this was my experience... i posted elsewhere on "the point of no return" where i couldn't even lose the weight when i tried, and i was just gaining involuntarily.

looking back though, i am in the happiest place i have ever been, so no regrets yet!

i have sort of had this experience.... after being a feeder forever, i met a girl (now my ex) who was already a ssbbw and didn't want to gain.

after awhile i think her habits kind of rubbed off on me, and i started to gain. i did gain a bunch of weight when we were together, but when we parted she was still easily 200 lbs heavier than me.

we have stayed in touch, although we live in different cities and she has a new bf... i have a new gf... but she has lost a bunch of weight, while i have continued to gain.

tbh i am very curious how far her weight loss will continue. her bf is in great shape (kind of like i was when i met her, lol)

all of the chocolate! all of it!

i have talked to a couple of big men who could achieve this, even "hands free," but i think it is rare. most cannot. my fupa pretty much has buried my penis, even when hard, but i cannot. as ssbhmjoe said, it is easier to lie on my side and wank.

bidets are very uncommon in north america, but i have been reading about them for awhile now. i don't have issues wiping, but bidets seem to offer a better sanitary solution in general.

this is soooooo true.

guys, if you keep having unsatisfying interactions with others over and over again, it's probably not them - it's you. so take a moment and examine: who are you interacting with? how do you interact with them? how do you think they perceive that? mentally step into their shoes and see if from their perspective.

there is something like that here, if you go to someone's profile and look at the "gainers."

i have not used it, but i know a bunch of users here have tracked their gains that way.

it's so different for everyone. i put on more than 100 lbs and it didn't change my face in a significant way. it's been looking fuller more recently, and the double chin eventually arrived, lol.

it's not real life, but the same rules apply for the most part.

if you are going to message someone, or approach people them in chat, remember that your first impression is just as important online as it is in the physical world.

people come into the chat room all the time and make an inane comment to "bait" some kind of fat chat. from people. i ignore them, i think most of us in chat do. just like real life, you have to read the room - who is your audience.

i think most of us appreciate compliments on our appearance, but we also are more than just fat people or feeders, etc. there's a lot more than just the fetish if you want to make a personal connection, and i find that some people who log on here with a single-minded focus on the fetish often run out of things to chat about, honestly.

ok, i looked at your profile and your activity on the site... and i will throw in my two cents for what it is worth.

any place (online community or otherwise) will give you what you put into it.

if you want to be casually interactive, not invest too much, don't expect much in return.

i have made real friendships and real connections here. but it takes time, and you know, you actually have to meet people on their terms and give them a little rope, too.

if you want to come back in a couple years, i don't think you'll have any better luck - it's not the site, it's not the community that is going to change.

look to your own approach - what are you trying to get out of it. if you want to be an anonymous person who post impersonal pictures of food, you're not going to connect with anyone that way, now or in the future.