The downsides you mentioned are all things you knew when you decided to gain to 200 pounds. If you accepted them then, you should accept them now. If the food prep is too annoying, just go easy on the gaining...it's not a race.

As far as the guilt goes: There's nothing to feel guilty about. You're a grown man, doing what you chose to do, something that's well within your rights.

Now, if this is less enjoyable than you thought and doesn't seem worth it you can change your mind and stop gaining. Or even lose weight if you want.

But don't feel guilty about it in any event. It's your choice. Anyone who fat-shames you does not deserve your consideration. And don't fat-shame yourself. Feel _proud_ that you have the strength and courage to do what you want despite social taboos!

To be fair, weight change, positive or negative, can be symptomatic of many health problems and can help catch them early.

What many weight-gain stories lack is a story arc. They're like "Mary ate a lot and gained weight. She liked it. So she ate more. And gained more weight. And then she ate even more and gained even more than that."

You can pretty that up with adjectives and metaphors and descriptions and what-not, but it's not much of a story. There's no arc.

My stories always have an arc. Not saying this is the only way to do it, but my stories always start with a slim or average-sized woman. Something or someone causes her to gain a bit of weight--willingly or not. She is conflicted. For various reasons, she partly wants to lose weight or at least stop gaining, but also, for various reasons, she partly wants to gain more.

The bulk of the story is usually her (perhaps with help) working out these conflicts. She finally gets past them and gets fat and lives gluttonously ever after.

What happened is you gave her a license to overeat and she's using it.

Are you at all less conflicted than when you started? Or do you at least enjoy eating more?

On another feedist site--which shall remain nameless--only 43% of the fat people are feedees. I would expect the number to be much lower in the general population, because I wouldn't expect your average non-feedist fat person to be interested in a feedist site. I'm guessing maybe 20% at best.

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It's just hard to figure out how much you need to gain to get over the hump or whether there is a hump until you get there. I think 30 pounds is pretty common. Maybe that's a good question for a new thread...[/quote]

Just added this question to the Gaining sub-forum.

Many feedees are conflicted when they first start, but feel less so after they've gained enough that they're "over the hump". After they gain 30 pounds or so they enjoy gaining more and fear it less and any doubts go away.

Has this happened to you? If so, what was your starting weight and at what weight were you over the hump?

If you have not gotten over the hump, do you expect to? Or hope to?

I think this is the best way.