AskDrFeeder:
That's a good point. As more people--feedist or not--get fat there's less of a stigma about it.
greentrees8733:
I dunno if I’d relate stigma change *directly* to obesity rates. I think stigma change relates more to explicit efforts to reduce stigma, like social movements (eg body positivity, body neutrality). But I think there’s probably a second-hand relationship in that as more people become overweight and obese, more people realize the need to change fatphobia/fat stigma.
Originally, I was trying to link our *perceptions* of what’s normal to rising feedee weights.
Of course, our perception of normal is also heavily influenced by media, including social media.
I guess my speculation is that *our*—as in the feedist community’s—sense of what constitutes being fat or really fat changes with overall rates plus what the community shares, while other people are more influenced by media portrayal.
Again, all of this is speculation
I'm pretty sure all these things are factors that contribute to one another. But yeah, pretty speculative at this point.
3 years
DEAR ABBY: I have a wonderful 31-year-old son who is in a relationship with a lovely young woman. It's likely they'll be married in a year or two. They work hard in their careers and enjoy good food and wine, and I'm happy for them both.
I've noticed, however, that over the last year my son has steadily put on weight and is having some trouble with his complexion. I'm concerned that he has acquired the habit of overindulging himself and that, over time, he will continue gaining weight and drinking too much. His girlfriend looks great -- she manages her weight very well.
I know my observations will be unwelcome, so I don't share them with him. I think it's the right choice, but it's really hard to hold back. We do discuss health in general, as it's a mutual interest, but that's as far as it goes. His father passed away a few years ago, so, sadly, he's not around to share my concerns with. What should I do? -- TREADING LIGHTLY IN NEW HAMPSHIRE
DEAR TREADING LIGHTLY: You are a caring parent. But your son is well into adulthood, and I don't think involving yourself in his weight problem would be well received. Many people (of both sexes) have put on weight over the last two years as a result of the pandemic. Because of that, you could encourage him to get a physical. If you do, his doctor might talk to him about his weight gain.
3 years
AskDrFeeder:
For those of you who are gaining, what percent of your diet is junk food?
CuriousAmy13:
Junk food is great for easy calories.
Absolutely! I'm not judging, just curious.
3 years
To some extent, I think it might also be that young people are less interested in being in relationships. It's harder to find a relationship if you're fat, but if you're not looking for one you have license to get fat.
3 years
For me it's any scenario where I play the hero help a woman who has always been too conflicted about gaining to actually do it. I help her get over her obstacles, she gets fat, loves it, and is eternally grateful.
3 years
For those of you who are gaining, what percent of your diet is junk food?
3 years
Bigwideland:
I am intrigued by how many born in the late 1990's on the site are more that 400. Maybe it is just because of social media that I did not have in my teens. Or are more people getting way bigger at younger ages. And if so why? Discussion?
There are certainly more 400-pound people on-line but I don't know if it's because there are more people that size or if it's that they share pics more. Probably both.
I do think the attitude has changed among young people. Any kind of body/gender/racial/ethnic shaming is taboo these days so there's less social stigma about being fat. It also seems to me that people who want to gain are less conflicted about it and more likely to jump in with both feet as soon as they get the opportunity or the desire.
3 years
CuriousAmy13:
I am still making progress to my goal, but I keep moving up my goal as I progress.
This has got to be the feedist version of Zeno's Paradox.
3 years
I realized I should add a fourth category. The newest version of the question is:
Some people who decide to gain end up
1. gaining about what they planned;
But others end up gaining more than that, either because:
2. They get so used to eating a lot that they can't cut back;
3. They find that their original target weight wasn't big enough.
4. They enjoy eating a lot more than they expected and they don't _want_ to cut back;
If you're in group 2, 3, or 4: how much bigger did you get than you initially planned?
3 years
Bicepsual:
Having her pick out the snacks is a bigger plus. It's more top of mind when they made the decision and planted that seed of anticipation in themselves.
This is brilliant.
Other points: Make sure there are at least two or three days worth of snacks on hand. Don't wait until she finishes all of them. And make sure YOU don't eat HER snacks. That way you can keep track of what she actually eats and buy more of whatever she goes through fastest. At the same time, make sure to also get new things that she hasn't tried before. Variety is the spice of life. And of gluttony.
3 years
