retention (more food =more salt generally). I once finished a three day food binge weighing ten pounds heavier than at the start, but a few days later I'd dropped all but two of those extra pounds as my systems cleaned up.

Totally in the let go camp here. Anytime that I'm not actively controlling my weight it starts heading up pretty quickly. Presumably it would plateau eventually but my appetite vs what I let myself eat suggest that there would be quite a way to climb before leveling off.

Part of feels like if obesity were normalized, there would still be people who wanted to become abnormally fat (and people who would be turned on by this).

Imagine a society where nobody blinked an eye at 250 pound women and 300 pound men, noticeably fatter was not so common but not discriminated against. Now imagine that your sexuality drove you to stand out for being fat? How hard and fast might you gain to reach that size?

I mean, honestly beyond a glass, spoon, knife, and fork, what do you really need? People can easily eat faster than they can digest.

That could be the BF's job. Odds are good he'd enjoy that part ;-)